Guys, this is a personal question, so no offence intended.
If you loved this girl very much and you were both dating very well, then suddenly one day, she spurned you and moved on, or she cheated you and walk off, how do you feel?
Do you feel terrible? Or you feel it is okay? Or you may even feel "Hush! To hell with her"?
As a man, do you feel dejected, or do you feel you should be man enough to take all this. Do you think feeling devastated is okay or is it considered girly?
Hey this is for guys only. I know how you girls will feel. (eg Sob!)
2007-02-11 22:36:06 · 19 answers · asked by Forward 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a guy, but I wanted to answer this, hope its OK.
I'm sure you know this already, but it is unhelpful to generalise. ALL women do not sob, some are tough cookies.
I think that it takes a real man to cry. I am sad to read your question because I would hope that there would be progress in the world. In the 21st century I would hope that people could be real and have deep feelings and that this would be sen as a positive, human thing.
As a woman I would not want to be with a man who acted like a cardboard cut out macho hero. I would want to be with a man who had feeings and wasn't afriad to show them sometimes.
I do understand that it is more difficult for a man to show his feelings, say in public or to his mates.
A real man with deep feelings could not help but feel devastated to lose a girl he loved.
I think it has more to do with personality than gender - a more out going, extrovert person would get over it quicker than a deeper, more introverted person. Also it depends on your age - easier to get over a break up when you're young!
If this has happened to you, I hope you will receive the support you need from friends and family, and that you will find te right girl for you soon.
2007-02-11 22:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Suzita 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well it happened to me a week ago and yes I was devastated. Mainly because she said she love me through our two year relationship then suddenly she said she been going off me over the last few months.
It does hurt when you hear that special person say they dont like you in that way no more.
I think the main reason it hurts so much, well for me anyway is the 'Shock' of it. Like it comes from no where and you dont know what to do. its like a bomb shell hitting your perfect little world.
Its ok for the females though as obviously they have been preparing themselves for ages to do it.
At the end of the day I admit I was very upset and cried. people shouldnt give a f**k what other people think. at the end of the day you need to talk about how you feel to someone atleast and you start feeling better.
Meen since its happened Ive become closer to my family as a result- so something good has come out of it.
2007-02-11 23:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude i just got dumped 2 days ago,online an on my birthday too,i feel like crap but what i did was just put some distance between us,end of the day i feel as tho i am better off without someone soooo shallow enough to do that
2007-02-17 15:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by deaddrop72 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not think it is a bad thing to have emotions and to express them - I think to hide those emotions away is certainly a bad thing.
But looking to the future, once all the rage and the anger is gone you may find out for yourself what is was that was missing for you in this whole thing and then you might gain something from that.
Everyone needs to move on sometime - she has and eventually so will you.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 04:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay yes im a girl but i read your question and wanted to answer anyway. its okay for a guy to feel deverstated its okay for him to feel however he wants but at the end of the day you just have to pick yourself and realise that life moves on and shes probably a bit of a ***** anyway if she had cheated on you. No point in sitting around feeling sorry for yourself it doesnt get you anywhere just put a brave face on it and get on with your life.
2007-02-11 22:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what you feel man. Most men choose women who they can relate to such as similuarities like their mum or aunt or sister have in some way, whether its a good cook to caring or humour.
2007-02-19 10:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it happened suddenly without warning.
I'd feel devastated.
But would want a reason why and if she refused to give it
Then to hell with her she's not worth thinking about
I'd move on without looking back
2007-02-11 23:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Zenlife07 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be very normal and acceptable to feel upset. You are only human, and either a male or female would, this is not only from a guy's perspective.
2007-02-19 04:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes to everything you mentioned! And you should know that you will feel the way you feel! You cannot pick and choose that!
And stop blubbing and crying on Answers, for chrissake! You are depressing everybody!
2007-02-19 11:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys would be heartbroken just like the girlies..nobody likes being dumped.
2007-02-18 23:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋