well there is a cry room but some mothers and grandmothers don't want to go there..but the kids are kicking the seats and riping up the books in the pew and even screaming too? the minister just ignores them..??change churches..is that the only option
2007-02-12 01:00:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
the Lord is crying through them to tell ppl that the church is not where to find him
2007-02-12 01:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't change churches. Remember, you are in church and are a Christian to accept others and love others, not judge others. Keep in mind, these kids won't learn how to behave there if they are never made to stay there. If people leave the church because of the kids, the kids and their families will be rejected, which is what you don't want. Maybe you could offer to take the kids to the crying room for the parents/grandparents. This would be a nice gesture. Maybe talk to the minister about having quiet games (coloring books, etc.) for the kids to play with in the pews.
2007-02-12 11:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The church leadership needs to realize that everyone (with or without children) wants to participate in worship and if children are disturbing others, parents have the responsibility to take them out. It is a good idea that your church provides a crying room but it needs to be reinforced by the church leadership. We have ushers who will quietly and gently approach a mother about a crying child and let them know about the crying room. Sometimes, we get a woman usher to speak to the mom so the mom doesn't get offended and can better relate to another woman. We also have the ushers help the mom carry the diaper bag if she needs help with that. We also have an intercom in the cry room where moms (or dads) can still listen to the message in case they have to be in there with their kids. I hope this helps your church. You shouldn't have to leave a church because of crying children.
2007-02-12 09:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by pathfindercia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the minister - let him know how much is distracts other parishioners from his sermon. I had a minister that would gently remind parents that there was a nursery for children when one would cry for a long period of time. Our nursery has a speaker so that people in there don't miss the sermon - that may be an option so that people don't mind going to the crying room...
2007-02-12 10:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by JQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find a church with an older congregation. Young people are always going to have kids, and kids are going to cry. It would probably make everyone happy. I do see your point, but it doesn't seem like the church elders seem to care, that may be a problem w/ the church anyways.
2007-02-12 09:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mike V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my religion small children are REQUIRED to be left with women who will watch after them. We sing them songs, do crafts with them and tell them stories about our ancestors. Children always come with the parents (of course), but need to be left with childkeepers simply because some parts of our rites are not appropriate for children.
Recently I was discussing this with a female friend who is a christian. She said her church does the same thing! While the adults are doing their praise and worship thing, the children are at 'child's church' in another room. I bet if you looked around hard enough, you could find a church that did this as well.
Jesus said something about 'suffer not the little children to come to me' but he also criticized the jews for not stoning their disobedient children to death. One would think all churches would consider setting up a 'child's church' in the same building a good idea, lest someone get a little over-zealous.
~Morg~
2007-02-12 09:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by morgorond 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can amicably resolve this if you bring this to the responsible authorities and do everything in brotherly love. The church order should be taught to all and that the place is the Lord's sanctuary thus due respects and conduct should be strictly adhered to. Deacons should be there to ensure that problematic kids are taken out of church and chastised accordingly. Everyone should appreciate that each one comes to church to listen to God's word and should make sure that they do everything in their power to ensure the smooth running on the service without any disturbances.
2007-02-12 09:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gre2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not an option. u will alienate the parents and caregivers if u tell them they need to leave. thus making it to where they dont want to come back to ur church or any church for that matter. u can politely remind them that u have such a room for this use when the child starts acting up....but that is about it. just move closer to the pulpit if they are near u.
2007-02-12 09:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well in my opinion you shouldn't bring kids to church if they don't learn how to appreciate it yet. Church is too complex and boring for kids to understand. I suggest a separate mass held for kids in the Catholic faith so that kids can understand their faith in a fun way and not feel so burdened by it.
2007-02-12 09:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Changing churches probably won't work. The sad thing about it is....the whole problem lies with the parents not teaching proper disipline to the children. .....and it can be done....if only they would do it.
2007-02-12 09:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think every Church should have one worship service with Adults only. Make it midweek on a Wednesday.
2007-02-12 16:00:51 · answer #11 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋