Boyfriend is part of an "extreme" group....?

Question

My boyfriend and I are both Catholic, but he is part of an "extreme" Catholic group. I obviously don't share the same feelings he has towards this group. My problem is that after a couple years with him, I find things harder and harder to deal with. I feel like we don't have a "spiritual life" together because he has one already with this group, so when it comes up us talking about our beliefs and faith, we don't. I know he would choose the group over me (we can't even celebrate valentine's day together because of a commitment he made with them). I would hate to leave him because of this group thing but am not sure how to move on...please help.

I am happy that he has found something he can believe in, but it's hard for me because... the group is not recognized by the church, so it doesn't have the church's blessings. its hard for me to believe in something that isn't recognized/blessed by the church

Answer 1

If he's more committed to this group than you, he's already made his choice. Now it's time to make yours. Do you wish to be married to a man or a group?

Answer 2

The question is, "Is the commitment to the group, or to God?" If the group is an expression of a deeper life in God, then embrace the extremism as a legitimate expression of devotion. And if you can't do that, don't hold him back.
On the other hand, if the extremism is merely a legalistic practice, try to talk it out, it still may work out for you both.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Churchianity is a pagan religion. It has no significant parallels with the true worship outlined in Scriptures. To have marital harmony, it would be well to find a mate who shares your views. The possibilities that one of you might learn something is an ever present threat.

Answer 5

If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. If you can't join 'em, beat it.
These types have very little idea of the significance of their own traditions.
There are not strict dictates of any god, because religions have created their gods based on their own contemporary needs.
Same with the notions of the Constitution, by the way.
You are going to have move on, because rigidity is not part of any good relationship, and he's being as rigid as any extreme group demands.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Just tell him it's me or them, if he chooses them then it should be obvious that he doesn't really love you all that much, refuse to see him and give yourself some time then start dating new guys but make sure they are more compatible with you before you commit to another relationship.

Answer 7

That's your call. I would think that believing the same thing would be central to a Marriage. Without it, there is no spiritual foundation.

Shalom!

Answer 8

Sounds like you've already really left him. People do grow apart for numerous reasons. Better to face it now and move on than to face even hard times ahead.

Answer 9

If the group is interferring with your relationship....and it's not a Christ-centered group.....then lose the boyfriend fast.

What's more important: Your eternal status with Christ....or an earthly relationship that will only last for who knows how long?

Answer 10

"I know he would choose the group over me"

Then he doesn't really love you. You need to move on because it isn't going to get better.