I'm college sr & grad. in May. I'm a white, 22 yo man. I grew up an army kid (until 10 when my dad walked out on us) & was always around tons of diff. people & cultures.But was NEVER SEEN AS A BAD "DIFFERENT." I want to date interracially(mainly African Americans), but my parents don't agree with it. They are racist, thinking that white m & white f should only date each other,etc (Everyone with their own race). I TOTALLY DISAGREE because I am not attracted by color nor do I stop liking someone/being attracted to someone because she just happens to be of another skin tone. I am heavily attracted to black and latin girls,white girls really don't do much for me. My mom says she don't care really. My stepdad is total opposite. He comments on people negatively who do & we have had arguments about it in the past. The thing is, I still live with them until May, but I wanna start now. What should I do? Go with my heart or wait a couple more months? I'm torn bc I am crushing on a few girls no
2007-02-12 01:25:18 · 7 answers · asked by Trojan8408 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say follow your heart but consider that your family is against it. At your age their opinion really doesn't matter but you should consider the social ramifications of this. Times are different now than they were when I was growing up, I'm interracial but I do know that my parents family were not happy with their marriage and neither side had much to do with us for most of my childhood. To this day we have nothing to do with my dad's side and my mom's side is a little more accepting. You have to be willing to live your life like that. Some people can not handle the stress of interracial dating because of family/friends so consider that but if you think you can handle it then date whoever you want!
2007-02-12 01:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm specific you are able to save a discreet relationship by some potential. it may paintings. additionally, so a strategies as race and race relationships, that's B.S. it incredibly is your existence and you're making judgements, bear in mind you're no longer mommy's boy not greater. by some potential, unconsciencely, you depart that quantity of time whilst all you do is place self belief in mom and father. Now, your mom and father being racist, i think of it is something each chlid who brings somebody from yet another ethnicity into their homestead, that's what they're going to stand. whether their mom and father say they are no longer racist, this would prepare to coach how severe they are approximately their opinion. bear in mind that a step dad isn't no longer something of you, he does not carrie the comparable DNA you do. it is totally contradictory. there are events once you may do something which could harm the different, whether it is on your sturdy and you're no longer doing something unlawful or something which would be considered unlegitimate. bear in mind the previous, you do no longer p.c. to be like your dad who walked on his little ones an spouse. If marring somebody style yet another race/ethnicity is going to maintain you from doing a mistake like that, then do it. you sense sturdy approximately it, it is on your sturdy, and bear in mind you may p.c..
2016-10-02 00:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by raffone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are grown now~ Make sure in the process of dealing with someone outside of your race that you don't hurt them. I am a AAF and I have always been attracted to other nationality but my family is okay with it. I think that your stepfather should really mind his business. I am sure you didn't want him around trying to take your fathers place. so he can't look at it with a color issue he should be focus on who treats you the best
2007-02-12 01:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait a couple months still you should respect their rules although you don't agree. You could also hide the fact that you are dating women of other races without your stepdad knowing.
2007-02-12 01:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is there a possibility that maybe you only desire african americans or others opposed to white girls because you are tired of your familys disappoval and therefore you are being racists against white girls now?
2007-02-12 01:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Follow your heart and forget about their approval. Who approved THEIR courting? You?
I only hope you get the person who deserves your love.
All the best!
2007-02-12 01:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should start talkn to other gurls n wen your about to move out start makn your move on them until you find the right one for u
2007-02-12 01:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by sccrthugz4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋