Okay, well...I can be super jealous and then I get very insecure. So I always think negative about the relationship that I am in and I'm constantly questioning my boyfriend about it. You see...I really don't want to lose him but I feel like he is slipping away from me because he has all these "girl" friends. I don't like it too much. But I try not to let it bother me ...but then it does. And I am always I mean always...asking him if he is sure that he wants to be with me... So anyways, there is this girl that I don't like because I heard that she liked my boyfriend so you know...well the reason why I am scared to trust him is because I am scared to get my heart broken. Any advice for me?
2007-02-12 01:50:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to work on your self esteem issues before you can have an open-honest relationship. You won't be happy in one until you are happy with yourself. Try taking a class at the local community center or something along the lines. You need to be able to look in the mirror and realize that you are beautiful and that if HE messes around on you, its HIS loss, not yours.
2007-02-12 01:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
( I'm not a love expert... this is just an opinion)
Please don't lose the trust. If you will lose it, then there will be a sort of a Reverse Reaction.
If you would lose trust on your boyfriend then you will think of him as a cheater (or any bad traits that you could name him) then you will start to act suspiciously and weird towards your boyfriend. The reverse reaction then happens when your boyfriend realizes that you've become different and, lets say, acting WEIRD, then he will start to lose the trust in you because he will see that you're not trusting him already. This might prompt him to go out frequently with other girl friends just to ask their opinion about your relationship and how its already becoming different between you and him.
If you don't want to lose him, then show your love... Actions always speak louder than words. Do things that you haven't done, like fishing or going on a bike ride together. This will not only strengthen your relationship with him, but will also keep him away from other girl friends...
2007-02-12 02:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lrak D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't learn to have a little bit of trust and stop being so freaking jealous, you're for sure going to lose him. You're the one he's with, not them. Quit acting so insecure because it's just going to push him away. What would you do if he acted the way you do? Probably not stay with him. Jealousy in a relationship makes for a very unhealthy relationship and it's just going to ruin things.
2007-02-12 01:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by tandtfowkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything u say but, i would say that try talkning with him abt ur insecurity make ur self a bit free towards ur bf's friends those r girls give him some freedom a bit to talk atleast. Think 4m his point of view ok & then ask ur self is it ok then that girl who is botheering u a lot just let him abt that girl & ask him to keep a distance with that girl & i tell u if he really loves u, he will do as many things as possible just to see u smiling ok & plz dont go that deep until u dont trust & know each other very welll ok GOOD LUCK. Tc.
2007-02-12 02:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't get insecure because you get jealous. You're jealousy comes from your insecurity. The first thing you have to do is get a grip on yourself and learn to like you for who you are. When you realize that you're something special, then 99% of your jealous feelings are going to go away because you realize your bf really has a reason for being with you. Work on your self esteem and everything else will fall into place.
2007-02-12 01:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on to a relationship where you have no reason to be jealous
take counseling for your problem...jealousy
find someone you can TRUST and then you have no reason for all of this
It would drive me crazy for someone to want to know my every move, but on the other hand it would also drive me crazy if my guy had a bunch of girl "friends"
have you talked to him about this and let him know how uncomfortable you are with it? maybe he could give up some of the girls that are not that good of a friend.....at least try to talk to him without going off on him with the jealousy thing & good luck
be cool...
2007-02-12 02:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop asking him if he want to be with you. It will do nothing but put ideas in his head and drive him nuts. I have learned that love is like water in one's hand. IT is all about provide a place of protection and understanding, as soon as you starting to control the situation by forcing his hand ie. squeezing the water, it will all run out and the relationship is over. So don't try and force him to love you just allow him to and if he never does then you know it is because of his lack of relationship skills and not yours.
2007-02-12 02:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Combat Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach the girl! Ha ha i guess your bf just might had enough of you questioning him everytime so try and be low on that and about the other girl you try and get friendly with her (guess u have no other choice) for u can't tell him to not befriend her since that might trigger some attraction of sort towards her. The best thing you might do is remind him that he means everything to you (I guess!)
2007-02-12 01:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that must be the worst feeling to live with every day. It does take the two of you to make this situation. Im sure if he wanted to leave you he would have. Just keep in mind how much nicer it would be if you could remove this feeling out of your daily life? Freedom is very nice
2007-02-12 01:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bazano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him then you have to trust him or your relationship will never inprove and we dont want that to happen just be with him when he is around all of those girls and see if you see any flirting or get one of his or your friend to spy on him.
2007-02-12 02:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by penny b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋