okay, well me and my boyfriend have not even been dating for 2 weeks and he seems obsessive. He gets annoyed when i want to talk to other people besides him, he talks about marriage and how we will never ever break up. Thing is, I'm only 15, he's 16, and i feel like he's getting too serious too fast and its overwhelming. But on the other side of the coin, he is a total sweetheart and he's even writing me a song. I've already brought up his obsessiveness a little bit, but how would I tell him that he is kinda suffocating me?
2007-02-12 02:02:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something to address right away. If he's obsessive now, imagine how it would be after you broke up?
Tell him that his behavior isn't comfortable, and that he needs to change it in order to be with you. It may be that he's not experienced in relationships, and thinks it's the right way to behave. Right now you have support from family and friends, so make sure that you feel free to make the choices that are best for you.
He may be sweet, but you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar... Take care of yourself and take it slow.
2007-02-12 02:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully get out now, run don't walk. He's doing this and you have barley been together for two weeks. He's obsessed and it's only going to get worse. He's all ready talking about the two of you being together for ever and about marriage, you are only 15.
He's a stone cold nut, and there is nothing good about some one who is attempting to control your every move. Tell your parents about what he is saying, don't keep this to your self. You are going to need their help with this.
He's become way too serious way too fast, that's overwhelming for any one but especially some one who is 15 yrs old. He doesn't want you to have friends, so he shows you how it annoys him when you do talk with your friends. The less people you have around you the easier it will become for him to manipulate you.
There is no other side of the coin with this guy what you are seeing is what and who he is. Don't fool your self into thinking that you can change him, there is no changing him. He is controlling and manipulative and he is NOT A TOTAL SWEETHEART, but he most likely will become a total stalker. People who behave like this either have a very low self esteem or no self esteem at all, they have no idea what love is. I'd be willing to bet that he also has a very short fuse and gets angry real fast. He is so busy attempting to manipulate and control you that he doesn't see how it is hurting you.
You are a lot wiser than you give your self credit for, your inner self (self esteem) is telling you this this relationship is bad and wrong for you. All you need to do is listen to your self and give to your self that which you know is right. Move on and find some one who will give you the respect that you deserve. Some one who will encourage you to have friends, and to be the person that you are. They won't try to mold you into some thing that they want.
2007-02-12 03:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful with him. To be that obsessive after only 2 weeks is a warning sign of things to come. Do not let him try to control you or your behavior. You should be able to talk to or hang out with your friends without him getting upset. Tell him that you need to slow down a bit. Your relationship should make you BOTH happy....not just him. If he continues to act this way, you may need to rethink the situation.
2007-02-12 02:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him very clearly that you don't want to take things so fast! You guys are young and i'm not saying he won't stay with you but you can't get that serious at that age all you will get out of it is a very broken heart most likely....just don't take it too far but if he's a sweetie, no need to stop hanging with him, just keep your mind clear and stick to your sences
2007-02-12 02:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him you need to talk to him. Personally he loves you more than anything. But really, its part your life too and he cant tell you what to do out of anger in you being a bit free. You both need to talk about that. Thats all, its nothing much serious. So dont make it seem like your about to break up with him when you ask him for a word. Because all you really want to say is hes not doing things all right. Dont break up with him because he loves you! He really does^^..just talk to him. he has odd way of expressing his emotions but its sweet. Dont let him go unless he really did something bad. You never know what youve got til its gone. Sooo yeah. Tell your sweet b/f hes being too obsessive and T'is all^^
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2007-02-12 02:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by You've Already Won Me Over 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know I used to have a obesessive boyfriend. It's sorta weird at first when he's constantly questioning your every move which is annoying. (I mean you might think it's cute, and he's a sweetheart, but if you dont like it tell him). But what I did was I confronted him on it, and he didnt like it but he calmed down the possessiveness of me alot. Just tell your boyfriend your too young and he shouldnt rush things to fast... your 15 live life!
2007-02-12 02:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Angelia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very carefully. Those types can turn ugly real fast. I think you should break up with him and never see him again. I had an obsessive guy like that, and it's dangerous. Mine almost killed me. They aren't right in the head, and his obsession will only get worse. Run away, and quickly!
2007-02-12 02:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obsessive and boyfriends are 2 terms that should never mix. He doesn't own you and don't give him the impression that you'll tolerate it. If you stay there and take it, he'll think that's what you want and keep doing what he's doing. Woman up, dammit...Plain and simple.
2007-02-12 02:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are having fun so far, and that you think that he is a great guy, but yall are both still young, and he doesn't need to be getting mad just because you are talking to other people, and that you have to have other friendships besides just his.
2007-02-12 02:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes with guys you have to blunt. Don't beat around the bush, just talk to him about him being alittle over obssed, and actually say how you feel. Don't edge around it. If he really is that in love with you thenhopefully he will get the picture to give you some space. But you just have to go up and say it.
2007-02-12 02:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by a_blossom_91 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋