There are too many things I want in my perfect person for me. I can do without a few but really, not much. I feel that I'll never be happy with someone who doesn't have all the qualities that I want in my soulmate. What should I do?
2007-02-11 21:26:45 · 17 answers · asked by Ahmalya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi..
I always tell my neices that if you don't stand for something you'll bow for anything.
If there are certain things want in your mate then wait because he is out there.
I must remind you though that gold only comes out after going through fire.
I'm not asking you to look for a crappy person and then see beyond their crappy ways. But insteadbring out the best in others...
PS: I'm no motivational speaker but I hope you get the drift.
He might not be what you usually go for but I wish you the best in finding that rare gem
Luv
ily!
2007-02-11 21:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh! poor gal! I was in exactly your place a couple of years ago. I thought, I will NEVER ever find someone perfect! He doesn't exist! It's impossible! Because I too am very particular. He had to be my religion, the right age, cute, funny, smart, good family- I thought, "oh well, I'll have to settle for someone less than perfect and I'll never be completely in love". But then- I met him. My soulmate. I just looked at his eyes from the side, and I knew- he was the one for me. I thought, "WOW! LOOK! HE EXISTS!" meaning, outside of my dreams. It was as if he turned on the light, and I realised I had been in the dark! It was amazing. I'm still in love with him, real true love, 2 years later, and he is with me. We'll be married someday- we're much too young right now.
KEEP YOUR CHIN UP! He exists. Probably in your own hometown, like mine did. It's so hard to believe, when year after year you just meet all these nuts- and then you'll meet your love, and you'll know. It will happen. Pray! I cannot recommend prayer enough! It will happen.
Also, some of these people are wrong. It's NOT like we want someone perfect. We just want our soulmate. I know mine has faults! He's not perfect! But we CAN'T "set our sights a little lower" and be miserable with someone we don't click with and can't truly love. DON'T lower your expectations. You'll be sorry the minute you do. Be patient, and pray, and your prince will come along.
2007-02-14 13:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by nemo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Faced With The Same Problem, I Say Never Give Up Because You Never Know, Where Or How You'll Meet Your Soulmate.....I Met My Ex-Boyfriend At A Laundrymat.....Weird Huh?? Love Can And Will Happen....Good Luck!!
2007-02-11 21:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~Bu113f1y K1ss3s~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont look for what you love in your soulmate, but love what you may find in him. We do not always get everything we wish for, hence we aughto adjust with what we get, even if that is not half f what we wished for. If you keep looking for the qualities of your choice you may fail to recognize the real love that may come your way. Try to find the real love in a person, the one who loves you will try his best to be perfect for you. Love is everything that can make evey imposible, posible; without love no any values in a person matter. Since love can bring every possible changes in one to make it perfect for ya, but other values are his personal which are not gonna change on any cercumastances.
I think you should stop looking for the high range of qualties you have set for your soulmate to be like, in every man you meet, since no one on earth is perfect, but see he may be perfect for your love.
Good Luck!
2007-02-11 21:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A perfect person doesn't exist. That's why you don't have a man. There is fault with everyone........you are NOT perfect. I bet someone right now can find something wrong with you. It's not about giving up and settling. It's about being realistic. Hope you realize that before you grow old and alone............
2007-02-11 21:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by miss_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would close my eyes & try to visualise the person I am looking for & then I would pray to the heavens that I find that person.
Lo! You probably then will meet that somebody.
Whether they turn out to be the right person or not, has a lot to do with needs change...
sometimes, you have to make do with 2nd best,
for your sanity & well being,
sometimes you can't be choosy, you just have to go with the flow- that doesn't mean you have to get emeshed (tied down) by that person, or have sexual relations with that person.
Life is a path. You meet lots of people walking on that path.
Sometimes, somebody else walks that path with you.
Sometimes, they cannot walk that path with you...
But the one thing you do need to have is FAITH.
2007-02-11 21:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never Settle
2007-02-11 21:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by ashleynicole452 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just settle. Lowered expectations are what make the world go round. I cant even think of anybody that would be a perfect match for me thats for sure.
2007-02-11 21:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a time, and a culture, that greatly values individuality. Having a relationship, or getting married, is about becoming a better person, about dedicating oneself to another. Having a commitment to one another is at the center of a great family, a great marriage. Believing in a "higher good" or goal makes a better person.
2007-02-11 21:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole soulmate thing is a myth, which is why you haven't got one. Some people like to pretend they have coz it makes them feel good about themselves. It is all bs.
Find someone satisfactory. There is nothing stopping you changing your mind if someone better comes along
2007-02-11 21:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by amazed_lab_rat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋