This is mostly for you ladies but men please explain. I have been sick for two days, which is really rare for me. Why is that that when us woman get sick the house is a total disaster? My sink is filled up with dirty dishes, clothes all over etc...I am so mad at my husband right now I can scream! Is it just my husband or does this happen to anyone else?
2007-02-12 01:38:14 · 26 answers · asked by mom of twins 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My husband could walk over a heap of rotting fish if it was laying in our hallway. But, if I say - honey, could you get that heap of rotting fish from the hallway for me? he will.
Don't freak about the dishes, don't get mad about the laundry. TELL YOUR HUSBAND WHAT YOU NEED. In a nice way, like you'd ask anyone for help.
2007-02-12 01:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, Mom of twins, I too am a mom of twins. And you know, I think it is all just the individual man. You shouldn't have to suck it up! My brother was a very clean man. he loved to vacuum and mop the kitchen. When he cooked the pots and pans and stove were all washed and cleaned before he even sat down to eat.
I had a male neighbor (in his mid twenties at the time- and no, not gay) And I would often go upstairs to visit or have cup of Joe on the weekends....his place was always immaculate. My best buddy Bill was a very clean and tidy fella....always doing laundry and dishes were always washed and house vacuumed. These boys were not slobs. They were clean and neat and they liked things that way. And they didn't mind doing the bathroom either. So if you ask me it is just the man's perspective that when he gets married he has a live-in maid. And those men are pigs. And excuse me but if he works and she works then he should be doing just as much as she does around the house. Those boys need to "suck it up" and learn how to load the washer and get their hands wet with the kitchen sponge and if they can run a skill saw they can run a vacuum. If they can gut a fish they can change a dirty diaper. There is NO excuse.
I guess I have just known more than my fair share of wonderfully clean men.
2007-02-12 01:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by O Wise One 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should show you how much you are needed. Your husband probably doesn't think about doing the dishes and cleaning the house because it's always done for him. If this bothers you that much why don't you just communicate to your husband that you would like him to step up and help out while you are "sick".
My wife has been sick for the past few days and I have been managing to load the dishwasher every night and even had her write out a grocery list so I could do the weekly shopping for her. If you ask your husband to do these things for you and he feels that you are genuinely sick enough that you cannot do them yourself then he will do them.
2007-02-12 01:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by User103443 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I just get sick for a couple days the chores get put aside as long as it don't get too bad. When I was pregnant and more or less bedridden from morning sickness for about 2 1/2 months my husband would come home from working full time + and clean. The kids learned to help out alot to so I'm thankful for that. Hope this helps
2007-02-12 05:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, ohhhhhhhhh yes it happens.
Up until about 2 weeks ago I felt like I was the maid. I threatened to buy a uniform. When my husband said "you're not the maid, maids get paid," I threw a frying pan at him (it was unintentional, honest, it just happened to be in my hand and fly out at his response). But still, women always have and always will run the house, no matter what we do outside of the home, we will always be expected to run the home as well. Unfair? Yes, plenty. But we are the stronger ones. We can handle just about anything.
Now, my advice would be to get a regular sheet of paper and start divvying up the chores. I did that and now my life is a WHOLE lot simpler. Telling him, "You will cook 2 nights a week. On the nights you do not, you will clean up. On the nights you do, I will clean up." I also gave him control of the garage cleanup, emptying trash, taking out the trash, bringing in the mail 2x/week and washing down the bannisters. In addition he has a 'to-do' list (not to be confused with the HONEY-DO list), of big tasks to be completed, and he has to choose 1 per week and do it - no excuses.
2007-02-12 04:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by GJF 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way. I am a stay at home mom so my husband thinks that he shouldn't have to do anything around the house at all. That has been a big argument at our house right now. I tried to explain that even though he works he is still a husband and a father and that i need help. He has gotten a little better but i think it is that way with most men.
2007-02-12 01:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by luvsherarmyman2123 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was in the hospital for 3 days for preterm labor and you would think that my husband and 3 boys would want me to come home to a clean, stress free house, but no. I got home and it was dirty. They apparently did do some things around the house and did do the dishes, etc.., but It looked like my floors hadnt been swept, mopped or vacuumed in ages. It looked horrible. I know my husband is not used to being home alone with the kids like that but that is no excuse. Its not only your husband.
2007-02-12 01:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look some guys can't clean but some can look when people can't clean they bleave it a mess but when you have somebody ealse that only waits for you to answer you can just put some rules well i'm a guy that cleans up his own mess because i had somebody to teach me and gave me that responsabilites but not only that you get use to it if you do it everyday.also give out jobs that can help you in the house like your husband can wash the dishes and other stuff but just do it fare but don't abuse and give everybodyall the jobs and you nothing that is my idea and i think it will work because my family did it if it don't well i'm sorry that it didn't work but you know it's just a suggestion
2007-02-12 03:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by suertegringo90 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently u are the only one in the household who knows how to clean.
i am the only one who knows how to clean as well. my husband is a neat freak yet he does not clean. explain that. two weeks i was sick and the only work i did was feed and bathe my son and totally ignored the laundry piling up, the dishes, the toys everywhere, and my son's "tent" (made of sheets) that he set up in the livingroom. what a disaster.
2007-02-12 02:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is not being clueless or selfish. He's just not used to cleaning up after himself. It shows how much he depends on you. Just ask him to do the dishes and put the dirty clothes in the hamper. And if he doesn't know where the hamper is tell him where it is.
Get well soon!
2007-02-12 02:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Pink1967 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋