Well here it is. I signed on to my b/f's yahoo screen name, and went through his conversation that he had with this girl. In the conversation she asked him if we were back together and he said no, but we were back together. Then she told him about the message I had sent her, and he said if anyone is a whore it is her(referring to me). Well I confronted him. He asked what I was doing going through his personal stuff. I understood where he was coming from but I felt I had a right to know. He said it don't matter cause it's just yahoo, and besides he didn't even remember the conversation because he was drunk. Then just this past Tuesday night I called to talk to him and he said that he couldn't talk because he was busy. Well come to find out there were to girls here that his buddy had brought over and the girls slept in my b/f's bed with him. He swears he didn't do anything with them. What should I do? Should I break up with him. Help me please!
2007-02-11 20:52:22 · 12 answers · asked by Esther V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here is some updated information. It's not that I don't trust him because I do. I just don't trust the girl he was talking to because she has tried to split us up before.
2007-02-12 07:56:02 · update #1
dump him..dont let him or anyone cheat on you.
2007-02-18 23:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that guy is a loser. Too bad he doesn't realize what he has. He needs time to grow up but many his type never do. There is a slight possibility he didn't do anything...this time. But, just the lie is enough reason to ditch him. I wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could throw him. There are so many guys in this world...why not give another one of them a chance with you? Maybe, they'll have enough respect for you not to treat you like a second thought. If this dude isn't having his cake and eating it too, he surely is thinking along those lines. And the drunk part is a cop out. He'll use that part again for his mess ups. You know what they say, "A drunk mans actions are a sober mans thoughts". You want help...I'll hold the door open for you while you boot him in the butt. That's the best help I can give you.
2007-02-19 18:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, move on. You deserve so much better. Please, if you only take one bit of advise, let it be this, no one will respect you if you don't first respect yourself. Never settle. Would you treat him this way? If a person loves and cares for you, you will not need to check up on them or ask advise if you should be together. If they are treating you right, there will be NO ONE that could come between you, and both you AND he will make sure of that. That person is out there. You just haven't found him yet.
2007-02-19 12:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by jessnbethsmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women tend to have "chemistry" for cheating males, just as most men desire to cheat, and its all part of the natural evoluitionary order and was designed over millions of years to expand the population - its part of human DNA. So best to accept it
Seed spreading males increase more efficiently in evolutionary terms. Forget about modern logic, genes (operating as survival machines) developed over millions of years hardly recognize modern constructs such as committment and marriage
If you dump him - odds are you will just be attracted to another cheater - so the best strategy is to probably just find the least worst cheater you are attracted to
2007-02-19 19:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that you like him a lot more than he likes you.because if you read what you said you did then you know its true.they do say love is blind well boohoo and then 2 girls are sleeping in his bed well are you still blind after that? and another thing how old are you and how old is the guy.sounds to me like if you were old enough you two would be together.and take some advise don't go snooping in his personal messages thats a good way to find out who you can trust and who you can't btw i have my bf's password and he lets me go in his messenger and read anything i want. he loves me so he has nothing to hide from me, trust is the key to happiness and love. good luck
2007-02-19 14:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Get over him and on with your life the MOST important thing in a relationship is respect! He doesn t seem to have any for you ... so why would you want him? Do the right thing and you'll respect yourself for dumping him. You deserve better!
2007-02-19 20:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just break up with him. i guarntee he's still talking to her and trying to keep you in the process. i'm speaking from my personal experience. if he only wanted you, he stop every thing thats happening. not to mention, she has a reason for trying to keep in contact with him. he's probaly leading her on to. so many people end up hating each other over some guy or girl because the person they should be mad at is getting away with everything. just let her have him. save yourself the pain.
2007-02-18 19:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by BABYGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My LORD, GIRL!!! Are you a nut-job? Dump the dog. He's a cheat, a liar, and full of cr**. The sooner you get rid of him, the better. Don't waste anymore time or energy on him. He's NO GOOD!!! Get your head out of your pocket (or wherever you have it stuffed) and move on to bigger and better things.
2007-02-19 08:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by educator1953 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him then whats the big deal. You need to dig deep and figure out if you really trust that he's being good and faithful to you!
2007-02-18 15:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by iviemg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when theres no more trust...the relationship is done.
this might not be the only times you have to deal with this. sooner or later you have to give up, so why not now? its like you dont understand each other anymore..
2007-02-11 23:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him now, if he refuses your calls to hang out with other girls than he is not worth it
2007-02-19 18:48:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋