how can i leave my boyfriend when he tells me he will commit sucide if i ever try and leave?

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 7months at first everything was wonderful but when i went away on holiday ikissed someone at this point we were not going out properly as he was with someone else when i got back i told him but all he ever does is argue with me and threaten me sometimes even hits me i told him if he cant forgive me i will leave but he tells me if i leave he will commit suicide

Answer 1

Were he to actually go through with the act, it would be his fault and not yours. Sadly that's usually a ploy used by women. The first time he laid his hands on you, even threatened you, you should have said goodbye. Guys like that don't get better they just get worse. You cant be in a forced relationship and be happy. If hes got family/close friends, tell them what he has said he would do, why you are breaking up with him and ask them to keep an eye on him in case. But you need to lose him. Period.

Answer 2

Don't worry, he will commit sucide because people whom commit sucide they never tell their intentions. They just went ahead ending their life suddenly which is what that leaves a very big psychological effect on the close ones around him/her. Thus this boyfriend of yours is using sucide as a threat.
Tell him to respect your decision that you want to leave him and if he still insist on the threats then just let it be. He's sure a shame to the rest of the guys in the world, how can a guy hit a girl he love? A man is not a man if he isnot a good boyfriend, husband and father. Anyway cheer up! Everyone makes mistakes.

Answer 3

He's a controlling abusive jerk. He has no business putting his hands on you and you don't have to put up with it. If he lays this suicide guilt trip on you just call the cops and have him locked up. Make the call and slap a mental hygiene arrest on him. Tell the police everything. Once they hear about him threatening to off himself they will put him in the nearest hospital. Whether he's bluffing or not the cops won't fool with this sort of thing. He's making a lot of trouble for himself and there is no reason for you to be a part of it any longer.

Answer 4

He's really just trying to guilt trip you. You've only been together 7 months. That's not long enough to be that attached. First off, cover your bases. Tell his parents or friends what he's threatening to doing if you two break up. If you can't let any of them know, call a counselor and tell them to give them a heads up, get their number too. Then, go break up with him and hand him the number of the counselor or let him know his friends & parents are already aware that he's on the brink of killing himself. More than likely, this is an idle threat but just in case he's not just trying to guilt you into staying with him, you've already made the proper people aware of his mental state.

Don't let him guilt you into staying with him. This is a selfish act he's pulling. He only cares about himself or he'd let you go if he truly cared about you.

Edit: Didn't see the bit about him hitting you. You need to get out ASAP!! Call the cops next time he lays a hand on you! He won't have to worry about killing himself because he'll be in jail. What he's doing is illegal! He's one piece of work. Get away from this guy NOW!

Answer 5

Sweetheart, most of the time they don't mean what they say. I've said the same thing and I even tried to commit suicide, but most of the time it's a bluff. You can't stay in a relationship if you want out of it. Things will just get worse. Let go, pray, and if he tries call 911 and send them to where he is. Sometimes if he has threatened it and you tell them that, he will have to go for observation. Don't fall for it, DO YOU!!!!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like you need to leave. Period. If he's hitting you, that's abuse and you should not take it. And if he's telling you he will commit suicide if you leave him, he's manipulating you and abusing you mentally. You should leave now and not look back - possibly even file a restraining order. If you really love him and are concerned for his well being you could contact his family and/or friends and tell them to keep an eye on him. No matter what, do not let him use guilt or threats of his suicide to keep you in a relationship - especially one that is already abusive.

Answer 7

call the police and tell them the situation. I don't know what country you are in or state, but in Florida we have a think called a Baker act. If you believe someone is a danger to themselves or others, you report it and they will confine and observe them for 24hrs. When they come to get them, that is when you break up with him. That should give you time to get your stuff and get out and hopefully they will see a problem and perhaps put him on the right track.
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Answer 8

That's soo not cool. LEAVE HIM! I assure you, he won't commit SUICIDE. God damn it. He only says he will commit suicide because he wants you to stay. I mean, he's just fooling you. Why does he have to argue with you? Why does he have to hit you if he loves you? Is that a proper way of showing or making a person feel that he loves you? No, right? Well, think about yourself. My answer is based from experience and from other friends' advices. And there's an instance that he wants you to stay because he wants to make his revenge to you. And who knows? While you're sleeping, he might gonna kill you. Hope this one helps, I wish. Good luck. :)

Answer 9

You've already said that this is an abusive relationship! You need to get out, and fast. If you really believe that he might kill himself then you could/should contact his family or friends and let them know, but you are NOT responsible for his behavior.

Threatening to kill himself is just one more way he is controlling you (besides the threats and hitting and arguing) -- you have to see that you have more value than that! You are worth more -- you don't deserve to be treated that way and you can't live your live as somebody's servant and punching bag.

Please get out, get yourself safe, and if you are really worried that he's not just all talk then let someone who cares know about his threat and let them deal with it.

Best of luck!

Answer 10

Hunni he is just saying this to make you feel guilty and stay with him. Be brave and leave him but just assure him that you can both stay friends. He will get upset but give it a while and he will move on, just as you will. Dont let him hold you back with his guilt.
Dont put up with this kind of behaviour any more, im sure you deserve better.