why the children have to send there parents to an old folks home?

Answer 1

bcos they feel they are bore and they are not able to take care of them, but they forget that the same situation will come on them

Answer 2

Because they are not capable of attending to their medical needs. My grandmother is in a nursing home. This will mark her first year there. She's 90 years old and in poor health. Her children (she has five) were taking turns watching her and staying with her at night. She did not want to leave her house and neither did her husband. So, someone had to stay.

The problem is her children have their jobs and families. My brother is still in High School and needs my mom to fix meals and do laundry. There is no one to help the children while they are helping with their mom.

My grandma wouldn't listen to the children about taking her meds. She'd argue about going to the bathroom - didn't want to. She wore depends (the adult diaper) so someone would have to change her througout the day. She'd get mean and incoherrent at night. She'd insist the meds were poision and she was being killed by her children. She'd wake up and deny the whole thing. She'd have lucid moments here and there, but she was just really mean and violent. She was regressing to a childlike age of dependance.

At one point she had to be restrained.

It was too much for them to handle - they were breaking down emotionally from seeing their mother like this. And, physically from lack of sleep and carrying her around (couldn't get out of bed etc.) Their medical insurance paid for a nurse and physical therapy for 60 days. So, they took that and told her if she didn't improve they would have no choice but to put her in a facility. They call it a rehabilition center...not an old folks home that is just mean and shows your ignorance.

She requires medical attention her family knows they cannot give her. Nor, can they afford the price of a home nurse. It's a loose loose situation and not an easy one to make. Perhaps, you should ask why their is not health care coverage to protect the US citizens and aging population. Not bash the people who are stuck in it.

Answer 3

They don't. There are many people who have elderly parents that can't be left alone for many reasons (they require too much care, they require supervision so they don't just wander off, etc.) so they have to choose between having the elderly parents come and live with them, or placing the elderly parents in assisted living or a nursing home, depending on the level of care and/or supervision the parent needs. Some children have their parents come live with them and they end up taking care of the parents. Others place their parents in assisted living or a nursing home because they are just not able to provide the level of care or supervision that the parents need. Some elderly parents literally require care around the clock, and it's not reasonable for the children (who probably have children of their own) to quit their jobs and take care of their parents 24/7. It's never an easy choice, but sometimes there really IS no choice.

Answer 4

Many families accommodate their elderly parents living with them. Their children, grandchildren and friends can offer to pitch in to take care of the elderlies needs. If these needs are not accomodated then the aged are sent to an old folks home. Sometimes the aged are better off not going into a nursing home.

Answer 5

Sometimes people have no choice when the home environment is really bad or inadequate. Of course the perceived ideal is to live with the adult children and have your grandchildren around you, but life does not go that way for all of us. The alternative is to be put in a home where the physical needs are seen to and there is opportunity for a social life as well , all within the confines of the old folks home.

Answer 6

India is not a welfare state.Everybody has to fend for himself and his family including their parents who are getting older and may even be disabled at times.In the cities, space may also be a constraint for a growing family with kids.Besides, both the spouses may be working to meet the heavy expenses to survive.
Getting reliable domestic-help may not be possible due to it being expensive or for the loss of privacy in small flats.
As a result, coping with all the difficulties stated above on an ongoing basis may lead to neglect of old parents, wilfully or otherwise. It may also become a cause for tension within the immediate family with no immediate solutions in sight.
In India, as no support can be expected from government-agencies,either short or long term unlike in the West, children are often constrained to send their parents to old peoples home for the benefit of all concerned.

Answer 7

um, u don't necessarily have to

If your parents can no longer take care of themselves then yes, it is time to start looking for an old folk's home/assisted living for them to live/reside in. And, why is that your job? Well, because they raised you when you were unable to care for and support yourself. So, now that they can't take care of themseleves shouldn't you at least find a place for them that can.?

Answer 8

I agree with Sarge. I work in an Assisted Living facility, with 3 levels of care offered. We always have a waiting list. Sometimes people place themselves there, sometimes they are placed by Adult Protective Services, but most of the time it is the family who places them with us.

Answer 9

No matter how much we honor our parents, sometimes because of their round-the-clock medical needs, our inability to watch over them during part of day due to work, etc., it can sometimes be the most compassionate and practical thing to put them in a venue in which they will be observed and attended to at all times of the day.

Answer 10

For some this is a necessity because of job commitments and lack of time to genuinely attend to their needs. A lot of them do this at the bidding of their life partners for purely selfish reasons.