I split with my ex back in august and my daughter 2yr old stayed with her as i had no where to live. my ex is an alcoholic and drinks heavily on a weekend with a number of people in the house, ive noticed that my daughter has small bruises on her from falling, the falling isnt whilst she is walking she's falling of the kitchen table and work tops. I want to contact the social but dont want her to know it was me, how would anyone else go about it i've spoke to my ex but she says that she cant always be around her 24/7. is she more interested in getting wrecked or about my daughter?
2007-02-11 23:36:23 · 20 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How do you know the bruising is from falling off chairs? You have to be so careful nowadays what you are accusing people of. You really do not want your child to be put into care, that is not the best thing for her. Can you not arrange to have her on a weekend? Do you have a place to live now? If not, stay with a friend, relative or even in a cheap hotel. I'm sure your ex wont mind you having your daughter if all she wants to do on a weekend is drink.
Please think about your daughter and what will happen to her if she is taken away from her mummy. Are you in a position to take custody of her? If not, she could end up anywhere.
You are right to worry about your daughter but try and do something yourself instead, you are the father and you have the same responsibility towards your little girl as your ex.
2007-02-13 20:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dingle-Dongle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have somewhere to live now then why not agree to share more of the custody of your daughter? That way you could keep more of an eye on her.
I think though if you have any concerns about her safety and welfare then you should contact social services, and talk to the professionals about whether it's a good idea to keep it anonymous as to who called them or not. These people are trained to deal with situations like this and can offer sound advice.
Above all however, don't let your daughter become the object in a tug of war.
2007-02-11 23:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by hevs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to contact the scoail services. It is basically your relationship with your ex versus the safety of your daughter! It sounds like the mother is not responsible enough to have the daughter in the house.
If you don't contact the social services, ask for the child back first, and make that the ultimatum.
2007-02-12 00:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent is being about 24/7, or being responsible for someone being with her 24/7, certainly at that age.
Contact your local child protection services to enquire casually. If you decide to proceed, however, it will start a ball rolling that you must be prepared for.
Even if the CPS don't tell your ex that it was you, she will suspect anyway, so you might as well be the one to step in if you feel it neccessary.
2007-02-11 23:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really sympathise with you and had a friend in a similar situation.Its only a matter of time before other people will start to notice and ask questions.So id point this out to your ex,and suggest she sorts her self out and makes sure your daughter is her number one priority otherwise you may have to inform the authorities, as every child deserves to feel safe and protected, especially at home.Good luck to you.
2007-02-11 23:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ramona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG that is so terrible, i wouldn't waste time sitting around thinking about what to do i would be straight on the phone to social services as an annonymous caller, too many stories in the paper involving little kids and all the what if we had done something sooner she could fall and really hurt herself and you don't want that on your consience
Good luck
Pick up the phone x
2007-02-11 23:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by caitnor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your concerns are genuine (and not that you are trying to 'get back' at your ex) then yes, do contact the social! They will investigate.
I can't believe your ex said she can't be around her 24/7!! She's 2 for christs sake!! Not quite independent yet! She should be supervised at ALL times.
Its irresponsible for your ex to be drinking around her. You deffinately need to voice your concerns to someone before its too late!
Its neglect!
2007-02-12 03:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
phone social services all kid sget small bruises from falling and will try to climb on work tops but the mum shouldnt really be drinking like that with a 2 yr old in her care you can tell social with out giving your name
2007-02-12 00:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
under the new law for if you ring the social services you will have to give you name now but at the end of the day if you love your daughter then that will not matter you should be thinking of your daughter she is all that matters how would you fell if something bad happened to her.
2007-02-12 02:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by angle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what to do? You're more negligent than your ex is. You're the dad and you don't want to be the one to step in and protect your daughter? Your ex may be more interested in getting wrecked, but what are you more interested in?
Protect that innocent child!!!
2007-02-11 23:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋