I have no motivation for succeeding in my Highschool career. Throughout my life I have been a diligent student

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I have no motivation for succeeding in my High school career. Throughout my life I have been a diligent student who worked for what he got and never gave up. Now I'm a pathetic moron who can't even draw up enough effort to succeed in school. I worked so hard that I was able to skip 8th grade, and maintain a perfect 4.0 record through the years, and all in small private high school. I'm 14 years of age and a sophomore with a dimming future. I may get two F's for my incredible blunder. I really need to get my life on track so that I wont mess up my whole life. The work in school is not hard. In fact it's extremely easy. I need some advice on how to reshape my future. I'm truly ashamed of myself and want to improve, but here I am asking for advice. I really feel disappointed in myself. If anyone has gone through this problem and has some suggestions, you are more than welcome. Anything people say could help carve out a better future. Thanks everyone

Answer 1

"Gifted" students find school, especially primary school, easy.
This causes your first problem: when it begins to get hard, you aren't used to being challenged, and just can't be bothered.

"Gifted" students often find school boring. Second problem - you lose motivation.

I often asked in high school, "Why can't we learn useful, relevant things??". Third problem - frustration.

However, if you can overcome these problems, particularly the lack of motivation, you will come to tertiary education. That was when I was finally able to say, "THIS is useful. THIS learning all relates to one outcome - my career. THIS is the brain food I have been craving all my life."

It sounds like you may have some mistakes to make up for. Speak to your teachers and say you have realised your mistakes and would really like to re-do those assignments. You may even have to repeat a whole year, but in the long run, if you make the most of it, who cares?

BUT - don't burn yourself out! Make regular "me" time and do something fun. Otherwise you may resent that schooling has taken up your whole life.

What did you wish to be when you grow up, before you lost motivation? Rediscover your goals and work out what you have to do to reach them. Remember, school is now boring, but when it's over you will find what your mind is looking for.

Answer 2

first off i want to highly commend you on all of your succeedings in the prior years!! i have a 13 year old who is an advanced student as well. going thru school even being super smart is not easy! but if you can learn to focus the negative thoughts that you are having and turn them around and think about all the positives to getting thru school such as getting out earlier than most and not having to struggle to get there you might start feeling better!! and NEVER,NEVER,NEVER feel ashamed of yourself for feeling down on life from time to time! it is called life and we all have our ups and downs! i struggled in school my hole life and finally at 16 years old i had enough and dropped out...worse decision i ever made! i was a mother by 17 2nd child at 18 and my 3rd at 22 so going back to school was not even comprahendable. but i turned 30 in sept. last year and i just went back and received my high school diploma and it took me months of work to get it! but sweetie just keep your head up and pull your focus together and remember the light is always brighter on the other side. and dont be surprised if you go thru this rut again afterall given your age and being mixed in with the older kids can be enough to do it. i hope you succeed and go on to use your brillant mind to do something great!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

WOW. your a big down aren't you. Take it easy on yourself, there are plenty of other people who are only too willing to put you down in life, so don't put yourself down. You seem to know what you have to do ( put your life back on track) and from your past results you know how to do it, the question is why don't you? sorry to tell you but you are going to make heaps of blunders in your life. Do you have someone close like a parent, uncle or even a school counsellor you can talk to? You should be very proud of yourself, you have done very well to achieve what you have.

Answer 4

People at your age go threw things and you just cant explain them, and yes girls go throu it too.

ask your school princabel for some advise like what other subjects can you do to make you more interested in school and what might help you choose a career for your self for the future.

Just think of all the things you might want to do like do want to be a builder or accountant or computer adviser a artist? I don't know what subjects your school has but this might help and if they don't have the subjects you want and a near by school has them if you discuss nicely with your parents they might let you change school especially if its going to help further your career.

Answer 5

hi how are you.future never lies on what you vomit in your exam papers.future is nothing but what you shape yourself.first you search yourself in what way you are interested.and then make a survey to how to reach the goal.after surveying try to select one of the way and do according to that.now you are the gem of all the people.for all these you need patience.

Answer 6

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

How can I know my mind?
An alert mind is not a problem; an unaware mind is. The mind projects the future to be fulfilling but misses the beauty of the present. If you are rich, you want to be richer; if you are strong, you want to be stronger; if you are beautiful, you want to be more beautiful. Such a mind does not make you live life but leave life.

Such a mind creates false prayers. You make a ritual out of prayer and pretend to pray. Such prayer becomes an empty gesture.

Why am I so greedy?
There is a visible world and there is an invisible world. There is a visible self and an invisible self. The visible world is a world of diversity and the invisible world is a world of oneness.

If we live on the periphery we will feel incomplete but completeness is one’s nature. This incompleteness wants us to be a complete person. But the only track it knows is greed, wanting more. The enlightened masters give us not a dogma but a device to reach this state of completeness.

We should stop fooling around with life. Just thinking to be happy is not enough; just thinking to be wise is not enough. It is a luxury to think but it is wisdom to live. Ask yourself: Are you concerned with reality or fantasy?

There are two ways to know reality. If you want to know objective reality, then science is the way out. If you want to know subjective reality, turn to spirituality.

Why does one worry in life ?
Worry has become a habit for many. An inner energy that is not creative goes around in circles of worry. A creative person is one who, when he encounters a problem, is focused on the solution and is not a victim to the problem. Convert the problem into a springboard for possibilities.

A doctor does not cure illness but allows the healing process within to surface by giving it the right condition. So, too, the true healer exists within you. But you have to create the right condition. By looking at the mountain you can’t climb the mountain, you should will yourself to climb the mountain. Optimise this will for you to be above worry.

What should one do to be successful in life?
Ultimately what you need is self-confidence, mental toughness, commitment to excel and the ability to use the power of imagination.

What do you mean by self-confidence?
There are three pillars of self-confidence: Feeling good, taking responsibility and developing skills. There are both healthy ways and unhealthy ways of feeling good. You should develop the discipline to feel good in a healthy way. The quality of one’s life is the quality of one’s consistent feeling. There are techniques that are taught how to hold and maintain consistent feelings of empowerment within you.

How does one acquire clarity?
Clarity is acquired not by knowledge but by knowing. It is not a belief system; it is intelligence operating in the domain of freedom. The true meaning of renunciation is not renouncing the world but renouncing bondage. When bondage is renounced there is freedom, the most important thing. In freedom lies intelligence. It is not just discipline but true freedom. Freedom is not something devoid of order; it is a flowering of order.

Answer 7

QUIT BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!!!!....U SHOULD BE HOLDING YOUR HEAD UP AS HIGH AS YOU CAN W/ A 4.0 :).........GET 2 COLLEGE!!!!.THE MINUTE U GRADUATE!!!!!!...FOCUS ON YOU!!!!.....FORGET THE "FRIENDS" AND HAVN "FUN" UNTIL YOU'VE COMPLETED YOUR EDUCATION........ AND UNTIL YOU ARE RICH AND FEEL COMPLETE :)