Amie and I will be sitting on the couch and our 6 year old son keeps pushing his way in between us. It is like he can't stand for us to cuddle up to one another. He is no longer content to sit on the floor when we are all watching tv. He has to be in between me and Amie.
How do I let him know that I just want to cuddle with his mother without hurting his feelings.
2007-02-12 02:38:49 · 8 answers · asked by Jerrie's Daddy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Are you aware of the Oedipal complex? This is totally normal.
I really can't imagine not wanting to cuddle with our son, too, if we're all together anyway, but at any rate, your son's emotional development travels a path where he falls deeply in love with his mother and is jealous of you. eventually, he accepts that this is 'your woman' and rather than competing with you for her, this realization is supposed to make him identify with you and then seek a woman of his own.
I would just let him cuddle with you guys. I still can't understand how you'd want him not to cuddle with you. geepers.
2007-02-12 03:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is don't just push him a way. Tell him you understand he wants to be with you and his mother but you would also like some alone time with her. Let him lay near you two but not be in the middle.
He may sense that there is some sort of hidden trouble between you and Amie and feels that he can make it better if he were with you. Listen to him. Ask him what he is feeling.
2007-02-12 10:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the Id it is taking over. the id is the natural curiosity to now about the ways of a man and a women and it is shown in different ways like when you hold a baby and they natuarally but their hand on the breast. The id, in your case it is the attention thing the natural knowing that you have and intimate relationship with his mother and he does not feel cofmfortable with that. Invite him to sit between you so that way he can feel important and you two will just have to cuddle when he is not there.
2007-02-12 11:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is feeling left out. I wouldn't want to sit on the floor while the potential to have both parent's attention is right in front of me. The more you exclude him the worse it will get. Try spending more time with him and reserve alone time with your wife for when your son goes to bed. Or explain to him that from say 6-7 is his time to do what ever he wants but then he has to understand that from 7-8 it time for mom and dad.
2007-02-12 10:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by cherri pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he an only child?
I have this same problem with my daughter who is 3, she started doing it when she was a year old. I asked the doctor about it and he said it was typical for only children and first born. Have you ever heard of a triad family. It is a family of three, the best way to describe your situation is a third wheel, the feeling of being left out. Children will typically out grow it with age once they understand more. Try explaining to your son that mommy and daddy still love him but they need time together as well. If you have more than one child and he is acting this way, it is about of his character. Some children typically younger do not like to share their primary parent. They view that person as theirs. If this is the case it has to do with sharing. Explain to your son he needs to share mommy and daddy, and that he is loved no less.
2007-02-12 10:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by pixie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have mom and dad time after he is in bed. At age 6 his bed time is between 8-8:30 I would guess. Right now, he wants to spend time with mom and dad. Enjoy that while you can-my step girls are 9 and 10 and their dad is facing the fact that given a choice of spending time with us and a sleepover at their friends, he is no longer first choice. They grow up fast so make the most of it.
2007-02-12 10:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by VAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he just wants to cuddle w/ mama and daddy =) let him sit between u guys and cuddle him, u could always sit alone w/ her after he goes to bed
2007-02-12 11:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Cheezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuddle mom and let the babyt sit in your lap. or the two of you can lay down and then have him lay in front of mom so he feels like he is a part of the cuddling.
2007-02-12 10:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋