my sister has been studying with you guys for a couple of years now and will be a full fledged witness when the big service thingy comes to town in June. my question is this. How do I deal with the fact that I will no longer be in my sister and brither in laws lives? I will miss her terribly. can she still call me? Am I allowed at her home? What is the distance that she must keep from me? I do not do "immorel" things, I just do not beleive the same thing your organization does.
2007-02-12 02:10:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You have an interesting take on this matter, usually, when a relative becomes one of Jehovah's Witnesses, the family shuns them in ways that are unimaginable --- not the other way around. I think your attitude of wanting to be a part of their lives will go a long way in helping you appreciate that you haven't lost her.
I find it interesting that people call us a "cult" when we are the only religion on a global scale that is out in the open. We share exactally what we believe with everyone and our meetings are free, it is no secret. Like the comment above, saying people will "shed light" on our beliefs, people know more about our beliefs than anyone else's, because we want people to know what they are.
On that same point, if we need people to shed light on our beliefs, wouldn't we be locking ourselves away, letting people in only if necessary if at all. You do not join Jehovah's Witnesses, you become one. You mention that your sister has been studying for a couple years now, don't you think she has had the opportunity to make an informed decision, she makes the choices in her life, we don't sign people up --- we offer free bible studies.
If you want her to stay in your life, my advice is to be civil. My family used to always try and throw in assinine comments, but never had any substance behind them except that they didn't like JW's, nothing more. I wasn't preachy to them, if they were not interested, that's their choice. If you want to be in her life, be respectful of her decision and she will respect you in return for it.
Just of note --- we don't disown our families, however, we do dedicate our life to Jehovah, which means we put him above all other things. She will be busy, but stay in touch.
2007-02-12 03:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by OatesATM 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She could be disgusted with heavier people because she knows what it takes to lose weight, and she probably thinks that if she could do it, everyone else should be able to. It seems like she got really close minded, she probably still has confidence problems and is using the arrogance to cover it up. Sit down and tell her how you feel, tell her she's hurting your feelings and your getting sick of being treated like a dog...a real sister wouldn't do that, especially if you've always been there for her. She could just be jealous? I mean as you said, you have been with someone and happy for 3 years :P Well maybe that's why she lost weight, and she thought that once she lost it she'd find a boyfriend right away, but it didn't work. It could be anything! You'll have to talk with her to find out though, something could really be bothering her, she's your sister! So don't be shy, push at her until she spills the beans
2016-03-29 03:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jehovah's Witnesses love their families, whether their relatives are Witnesses or not!
It is only if and when he tires of hearing his religion mocked, disparaged, and demeaned that a Jehovah's Witness might consider limiting his time with a particular "moral" relative.
Sadly, this so-called "questioner" seems to be in a hurry to begin the insults and innuendo.
2007-02-12 10:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't lost your sister! On the contrary, you will find her more loving and understanding than ever.
If you give her a chance, she will be closer than ever.
Try studying with her to see what she found as a turning point. You can share all the joys she does, and it will make her happy you care. I congratulate both of you. You for careing, and her for her dedication.
2007-02-12 02:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should still pray for her and love her
I would recommend looking into the Bible for yourself. Don't use a 'anonymously' translated bible like the JW, use a substantial translation like ENglish Standard Version maybe you will be able to help her someday. Try going to a Walk Through the Bible Seminar if they have one in your area? perhaps
2007-02-12 02:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your contact will be limited, unless you express an interest in their "truth". Unfortunatey, you are a "worldly" person, and can have a "bad" influence on her. I empathize with you. I know the circumstances, and I've lived with them for years. Good luck!
2007-02-12 02:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah, the "rewards" of membership in a cult: being isolotated from anyone that might shine a light on your beliefs so that you can see that they're actually all just b.s.
2007-02-12 02:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You lost your sister to the Junior Varsity?
2007-02-12 02:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
JV? You mean JW, right? Jehovah's Witnesses?
2007-02-12 02:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
As far as I know Hedy, she is allowed to associate with her family. They are not that dispassionate.
2007-02-12 02:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Erica R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋