Should I pay for dinner this Valentine's Day?
My live-in Boyfriend and I are together for about 4 years now and he told me that he is taking me to a broadway play for Valentine's day. He casually asked me if I would pick up the tab for dinner. Now call me old fashion, but I felt a lil bad about that at first. At the same time, I know he is in a little bit of a financial rut and I could just make treating him to dinner his Valentine gift. I'm torn between old fashioned courting and modern the relationship. We are practically married and have a baby on the way, so I figure married couples normally do this but at the same time, I would like him to make me feel like a lady and treat me to a night out. Opinnions?
Serious answers only please... nonsense will get a negative rating... thanks!
2007-02-12 01:47:35 · 10 answers · asked by s m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, so he is really tight on cash, but he is STILL buying tickets to a Broadway play - and that is not enough for you?
You want him to experience further financial stress because you want to be treated like a LADY?
Why not treat him like someone you really care about?
It sounds like you are more concerned about feeling good than working with him to have a nice evening.
You should wait to get married. That kind of attitude is the reason we have a 50% divorce rate.
2007-02-14 08:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by raffone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
S m, I would normally agree that he should pay for dinner too. However, you have mentioned that he is taking you to a Broadway play, that he is in a financial rut, you both have a baby coming soon, etc. Therefore, I would pay for dinner and treat it as his Valentine's day present.
However, make sure that this does not become a common theme. I do agree with you that the gentleman should pay for the dinner most of the time.
2007-02-12 01:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with feeling like a lady. However, if the two of you are practically married then that means that you share income. If he is in a rut you then you should help him out. However, not on Valentine's day. If you want to give him a gift then cook him a meal. That way you'll feel better about spending your money on Valentine's day. It is good to have somethings in the relationship that are old fashion.
2007-02-12 01:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way he is using his resources (you) to provide the best possible experience for the both of you. You should be willing to contribute not bitter that he can't pay for everything. You know better than anyone else his current situation and I'm sure if you think about it he might be having monetary problems that are restricting his budget or he could not be into the highly commercialized over-played valentines garbage. If you love him you would have volunteered to pay for the meal and been grateful that you could contribute to the evenings festivities of love without a question.
2007-02-12 01:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fine to me. If he is in a financial rut and you have been together that long him paying for your dinner isn't as big a deal anymore, especially since he is taking you to a play. I'm sure if he had to ask you to pay then he must have a small budget since no honest guy likes to ask for a women to pay.
2007-02-12 01:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by styler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're "old-fashioned" but you live together and have a baby on the way? Hmmm . . .
Well, if you want him to pay for the entire date have him sell the broadway tickets and then he can afford to pay for dinner.
I guess you'll feel better and he won't go under financially trying to spend money he doesn't have.
2007-02-14 08:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm. Well, being that you're prego with HIS child, and it's V-day, I feel he should pay for all of it. If that's what HE wanted to do before/after the show. To ask you to pick up the tab for dinner is kinda rude if you ask me. Take him to the drive-thru at MacDonald's, or something cheap like that. LOL!!!!! Hey, money is tight right? If he bitches, tell him beggars can't be choosers. :)
2007-02-12 01:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if hes in a financial rut,maybe you should pay for dinner its not like its gonna cost hundreds and hundreds of dollars or maybe if you would prefer you could make dinner for you and your boyfriend.
2007-02-13 11:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your Rules and think. He's tight on cash. You're not. What would be the logical thing to do here?
2007-02-12 06:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋