If you were me, How would you respond to my Girlfriend's e-mail? Please help!! Thanks so much!?

Question

Dearest Sexy,

I have a proposition for you. I have been thinking about this for many many days now, so I am 100% sure this is something I'd personally like to do.

Remember when we had that misunderstanding about where you would stay after you move to Winston-Salem? I originally stated that only a short-term stay was workable. Well, I thought about it for awhile after that, and decided that it might actually be a good idea to share a household. Let me give you a run-down of the idea I had in mind.

I think you would be a good roommate, when you move to Winston. If you take this offer, you would be in for 1/3 of the expenses (since there would be 3 people here.) This comes out to about $350 a month which includes all current utilities. I would simply ask for that as a flat rate each month. You would have your own room, and Nessa and I would share a room (the bigger of the two, currently my office).

Even though we are involved with each other in an intimate way, I still think looking at this like a practical roommate arrangement is best.

Here are some reasons why I think this will be beneficial. From a compatibility standpoint we are both quiet people, have similar sleep patterns, value clean and tidy housekeeping, are frugal, don't watch TV much, and have mutual respect. This arrangement stands to help us both financially; I could pay off debt and afford online college. I'm sure you could do something special with the extra cash, whether it be saving up, investing, helping your mom, going back to school, or anything your heart desires.

Domestic tasks would also be simpler if we break it into roles we both enjoy. I could make dinner most nights, and you could take care of most of the yard work. Food expenses could be casually shared & we could benefit from buying in bulk. Cleaning house is something we already do in our current homes; I feel assured you are the type to clean up after yourself even with a woman in the house.

It's important to note that due to work, travel, and school, we would still not have a lot of time to see each other even if we lived together. I would be busy once I got home, and we might be seeing each other only at dinner.

You would have time to yourself probably every week since you get mostly weekdays off. I would still visit my family every other weekend. But, we could go on dates/"sleepovers" just as usual when Nessa is away (Wednesdays and every other weekend). Except, there would be no 2 1/2 hour drive to worry about.

The things that might pose problems are as follows. We could not probably have 3 cats here. Also, there may not be enough room for all your furnishings. These are two things we will have to work on if you take this offer.

You will also have to decide if you are prepared to live in a home with a 7-year old. Some days are fun, but some days are annoying. You would not be expected to take on a parental role. However, because Nessa admires you she will probably seek your attention sometimes. She is talkative and asks lots of questions, and wants to be included in things. Every so often she might pitch a fit over something that seems irrational and it is a very unpleasurable thing to witness. You are a good role model, and this is also a benefit to me & Nessa. But, you have to consider whether this is a benefit to you. Think about whether being a male role model is a rewarding experience to your heart, or if it doesn't really do anything for you. Remember it is normal to get disgusted by children, especially when they are not your own. Just recognize whether you are willing/able to cope with such feelings from time to time.

Anyways, I plan to get rid of some more junk if you decide to make this move. That way we won't be so crowded. I do think there is plenty of room for the three of us, as long as we stay reasonably organized and avoid excess. Neatness will be important.

If you'd like to do this, let me know. You do not have to give an immediate answer; just think about it. Please read at least twice before making a decision.

I hope you have a deliciously wonderful day!

Yours always,

Pumpkin

Answer 1

Well, this is a very well written and thought out proposal. It's seems like a good suggestion, without knowing how serious you two are. I guess if you are thinking about marrying her eventually anyway, you may as well go for it! Best of luck!

Answer 2

While some people may think this sounds like a business arrangement, I personally think it is very mature and well thought out. Too many people jump into situations without thinking through all of the problems that may arise. She has been very truthful about the situation, her child, etc. Sounds like she has herself together.Now, you have to decide if it is something that would be good for you personally. More couples should talk things over to this extent before moving in together.

Answer 3

That is a plain invitation of living together. Do not be fooled before you know it you would be playing the role of a father to that kid. You be the provider of that family. Tell her how you feel about the whole thing and let her konw that you still want to enjoy the benefits of being a sinlge person without any parental responsibilities.

Be cautios in agreeing to this invitaions.

Good luck.

Answer 4

first off if you two are romantically involved shouldn't she tell you this on the phone or in person? It sounds like a contract. Yes these issues should be discussed when living together but when it is for romantic reasons...you wait until the first day the person has moved in. She really doesn't seem to trust or respect you with all this. It's all her her her.... what about you? Geez financial talk like that is a big turn off. Even if there is a kid involved. I was a single mom for sometime. She shouldn't date you and bring you around her kid if she does'nt trust you. Don't allow her to assign you duties...it should be joint. Maybe she has no clue how ridiculous she sounds. Explain this to her on the phone...then based off her answer you decide.

Answer 5

if you really love her then i think you can come along with the kidd any way, and the rest of stuffs, wow you dont really need alot of expenses to make, not for furnishing things either, since she is almost already prepared.....this sounds to me very adjustable, i think you can go with it, and of course it is not gonna be eternal, you can see for it later if this life is really adjustable and easy for ya or no...besides it is her mail and she has expressed her expectaions form you here, she hasnt mak any justifications to also include you, or might she not be very much aware of your expectations, i dont see anything wrong in it, but if you see it from this point she has given ou alot respect and tld you everything in full details about her life and the way that isadjustable for her.....however you might have your expectations from her too, so you can write her a detailed mail as that and tell her what are and what are not adjustable for ya......you can boh come to a mutual undertanding and give your life a new start......Good Luck!

Answer 6

She talked deeply, that uncomplicated or maybe typical found out individual can't incredibly understand what he observed.. She do no longer sounds communicative....Sounds weird and wonderful! Is she a psychologist or a psychology pupil who dont to bypass the point to be understood by using human beings even close to to her... She is your gf, desire you recognize her.

Answer 7

Thats a very formal email, between lovers - don't sign anything is my opinion!

If my gf sent an email in that format or use of the english language i'd be very concerned.

That reads like a spam email, like the ones you get offering you money from someone in Nigeria or another African Country, providing you give them your bank account details!!

Phone her

Answer 8

Geez...she didn't leave a stone unturned did she? I guess you really would have to read it twice, and decide if this is something you really want to do. I guess I would respond by saying, "I've read your email, but now I'm exhausted, I'll let you know what I think after I sleep on it." Or just respond by, "Got your email...I'll be in touch soon."

Answer 9

I'm a girl and i would caution any guy getting into a situation where all the terms are dictated by the woman (may be i'm a bit of a chauvinist!!!)

good luck man!!! if i were u, i wouldn't go near such a person.

Answer 10

can i apply for this position i am very clean and will do all the yard work and get rid of the cats ...i hate them we will get a dog and live happily ever after