My boyfriend of four years has complete disregard for my feelings and safety when he has a drink . He has been aggresive with me and called me names, suggested I am having affairs and threatened to cut my legs with glass if I ever cheated. GHe then sobers up and is a s quiet as a mouse and cries for his evil deeds. I am scared of him but also feel heartbroken as I really did love him and miss him at times now I have asked for some space to think. He has explained these incidents as being drunk, but this is false I believe. He still will not stop drinking and binge drinks at times. The rest of the time he is quiet and loving but his other side is dangerous and controlling. What is this about? is it alcohol induced or his personality coming through
2007-02-11 23:01:07 · 10 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My dear, it seems to me that he has trapped you. If you are at all frightened of him run, run away as fast as you can. Believe me, I've taken many cases of women like you that end in absolute tragedy. He has created an air of reliance and trust with you, all the while breaking down your self, but when he is on the drink that vanishes and his true, hateful, manipulative nature shows.
Leave him at once, there are more men out there, men who will not hurt you.
And please, for your own safety, disregard the advice of those telling you to confront him, that will only end in tears, and possibly your injury, or even death.
2007-02-11 23:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol is a horrible thing. I've been battling it ever since I've been 17 years old(I'm 31 now) and it's been the cause of many of the worst times in my life. What it sounds like to me is that your boyfriend has a lot of issues that come out only when he's less inhibited(influenced with booze). If you two are to truly have a good relationship, he needs to deal with his issues, and realize that there's more to life than getting drunk.
2007-02-11 23:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Northy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS THE OLDEST TRICK IN THE BOOK...
It is a PHYSICAL and MENTAL abuse. Being AFFRAID is NO WAY to live at ANY time!
If you are affraid he will seek you out and turn revenge then find a safe haven.
You need help, GET OUT NOW.....
They have women shelters to help you if you have no where to go.
Do NOT RETURN!!!! Even if he says he is better or will be different. HE WILL NOT!!!!
Your life is in danger... GET OUT!
2007-02-11 23:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a borderline personality disorder that is induced by alcohol addiction. These guys never get better, they just get more dramatic. Get out!
2007-02-11 23:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to seek pyschological help for his alcoholism, and anger. Also, you need to set some limits, tell him that you cannot be around him when he is drinking, and, maintain your distance, when he does!
2007-02-11 23:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter which side is which, this man is dangerous and may well hurt or kill you if you don't leave him. Don't say I didn't warn you!
2007-02-11 23:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some poeple are Angry drunks...... maybe he should cut down considerably...... leave him if you feel in danger
2007-02-11 23:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by mdlbldrmatt135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
---you should demand that he stop his drinking---if he doesn;t then leave him----if you can get him off the alcohol i;m sure that he would be the man you love again----good luck---and yes please be carfull
2007-02-11 23:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a fool you love another and .....
2007-02-11 23:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋