ok so i have this guy. i have asked questions about before. so here's another one. i felli nlove with this guy who has a girlfriend. he told me he loves me. and he has all these crazy plans for the 2 of us after high school. but all my friends tell me he's a player and not worth giving the time of day to. but i love him. and he says he loves me. but he's still with his girlfriend(not me) and i worked up the courage to day to ask him if he loves her. he said yes he loves us both. and i don't know what to say to that, or how to get him to realize i love him more. and i'm the better choice for him to be with. i'm afraid to make him choose. because i don't want to lose him. what do i do????
2007-02-11 23:52:09 · 14 answers · asked by nona_luvs_you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi,
think about what you have said. HE LOVES YOU AND SOMEONE ELSE. not just you or just her, are you that in need for the companionship of a man that you have to share him with someone. how about you finding someone who can love you and you only. what about you loving yourself first. getting to know yourself so that when that man does come around to love you, you will be able to see him for who he is and for the love that he wants to give you. there is so much more to you i am sure that sure you don't need someone like him to put you down and tell you that he needs both of you in his lives.
2007-02-12 00:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's with you and her at the same time, what's to say that even if he "chooses" you over her that another woman won't come along and offer him the same "choice" at your expense?
Why can't you see that he is not the type of guy that will be loyal to his girlfriend? Why do you fail to realize that he wants multiple sex partners? Such a desire is natural, but it doesn't make for healthy, honest, caring relationships. That is what you want is it not?
Or maybe you like him doing other people...
2007-02-12 07:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in the wrong place girl. You shouldnt be liking someone who already has a girl. Thats not fair to his girlfriend. Wow highschool is childish. Acting this way is No means LOVE! Its lust and just being dumb.
You need to back off, and encourage him not to tell you he loves you. What kind of girl are you? Guys dont want a girl who trys to break people up. If you like him, keep it to yourself until he is single. But you shouldnt be encouraging him to cheat on his girl. Shame on you! Literally.
Highschool is overated, you will meet someday. But dont play those games. Let him go, if you know whats best for you.
If you lose him, you lose him. Dont let your emotions get the best of you, and dont let your emotions get you in trouble.
2007-02-12 07:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do girls are always being fooled around? come on girl... i think ur friends are rite... i dun think he loves either u or his girlfriend... coz u noe what, if he really loves sumone, he would have never been able to fall in love with 2 different girls at a time... come on, dun be such a fool... think wisely... dun let ur heart do the thinking... let ur brains do ur thinking... coz even if he choose u, and when u and him have coupled, can u guarantee that he would never find another girl and tell him that he loves her and plans all sorts of things with her? in the end, its back to the drawing point... im just giving u some advice... anyway, u r the one who is gonna decides it...
2007-02-12 07:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one way to find out who he truly loves. Tell him you respect his right to be with her but you are ready for a relationship and since he isn't ready for one (with only you) you are moving on! Tell him if he ever changes his mind and wants to be with ONLY you, he can look you up and if you're still free and if you still are interested maybe you can get together. But if and until that time comes, he is not to contact you in any way. Then put him out the door!
2007-02-12 07:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a cheater now he will cheat again. If he can't make up his mind that means that he hasn't got strong enough feelings to make a hard decision. Don't waste your time with someone like this. Find someone who is available and cares about you enough not to hesitate in this situation. Tell him he had his chance. Send him packing.
2007-02-12 08:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in High School... Go to college and get some brains.
Your FRIENDS said he is a player.... You see he is a player...
When your MARRIED he would be a player....
But then you'd have 2 kids and he'd be off playin...
YOU WANT THAT GIRL????
2007-02-12 07:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by twister_rocks2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice i can give...sorry but its to give up. Really seems like your friend is telling the truth but it can be hard to give up just like that so jus think about it whether u want to be hurt or whether you want to take a chance for real happiness but that is still my best answer
2007-02-12 08:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I'm going to repeat what your friends are saying...he's a player and not worth your time of day. Your friends are there for a reason....you should listen to them.
2007-02-12 08:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give up on him.This is not the type of man you should be going after. You deserve a better guy. He's such a ***. I hate guys who does that. He should be devoted to his girlfriend.
2007-02-12 08:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by donaldaisyduck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋