I hav a bf who moved to a different country 6 months ago…he says dat, he loves me too much n calls me up daily n we talk for bt 1 hr…he behaves as if he is a lott serious for me..he says dat he wants to settle down wid me..he talks a lot bt commitment n other stuff…I heard 4m a lot people dat long distance relationships hav no future…but I heard dis also dat sm of d lucky ones do go a long way…I jus thought dat our relationship might also b d lucky one..
Now today I jus entered into his email(as I knw his password)..n wat I saw was few mails in his bulk folder from AmericanSingles.com which is as all of u knw is a dating site…he is having membership in it i.e. he is having his profile in it…d mails are 2 day old...wat does dat mean??...is he cheating on me??..i think he is playing wid ma feelings…I always loved him sooo much..more den anything else in dis world n I always felt like he too loves me a lott…
2007-02-12 02:28:48 · 13 answers · asked by me... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hav not discussed wid him anything bt dis issue rite now… I don knw wat to do…
U knw wat??..i don knw y but…I am having a gutt feeling dat dis guy is not rite for me..i don knw y im feelin like dis….bt its tru.. its not happening jus coz of all above..but am feelin like dis since quite a long time…
Wat shld I do??..shld I breakup or wat?..plz help…
2007-02-12 02:29:18 · update #1
Did you know that when you are confused something and it is not health. All you have to get out of it, you don't want to deal with it, do you?? Its not accepted for you to deal with it, you are confused if you love him or not. You think hes not right for you but he kept tellin you that he loves you. All you have to face yourself and get off from him and start your self again. This time, do out in real life, not online, ok? He moved out, so when you will see him again?? maybe never?? So i think its the best for you to not think negative and move on, you will find someone will focus on you for 100%.
2007-02-12 02:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't mean to be a "b" nut your english is horrible. Ok, with that said, I think you are in a sticky place. Does he know your getting into his emails? If so, then I would discuss this with him immediatly. If not, will baby this is the perfect time to find out if he is a lying cheating bastard. Sorry for being harsh but there are too many of these out there. If he denies it, or makes a big huffy about it, then I would explain to him what you have found and see what else he comes up with. You need to go with your gut feelings about these things. If he's doing all this behind your back, then what the hell else is he doing. I KNOW, TRUST ME it hurts like hell to lose someone you loved like crazy, I have!!! You have to take it day by day and in your own time. Try to involve your self with activies with friends and open yourself up to other better men as friends first and then see what would happen. I know you can't just shut off your feelings overnight but try to see him for what he is doing behind your back. Hell baby, I would join one of those sites and met the man of my dreams and see how he likes that one! ha!
2007-02-12 10:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. I use to be a member to various online dating groups of which I am no longer a member and I still receive email from these groups, because they are soliciting me to come back to them. I have one group that sends me emails, telling me that my profile has been viewed a specific number of times...yet my profile isn't active anymore...or I can't get off of the site, since it was free to begin with...I just removed my photo and information.
So, you may be getting overly paranoid and concerned where it might not be warranted.
You have no right, unless your boyfriend has given you permission to do so, to go into his email. It is an invasion of privacy. Does he have access to your email??
He calls you from a different country!! Do you realize how expensive that is??? He talks to you daily for an hour! Give him the benefit of the doubt.
2007-02-12 10:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first recommendation, is to learn how to type... that is the worst attempt at writing a paragraph that i have ever seen... i had to read it twice just to figure out some of the "slang"
second if he was really serious about you, then he would have talked to you about moving with him to the other country...
third... if he just moved 6 months ago and he is already jumping into the singles online crap then he is bored and lonely and looking for someone to fulfill his desires... so unless ya'll are serious enough for you to move out there with him or him come back to be with you, then its not going to last. and he is just keeping you on a string until he comes back for a visit or until he can find someone else
2007-02-12 10:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by BeachLvr2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut instinct, I'd rather not get hurt then find out the truth...and i know the feeling of being hurt by someone you love and thought that they loved you back. so go ahead, confront him talk to him, ask him about it, he may not be be honest but you'll have some kind of clue. If your smart you'd break up with him, don't let love blind you, if saw thta crap in his bulk, then i suggest you end it with him, no matter how much it hurts to do so, and i know thats not what you want to hear but, save yourself the trouble of being unhappy....Good Luck
2007-02-12 10:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by damienevanwest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a bulk folder is just that a bulk folder. it is junk mail and sent out to almost every male. I am 28 and happily married and they send me things like that all the time. if it is in his inbox I would question it but it is just spam. it is no different that when older gentlemen receive Viagra messages.
2007-02-12 10:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by funk0311 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about that. I get those letters all the time and I signed up for none of them. Yeah but talk to him about it. If he loves you like he says he does he wouldn't be on them sites. Are they replies from people? If they are then you have something to worry about. Good luck.
2007-02-12 10:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl70706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a long distance relationship can never work my bf left about a yr ago and he also said that he loved me and wanted me to be with him forever. anyways i think that u should be the one to break up with him 'cause before u know it he will have someone else in his life and he will dump you so it's better to end now then to get dumped by your bf.
2007-02-12 10:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Maite P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either choose to:
1)ask him why he have an account?
2)or u sign up a amercian single account & flirt with him.
see what is his response to it.
3)ask him more of. how do you think this relationship is going?
do you think that you being so far. we would last?
if you feel he cant give u happyness n future. dump him.
2007-02-12 10:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by introuble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. I created a profile on one of those sites just to see how it works and who else was on this site. I just did it out of curiousity. Maybe he did too? Talk to him before you get too irrational about the situationl.
2007-02-12 10:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by dardarzene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋