my problem is regarding my father in law who lives with us for 20 yrs. He has taken some advantage with me by touching my behind or by holding my waist and once telling me i am very pretty while trying to pull me inside the room. of course, my reaction is to push him outside and telling him his a *****. I told all these things to my husband, which is his son. nothing happened. One time he hold me again on my waist and butt, i pushed him . I told my daugher about this , by the way she's 23 yrs old and she confronted his grandfather directly.The old man keeps on denying all these. until he left our house. Now after a year my father in law wants to come bacxk to our house. Me and my daughter same with my son don"t want him here, but my husband think it's time to forgive him for he is old and have only yrs. left to live. I plan to leave our home together with my daughters and sons. Is this right? God Forgive me but its too much. I cant tale it anymore.
2007-02-11 23:20:03 · 6 answers · asked by sheilahgarcia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father-in-law was out of line, as well as your husband in not standing up for you. Talk to you husband and tell him that it is either you or his father and he must choose. If he takes in his father then pack you bags and move with the children. I do not know where he has been living since he originally move out, but there is a reason he is looking to move back. Did he do it to someone else thus can't live there anymore? Perhaps you and your husband can find a hotel or something for him to stay. Help him financially if he needs it, but the best thing is to keep him out of your house. Put your foot down and stick to what you say. There needs to be no more discussion about the situation. Let your husband make an informed decision and then let him face the consequences. You just do what is best for you.
2007-02-12 00:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have extended families here in America but I don't care how extended your family may get it doesn't give your father in-law or any other male member the right to manhandle you. That's your husband's and only your husband's right. You've told your husband and he did nothing. Now I would give him an ultimatum: Either he speaks to his father and tells him he is to keep his hands to himself or get out!
If he doesn't have the balls to do that then I'm with you. I'd pack my bags, take my kids and leave. You shouldn't have to put up with being sexually harassed by anyone...in any country. After you're gone the old man can live his days out touching his son's behind and holding his waist! Good luck to you honey
2007-02-11 23:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, extended families are basically the de rigueur (sp?) in the Philippines. But, I guess respect should still be a requirement even in this setting.
2007-02-12 03:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by nausea guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain and i would not want to be your situation. the only thing that came to my mind tell your husband that if his father comes to live with you, you will bring a member of your family to stay with you.
2007-02-11 23:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by mc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will treat you the way you wish to be treated. Solve this problem yourself .... one swift kick to his groin and he'll never bother you again. Stand up for yourself, this old man has no right to touch you this way.
2007-02-12 00:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you arleen J
2007-02-11 23:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Big P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋