i am always afraid to hav kids?

Question

its bcause of all the pain, suffering, blood..
i love kids.. i'd like 2 hav a round belly, biological children, watching them play.. b a good mom n a happy granny.. bt wen i fink of all the pain & incisions.. better say NO
is there another way 2 avoid all this pain?

Answer 1

There's really no way to avoid it, there are drugs they can give you and then there's the epidural. I have three kids. I was given drugs with the first - hated it, made me too groggy...and epi with the second - hated it...it numbed the pain for awhile, but when it came time to push I had no feeling in my legs and that made delivery really difficult. With the third I just said fu** it and went with natural and I'm glad I did. Sure it hurts, but I can tell you that the second it's over all the pain goes away...you're too busy focusing on your baby to notice or care.

Seriously, the whole time you're going through labor you're thinking "I am NEVER doing this again", but once it's over you think "Eh, that wasn't so bad". We're women, we're tough - you can do it!!!

Answer 2

OK..I was 19 when I had my oldest child..and the whole time i was pregnant i was thinking that i wasn't going to be able to do it..but the by the time that i was 9 months i didn't care care anymore i wanted the baby out!! Let me tell u..u go into labor so fast and everything happens so fast that u don't even get time to think about it..im not going to lie..yes it hurts..but by the time that u have the baby u don't even remember what the pain felt like..and the joy of holding that baby that u have carried for so long is overwhelming!!

Now there are drugs that they can give u to help u threw the pain..i had the epidural..the one i had with my oldest made me completely numb but with my second child i could still feel but there was no pain...

I think the best advice that I can give u would be to read..read pregnancy magzines..books...they can tell u alot and as far as pain, blood and suffering....theres hardly any blood even with a c-section and suffering..no way..and as far as pain..everything good in life comes from a little pain!!!

Answer 3

I'm not sure who you're listening to about the "pain, suffering, blood" but you need to talk to some moms.

My first labour was about 4 hours. The pain was bearable and there was no suffering. A lot of joy and when the baby comes, it's incredible. I had an incision but I had an epidural (didn't hurt) which took away all feeling so I didn't even know they'd stitched me.

If you think about how many women have more than one child, you'll begin to understand that they all did it again knowing exactly what the experience is like.

I looooved being pregnant. I was so high on life and love and excitement. I was terrified of labour with my first but it turned out to be about 1/5th as bad as I had expected. My second was also an easy birth but took a bit longer and I did that one without any drugs :) My body knew just what to do and it honestly wasn't too bad. If I'd have had a 3rd child, I would have gone with no drugs for that one also.

Be careful who you listen to about labour. There are some people who just enjoy telling horror stories and like to get attention by exaggerating their experience. My next door neighbour went into hospital at 7 a.m. and had her daughter at 2 p.m. but a few years later (at a baby shower) I heard her talk about her 19 hours of labour. She was induced (so not in labour at all when she entered hospital) and had 6 hours of labour at the most in reality.

Most moms will be able to explain to you that even long labours are rarely unbearable for long. You start out with very small pains that grow into larger and harder pains but most people get through it without any meds or any real trouble and if you want, an epidural will keep away the pain once it starts to be hard to bear.

Answer 4

I think we were all just as scared as you are. i was in labor (the first time) for 18 hours, before they decided to do a c-section. the pain wasn't really that bad. sort of like having stomach flu. i was asleep during actual delivery. the second child was a planned c-section. it was like checking into a motel, same procedure, but with no labor pains. how scary is that? people say omg you had to have a c-section you poor thing. how painful for you! actually, the labor pains that first time, was the worst part. like the flu, it passes too. my babies are worth a lot more than a little stomach pain. i could do it again and again. I'm not going to tell you it doesn't hurt, because it does! But the pain is easier to bear than toothache pain. once the baby (or tooth) is out, the pain goes away.

Answer 5

If it were not worth it in the end, nobody would have multiple children. The "pain and suffering" go away once you see that little baby after its born. Blood and incisions occur during c-sections, which don't happen every pregnancy, and when they do you are medicated. And also, thanks to modern medicine, if you choose to get an epidural, you don't have to feel almost anything.

Answer 6

yes there is a way artificial insemination in which egg of ur and sperm of ur man is fused artificially and provided artificail conditions like ur womb or inserted in to another womb after gestation period and delivery u can have u r baby but is this all need lots of money and have some disadvantages. there are some pain reducing injections which dont give u pain during delivery. but carrying is compulsory

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Adopt?

Seriously, it's not as bad as you think. And once you're holding that newborn in your arms, you immediately forget the discomfort of the last nine months. It's worth it, I promise. You'd be surprised what you're capable of handling.