How do I cope with everything???

Question

I am dealing with some issues in my life and its really consuming me. My grandfather is in a nursing home basically dying this is the man that has raised me since I was a child and the reality of it has kicked in, my boyfriend seems to think Im super woman and can work my full time job & help w/ his company, Im stressed on how my grandmother will take care once my grandfather passes (she 81), my boyfriends stress with his business and purchasing a new home has really got me stressd because he takes it out on me, and Im having a hard time dealing with his kids because they are beyond spoiled and if I say something he gets on the defense, and my 2 children are stressing me out ecspecialy my oldest who is ADHD and is going through some absent minded stage in his life. Im at the end of my rope latley and think I had a panic attack this weekend. Im not happy any more and constantly depressed sometimes I wish I wasnt born, What can I do to feel better?????

The reason I think I had a panic or am=nxiety attack was because I dropped to the floor started hyperventalating and I felt alittle tingley in my arm, what is going on with me Im scared and dont want to feel this way

Answer 1

It sounds like you have a crazy amount going on in your life. I'm the kinda person that cannot have too much going on or I will feel like you. You just have to accept the fact that there is way too much going on and you need to put a stop to some of it. Also, try to really remember the saying.. " don't sweat the small stuff!". that has helped me in the past. About your kids, if there is something you cannot change about then, then try not to worry. You boyfriends kids are that way because of him and their mother. Try your best to just love them unconditionally and eventually they will start showing some kind of affection. good luck!

Answer 2

I think that if your boyfriend is stressing you out like this, and he expects you to work full time you should split for a while. Tell him the time just isn't right. Give yourself a load off and spend some time with your grandfather. I think the more time you spend with him the more at ease you will feel. Is there any reason why you are your boyfriend wouldn't be able to take a break?

Answer 3

Your grandmother should go to a retirement community, where she can do activities and be taken care of and have support from other people who experienced the loss of a spouse. Your boyfriend's kids need to get spanked...and if your boyfriend is taking it out on you...take out your frustrations on him in return. Take a couple of days off from work to re-charge. Take a walk or a drive and just let out all your frustrations. Usually, when something is too much to handle, one tends to break down...but if he/she decides to "get back on the horse" after a good cry, he/she tends to perform much better. That's how it goes. Good luck with it all.

Answer 4

You sound exhausted, drained, fed up! i will ascertain you're overworked, for specific... Are you a perfectionist or sense such as you may desire to be on top of issues ? I propose, if there any subject all people faces, the guy has to look at herself and ask, am I doing something to make a contribution to this subject? i'm no longer announcing it is you're fault, yet a definite character definitely gets you right into a topic like this. study to delegate projects (ask others to do something). yet that takes sturdy speech skills. understanding to ask in a non-threatening and stunning way without sounding like a weasel...that form of difficulty. comprehend which you do no longer could unavoidably do each thing. permit somebody else to issues for you ...for the place of work...for the homestead. permit flow of administration... existence won't disintegrate unavoidably and you'd be happier. in case you're a working mom, or the only member of the kinfolk that keeps issues tidy and meals obtainable, i will comprehend your frustration. yet relax, tell others to do it (in the event that they'd) or think of outdoors the field and get take-out. despite to maintain your sanity.. Do what fits you ultimate. My words are incredibly crap if no longer something fits you.

Answer 5

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 6

You need to talk to someone. Find a close friend and spill everything. Sometimes just letting it all out helps. Maybe talk to the pastor of your church or if you don't have one, find one. It sound slike you need to set priorities in your life right now, and realize that you cannot take on the whole world. Be strong, and know that God knows all. Please....watch yourself. Right now you need to concentrate on your Family, children, grandparents,and health. Your boyfriend and his kids will have to wait. He should understand that, and if he dosen't, maybe you should rethink the relationship.
Take care.

Answer 7

You need a psychiastrist. You need someone to talk to who's not going to lash out at you. They can guide you and help you with coping skills. Also, they will help you with your anxiety. Make an appointment this week. You can't do this by yourself. Your boyfriend sounds like he's got his own stress to deal with and you two are headbutting.

Answer 8

CALL YOUR LOCAL DOCTOR NOW!!! OR AS SOON AS YOU CAN! YOU ARE GOING MADLY STRESSED, AND IF YOU HAD KEPT ALL THIS INSIDE YOU, NOW IT IS ALL COMING... AND YOU MAY GET VERY WEAK IMMUNE SYSTEM FROM THIS STRESS AND CATCH ANY TYPE OF COLDS/PROBLEMS/ STRESS/ VIRUS...

I WAS STRESSED ONCE, AND SO STRESSED I HAD MAD EYE PROBLEMS! CALL DOCTOR SO YOU CAN FIND A WAY TO CALM DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!