Went to a party and gave this guy my phone number. We had an interesting conversation and I gave him my phone number. He says he wants to hang out with me. And he is all touchy touchy. I hate that! How can I turn him down without sounding mean? We do have our differences. He wants to call today.
2007-02-12 01:28:27 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy kept caressing my hand and my back. Ahhhhhhhh. I'm terrified and tense even now thinking about it.
2007-02-12 01:34:57 · update #1
And he wanted to give me a french kiss. i feel like someone stabbed me in the intestines right now. I'm just not that type of a girl.
2007-02-12 01:40:11 · update #2
Tell him that it is not your intention to hurt his feelings, but that you are just not ready to start anything new right now. Tell him at the time you gave him your number that you thought you might be ready, but after you had time to reflect on it that you really just aren't ready and that hanging out right now would not be good for you.
2007-02-12 01:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, what happened between the time you gave him your # and the time you changed your mind? You will probably need to explain the reason behind your change of mind for him to accept your turndown without putting up a fight.
You can try, "I'm sorry, but I don't think we're a good match." But this may not satisfy him and you should be prepared to clarify.
Don't sweat it too much because I've found that guys are generally pretty resilient when it comes to rejection. Most subscribe to the "closed mouth don't get fed" theory (I refer to this as the "don't ask, don't get" theory) of approaching women: that is, you'll never know if you don't try. So they try often and (in most cases) expect to be turned down more often than they're accepted.
You can avoid this problem in the future by handing out your number more judiciously.
2007-02-12 01:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he calls that you changed your mind and that you really don't want to go out with him. Just be honest and tell him the truth, tell him he made you uncomfortable and it made you nervous to be around him. Then end the conversation let him know that you have to go, don't let him keep you talking on the phone.
There is also the off chance that he may never even call you and you are worrying for nothing.
Don't worry so much about it, you don't have to do any thing that you don't want to do. Some times we all say things and then wish that we hadn't said them, we end up saying to out selves why did I say or why did I do that? Kind of the open mouth insert foot.
As long as we are human were going to make mistakes, it's human nature. It is best to be honest with him, then at least he won't think that there is hope of getting together with you. Don't be so hard on your self, after all he can not complain since you were never his to begin with. It's hard to miss some thing that he never even had.
2007-02-12 02:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to turn this guy down over the phone is to be honest. Put yourself in his shoes as you are talking to him. Remember the golden rule, do undo others as you would have them do undo you. If you enjoyed your brief conversations over the phone, tell him so. If you did not, tell him so. If you feel there are just too many differences between you to, and it's just not working out for you, them tell him that also. Whatever the reasons are for you not wanting to continue the relationship, then tell him; but be sure to do it in a way that you would appreciate someone telling you. If he is sensible, he will understand and stop calling. If not, after you have made your feelings known, check your caller ID and don't answer his calls.
2007-02-12 01:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by zion_zhar_shas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look the best thing you can do is not worry about being nice... make sure you get your point accross... otherwise you could just lead him on... guys sometimes need to be wacked in the head with a hammer before we hear what you are saying... ;-)
Really... don't be mean about it... just be to the point and don't dress it up...
Just say... I don't want to take this any farther... We had a nice conversation and you seam to be a nice guy but (fill in your words)... But I just don't want to date you. Sorry..
if he asks why... I say don't tell him... most of the time when people ask why... it is because they are looking for something that they can change... so they can keep hanging on...
Good luck
2007-02-12 01:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he calls just tell him you are really not interested in dating right at this time. You could say you recently had a horrible break-up with an ex boyfriend and you are still thinking about it. I'm just not ready to date again right now. There's a possibility you could take the honest route and tell him how it upset you that he was touching you, etc. I was honest with a guy that was doing that to me. It's really up to you on what to say, I find honesty is the best so they don't come back later.
2007-02-12 01:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. That is, it seems you gave him your number too quickly and let him know that it was a mistake as you NEVER do that. Tell him, if he'd like, to give you his number and perhaps you'll call him sometime if you get the urge to go out with him, but for now, you'd rather he didn't call. If he persists, tell him you are going to stick to your decision, say good bye and hang up. If he keeps calling back, call the police.
2007-02-12 01:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by capnemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Mary,
don't hand out your phone number to a guy if you don't want to go on a date with him!
Don't be a tease!
Ok now that you put yourself in this mess, just tell the guy the truth when he calls, he could use the information and honesty is the best policy.
2007-02-12 01:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "I'm just busy right now in my life and not looking to meet anyone new, You are sweet and I appreciate the call but I'm not interested in hanging out"
As a guy, I would appreciate that kind of honesty and you save yourself any problems from a misunderstanding.
2007-02-12 01:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by Monkey Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you give him your phone number in the first place? You shouldn't do that if you don't want the person to call and ask you out. Just tell him thanks but you probably shouldn't see him right now because you are seeing someone else.
2007-02-12 01:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋