Dear Planet,
I am a very successful female who owns her own property and car etc. I usually don't ask for anything from people. I try not be a burden to anyone because everyone has their own share of problems. Every time a met a guy who seems to have some business about himself always seems turned off when I speak of shared responsibilites in a relation. They expect a woman to clean, cook, work 9 to 5, take care to the kids and him etc. I truly do not desire to be single my whole life but, I just can't bear the thought of doing all of the above by myself with a man in my life. Heck! I've been doing all of these thing by myself for quite sometime now. Isn't it best to remain single and stand my ground and dignity until a true responsible man enters my life or am I just dreaming?
Please Help!
2007-02-12 01:43:58 · 4 answers · asked by Susan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're just dreaming, then I am dreaming, also. Settling for someone would be selling yourself short.
I mean, it all depends on what you want out of life... do you want to be happy? or just not alone anymore?
If your answer is A, then wait a little while, the right guy will come along eventually...
If your answer is B, you need to work on your self confidence until you would choose answer A.
2007-02-12 01:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by S T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground Girl! I have a man who helps cook clean and do chores around the house. It's all about how a man was raised but they are out there! If you know what you want then don't settle for less... partnership is 50-50. Times are changing and wome have careers just like men do and don't need to be relegated to doing house work too! You will find a modern guy if you don't settle...
Would you go to a restaurant and order chicken if you really wanted steak? Life is about asking for and getting what you truly want... if you want to have a career and a family to take care of...find a man taht wants the same for both of you and is not afraid or lazy to pitch in.
2007-02-12 09:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by s m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship/marriage is about teamwork, if they are turned off by shared responsabilities, then they are egotistical pricks who you shouldn't waste your breath on anyway. However, if that is the topic of the first date, it might scare men away because you're talking about these things before they know you all that well.
MY advice, don't bring it up to early, but definitely do not lose your footing, stay true to your beliefs because marriage and relationships are teamwork. Good Lcuk!
2007-02-12 09:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are quite correct in your thinking --- and i was one of those people that just kept taking --- i like to think i have learned --- we shall see if and when my lady and i get together ---- there is someone who will respect your wishes and work within yout framework --- you have my best wishes
2007-02-12 09:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋