really stop u doing everyhting u wanted to do? Im 26 weeks pregnant, andI hear so many people say that once the baby is here your sex life will disapear, u won't be a ble to travel, u won't have any money, u won't be able to sleep, blah blah blah. But surely, with exception of maybe the first year, u can still do all the things u want to in life? I have travelled in my life, but plan to do a lot more, and can't wait to take baby along for the cultural experience. In fact, i would imagine it would be more fun with your child along!! i really can't see that having a baby should stop me doing anything really, surely its a state of mind to a degree... if u think u can't/shouldn't do it, then u won't!!!
2007-02-12 00:30:23 · 11 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree it is possibly a state of mind. I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my first and I just can't believe how negative everyone is about it all. Why CAN'T I take my 1 year old to the beach? Why CAN'T I still have a sex life? I wonder the same thing as you and I'm not letting a baby stop me...I'll take the baby along for a fun ride...and I agree with you...I think it'll be funner! Thanks for a great post.
2007-02-12 02:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having kids didn't stop me from doing things, but it did change what I wanted to do.
I always took my guys along in a snugli and they both were very good travellers. I noticed that the things that were important to me weren't as important when I had kids but things I hadn't really thought of became very important. After I had my second son, I ran for office (public school board) and served for two terms, something I doubt I ever would have done if I didn't have kids. I also gave up my job and started a home based business which I wouldn't have done if it wasn't for wanting to spend all my time with my boys.
As for money, that part is up to you. If you're the kind of person who cares for labels on kids clothes, you likely won't have money but if you aren't worried about that stuff and if you know/learn how to say no, you'll find ways to do what you want. The main money problem is living on one income or paying for daycare... either way, it's a huge bite from what you're used to living on if you both have an income now. I had planned to continue working and use daycare but I couldn't leave my baby...that was a blessing because it motivated me to start my own business.
Now, looking back on my life (my boys are 20 and 14 now) I haven't sacrificed a thing because of having children. My life was/is so much richer and fuller because of them and that sex life thing can easily be rekindled once you've got your energy back :) My wonderful husband and I are starting to look forward to having an empty nest and our marriage has never been better.
2007-02-12 08:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It certainly changes the way in which you do things. For the first little while you are mostly tied to the baby being that it will not have the best sleeping patterns and you are it's main source of food.
Babies do cost much more than most people anticipate, between frequent well baby check, out growing clothing, toys, furniture frequently. You will also have the added cost of nappies, food as well as a host of other miscellaneous costs.
With regards to travel, keep in mind that young children do not have the endurance or interests that we have, although it is is great to partake in cultural activities keep in mind that a young child will not be able to take in a full day, as well as when they get a little bit older you will need to provide more interactive activities in your travels to keep the interested. It doesn't necessarily inhibit travel, rather changes the way in which you do so.
2007-02-12 10:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard all those horror stories when I was pregnant we all did . The first few months of babies life no you wont get a whole lot of sleep unless daddy is around to help if he doesn't work at the crack of dawn he can do little things to take some of the strain off of you. Sex doesn't stop you don't lose your drive for it sometimes you just fall asleep before it happens, remember though don't neglect daddy he's used to it being just the two of you and he needs attention too plastic ninnies don't work for him anymore. The first year will be your getting adjusted period for you and baby, after that live life to the fullest your whole family will be stronger for it!!
2007-02-12 09:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by sweettaco69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always complain how hard life is: Those are the people you want to stop listening too! Life is hard, but what you do with your life is what makes it so enjoyable. There are different levels of stress- teenagers, mothers, wives, and many others- Everyone has stress in there lives but it is a different kind of stress. Having a child will be what you make it. Obviously it's not that bad or people wouldn't do it! : ) Your going to have such a wonderful life with your new baby, and don't listen to people that just want to tell you how hard your going to have it!
2007-02-12 08:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Adriane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a blessing and a joy. Yes you do lose some sleep and can't do somethings you want to do. But noone said you can't bring a baby on a vacation with you, or do the things you want. Don't listen to other people, having a baby is so much fun and they grow up so fast. So take them with you and enjoy all the moments you can with them. Good Luck.
2007-02-12 08:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kerri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money definitely got tight, but everything else got better than it was before we had our daughter . My husband and I welcomed our un-planned baby with big smiles and warm hearts. She was the biggest reason my fiance stopped dressing like a typical gangster and developed into a more wholesome, mature man. She opened my eyes to wanting to go back and finish school. We went to Florida to visit with his Mother and his sisters and step-dad. We grew to love the holidays even more because of fun it was to watch our daughter open presents, try to find Easter eggs and pick out pumpkin seeds. Our family on both sides grew closer to us and they love our daughter more than imaginable!!! There are times when it's rough, like trying to watch a movie when she's cranky or most of all, trying to get sexual with my fiance when she's determined to show us her toys or sleep in the same bed. But weigh it out, the good the bad, being a parent is the best responsibility you'll ever LOVE. Congratulations and take each day as it comes.
2007-02-12 10:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by reincarnated/beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haveing a baby just means that you are a mother and that you r child should be your first priority. try not to be selfish anfter the child comes its just NOT all about YOU anymore.
you can still do things like you used to and "sex" wise I have 2 kids and I do it everyday (no complaints here) ;)
Its not a state of mind though its a step toward adulthood!
welcome to growing UP!
as long as you take the mother role and have him or her on a schedule youll be ok! ( the baby will let you know what schedule is right for him/her
hopefully its not collicy ... thats rough and you need to be patient.
even your family mambers you thouhgt would help might turn their backs if its collic!
anywho... lifes got a plan for you and just keep on track.Maybe what you want to do now will have to be postponed for later ? big deal! right? you have your whole life... take care of the now part for now.
good luck and
I think its a boy!
2007-02-12 09:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by sam 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You live your life however you want. Give that baby all of the experiences you can. You don't have to be tied down and miserable just because you have a kid. I love being a mom, it is hard but SOOO REWARDING!!! Don't let anyone bring you down.
2007-02-12 11:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a baby doesn't stop anything, but it does tend to slow you down a bit. i wanted to attend college, and did, after 2 kids. i wanted to go to California, took kids. it was a strain on my pocketbook, but still fun. kids are a wonderful blessing to enjoy. oh, and by the way, i am now 54, enjoying being a grandma, and still enjoying sex!
2007-02-12 09:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by smommeee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋