I'm really close to this teacher in my school, I could trust her wth anything. She's helping me quit self harming, but I'm worried that it's putting her job at risk cause I know she's supost to report stuff like that to my guidence teacher. I live in the UK if that matters? What should I do, I know it's her choice to help me and not say anything.
2007-02-11 22:03:14 · 20 answers · asked by Madness 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
That is really considerate of you to think of her position and I applaud you. Yes she could endure some problems from concealing you. But she is on the spot with you for a greater part of the day and therefore may have a better insight into the things she can help you overcome that give rise to your behavior.
I think you owe it to her to discuss your feelings and let her make the decision of whether she wants to continue, or whether she and you feel it's OK to make a report to your guidance overseer and let the matter be handled by someone else.
Some people relate to problems like yours better than others, they may have gone through the same situations or know of someone who did and can be more empathetic and constructive with the advice they give you. Once you find one of these people value them as they are the ticket to your better health.
Good luck girl!.
2007-02-11 22:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine she would be ok. I know in my daughter's school (in UK) the children can talk to any of the teachers in confidence and seeing as you were self harming it is even more important to you to have someone you can completely trust. Why do you not let her inform your guidance teacher but explain that you do not want to discuss it with them and you will only speak to the teacher that you are confiding in just to make sure she doesn't get into trouble.
2007-02-11 22:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st , I am not a professional in this area , I wish only to help you as does your teacher.
She is helping you of her own choice and I am sure she knows the risks. The best way I see for you to help this situation is of course to stop the source of the problem of your self harming. I as well know this is seen by you as not that easily remedied, so next I would recommend telling her of your concerns. She is only trying to help you and if you are fearful , it is only going to add to the problem.
You obviously care for her and deeply trust her , so trust her to understand your concerns and I am sure it will only help.
2007-02-11 22:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Buzz K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want the attention of the guidance teacher or is ya friendship on da line with the helpful teacher ya close with. the most important person in this equation is you don't forget that however if ya feel her job is at risk do something and report it ya self save her job if necessary and FEEL GOOD ABOUT YA Self doing it, she respects ya proves this by keeping it between you two however at her own risk, if ya are close talk to her about it and tell her your concerns. trust me she will understand. look after ya self chick.
2007-02-11 22:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Outlawz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teaching is a position of Trust and confidentiality. If the help she is giving you is making a big difference to your life then that can only be a good thing. Talk to her about telling your guidance teacher, she'll probably agree.
2007-02-11 22:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to worry about her - if she is a good teacher she will know how to protect herself whilst respecting your privacy. Mention your concern to her - she will appreciate the consideration you are showing. Just concentrate on getting yourself right - that will be the best reward you could give her. Good luck.
2007-02-11 22:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in this exact situation... a teacher at my school was helping me through a lot of situations i was going through... including self-harming. and i often thought about the fact that he was putting his job at risk... it was his choice... but he maybe should have said something... but didnt (which im grateful for). but being older now and looking back at the situation...even though he was willing to help out, i should have gone to see someone else about it, instead of putting him in that situation
2007-02-12 00:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by eve is it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to the teacher and tell her your concerns...you may need more help than this teacher can give...and it is good to have people that you feel you can trust...but it is much more important to get help you need from the right source...i have seen some girls that wanted to hurt their own selves and i think you need to see a doctor for problems like this....your teacher is not a psychologist and you need to see a special doctor
2007-02-11 22:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be amazed to learn.... She's probably discussed it at length with your guidance teacher and thay have decided that, as you have chosen her as a confidante, then it's best that she (your teacher) remains close to you and provides the support support while liasing with your guidance teacher.
Y'think ?
Consider that a blessing.... They obviously both care deeply about you.
2007-02-11 22:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by mittobridges@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop "self harming" completely and then there won't be anything for her to report!!! Simple answer. Nobody gets hurt, including you. Keep up the good work.
2007-02-11 22:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋