I have been talking to a guy from an online dating site for 2 weeks. I have gotten to know him pretty well and have checked him out and all. He seems like a nice guy and all but since he is a salesman, he is a little agressive. Not is a bad way but in the normal way salespeople are. We know were each other works and I know where he lives and all. He is active in church and all. He said he is going to stop by my job today to meet me and place an order. I am not comfortable with this but can't really stop him. I work in a busy customer service area and have no time to visit anyone. I will be able to take his order like any other customer but probably won't have time to chat. I also am not at my best at work and I always like to make a good first impression. I wear a uniform that is very unflattering to me and doesn't fit right and I have to take lunch an hour after I get there so I end up working 6 hours straight with no break and no opportunity to touch up makeup or anything.
2007-02-12 02:40:26 · 7 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My hair tends to get messed up and I can't do much about it. I don't like having to look all stressed out and having my makeup fading when I meet someone.
It also bothers me that he is going to get to meet me and decide if he wants to go out with me without even buying me a cup of coffee. I am always nervous when I meet someone new but I try to thank of it as just a pleasant coffee meeting with someone new. I am not to excited about meeting someone the first time while I am busy doing 5 things at work. If I actually met someone at work that would be different, but to meet someone online and have the first meeting at work just bothers me. How can I make a good impression when I really can't spend any time talking to this person other than to take his order? I am always very busy and can't even really say hi to my mom when she comes in the store. Plus we aren't supposed to have people coming to visit us during work.
2007-02-12 02:44:27 · update #1
I wouldn't worry about it too much. You seem like a sweet girl. Just be yourself and things will work out fine. What's meant to be will be. Just explain things to him when he gets there and ask him to meet you another time that isn't quite as hectic. If he doesn't understand that, maybe it's not a good thing.
2007-02-12 02:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by army_leads_the_way 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's a professional, he should respect your workplace and your job. He should *not* be interfering with you during business hours. If he does that, he's risking your employment when you barely even know him!
Don't worry about touching up makeup, or your uniform, or about the fact that you can't chat with him if he does show up. Tell him that you're not comfortable with him showing up at your workplace -- but if he does, treat him like any other customer. Tell him you're at work and if he wants to contact you later, he knows where to find you.
If he can't respect your boundaries on something as important as your job... 's not a good sign.
2007-02-12 10:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake to let him without you blunt to him. If you don't want to see him at work, all you have to speak up at him that its wrong time and place for him stop by. IF you didn't, too bad for you, you let him. Since you said he is aggresive, sounds like you are very passive. If it is too late for you to contact him, simple write a note and hold it, if he came and stop by, while you are busy, give him the note and ignore him. You should write note: "Hey sorry i think its wrong time for you to stop by and i am too busy to focus on you, i need to complete my work, thank you and contact me later" whatever you rather to write. Job is always important in the world and you can't let him stop you. good luck.
2007-02-12 10:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while not perfect (you are not able to make the first impression you want to) it is an excellent way to meet ---- it is safe you can meet in controlled circumstances and im sure he will think you are wonderful however you appear at work --- think of it this way he sees you at your worst --- so when you look your best you will knock his socks off --- have fun and my best wishes to you both
2007-02-12 10:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure u can quickly nip round the back to put some on if you need too, and the fings u dnt like some boys do like... e.g. a nurse outfit women dnt find that attractive but men do alot!! dnt go too deep into this short relationship its still too early [2 weeks]
2007-02-12 10:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by rooney92000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be fine. Just touch up at your break, and try not to sweat a lot (I know that is hard to do), but if he really likes you then he just wants to see what you look like, and he will be able to picture you all dressed up. It'll be okay.
2007-02-12 10:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i always say this... if he survives looking at you at ur worst then you guys will be good ...
2007-02-12 10:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋