My 14 year old daughter will do nothing she is told to do ,she shows no respect for her father or me and constantly skips school she is now permantly excluded and is forever running away ,we are at the end of our tether with her ,she has a terrible attitude and does not like discipline , the police have to bring her home all the time ,and as I am disabled I can,t control her can anyone help.
2007-02-12 00:28:29 · 34 answers · asked by jaydeetapp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry no one on here can help you had 14 years and you are suppose to start raising and disciplining at the beginning of the 14 years not after when problems start.
2007-02-12 00:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
First I would suggest you continue to support and love her. She knows she made a mistake so it is time to move on and get her prepared to be a mom. Next I would suggest looking into homeschool or virtual school. You can even find virtual public schools that are completly free. This would provide her the opportunity to stay home with the baby and also give her a chance to graduate early. Also, it is obvious that your daughter already loves her daughter by her choice to keep her. While it is clear that you are a great parent you must know that quite often adoptees will feel that their birth parents didn't want or love them. She doesn't want her child to feel neglected or abandoned which is comendable. As far as age, remember years ago it was the norm for women to get married and start families while they were in their teens. There is no reason your daughter can't. In today's society it seems that everyone is more irresponsible and immature but your daughter is already showing signs of being a caring mother. If I were in your situation I would encourage her to get a part time job ASAP. She probably won't be able to find one at 14 but she should start earning a paycheck as soon as possible so that she gets the real feel of what it is like to raise and be responsible for a child. At the same time she shouldn't be overworked, if possible, so that she still has time to finish school and bond with her baby. With the help of her family and the baby's family there is no reason she can't be successful. And as another poster suggested I would encourage parenting classes. Good luck and congratulations!
2016-03-29 03:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make a list on when she began to act badly. There has to be a root to the problem.Girls that age are going through many hormonal changes. They are still children but yet they feel like they are invincible. I am raising my 14 yr. old granddaughter that has been raised only by a father since birth. She is a very good girl but I have to call her down when she does not listen keeping control is important at the same time make them feel that they can make responsible decisions. I am also disabled. give a little more information there has to be something she is not getting so she is probably turning to a boy
sara
2007-02-12 00:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ImPoRtAnT . i am 14 too . don't be sad if my words were hard but i have to say what i have to . at this age and ofcourse for girls more .... she must feel that u love her . u have to give her ur attention more . just in this time don't be a father too much .be a friend , give her some of ur time , speak with her maybe she acts like that cuz she is sad from something and u could help her . i think if u give her some space she will act normally . just let her feel that she has a dad and a bestfriend , mam and another best friends . shouting will never get u what ever u want . i think u can do this . just try , u r not losing anything . does she have e-mail ? i would like to talk to her . my '' violentbird_3@hotmail.com'' good luck .
2007-02-12 01:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure you have her get a complete physical including an EEG there are many teens in our area that are found to have brain anomolys due to drugs in the parents life and they can't discern right or wrong.. its very scarey. I know 2 parents personally, one in CA and one in Nebraska.
If that comes back good then, I would suggest you can remand her to the courts, they have schools for teens that are out of control and your disability might qualify you. Check with a family lawyer. They can keep her there until she is 18 years old unless she can prove she will change her ways.
2007-02-12 01:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's screaming for some limits and attention.
try relating to her more than telling her what to do all the time (as she's not listening anyway). try to find the positives about her behaviour and acheivements and commend her for just the smallest things.
try to work as a team (husband and yourself) by setting boundaries and letting her know what the consequences are (ie remove her mobile phone or something she likes) so that she knows what will happen. also for positive behaviour, reward her with positive comments, clothing or things she would like - to encourage her to change.
boot camp isn't about squashing teens until they behave and have no life left in them. you'll find the success is found by building the teen's self esteem and feelings of achievement, love and belonging. you can do this yourselves at home!
it's hard work, but physically restricting just wont work and isn't necessary.
there should be some parenting courses relating to this you could attend.
i wish you luck!!
2007-02-12 00:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by noodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your local family court. Here in my state they have a program called CHINS-children in need of services. The court will set up a plan/guide for her that she has to abide by or suffer the consequences. My 4 kids have always been pretty good about everything so we have been lucky but I am sure there is a program for her somewhere to help out. Maybe she needs to be involved in something she really enjoys such as a sport or dance class, volunteering somewhere. Helping her feel validated and useful might help. Good Luck
2007-02-12 00:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have her committed to a reform school. The police department or the courthouse should have the proper forms....I think it's called a juvenile petition. There is no reason for you to put up with that kind of behaviour.
On the other hand, I have a feeling that you have never been much on discipline. You can't just start with the discipline when a kid becomes a teenager....you should have started at birth. But, it's too late for that now.
2007-02-12 00:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie you need to put her in some kind of military boot camp for deliquents. It is very important to get her help at this age
so she can start making smart decisions now. It doesn't sound
like things are getting better and are growing worse by the minute
You'll be doing yourself and her a favor by teaching her the
consequences of her behavior before she ends up in prison or dead somewhere. Also most of the time teens actions like this
are triggered by some kind of dramtic event in their life. She need's to see a counselor as well. She is crying out for help and
doesn't even know it. Good luck!
2007-02-12 02:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
report her as a runaway and let her go to juvinile hall for a while. I bet she appreciates home a little more after that. I just saw a kid the other day on that new show on MTV called "juvies" that was a runaway and her mom left her in juvi-hall. I have a daughter almost 14 who is very disrespectful too but doesn't runaway. I think the disrespect is part of the age but I'm working on her! Good Luck!!
2007-02-12 00:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no kid likes discipline but so what they are the children we are the parents
the next time she runs away tell the police to keep her
i am very serious
they will put her away for a few hrs and she may come around if not i would go to court and ask the judge to get her into a program for problem children
2007-02-12 00:34:22 · answer #11 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋