I have been a very unlucky girl?

Question

My mom passed away when i was only 10..had a 3 year old brother then to lok after..dad was never really close..so for te most of my life i was left alone..could never be like other kids..had to to hom,e chores..even now i am very lonely and sad and miserable..i have loads of responsibilities on myt head..taking care of my brother, taking care of the food and college..this is too much for me..m only 20..i can never have fun like other lucky girls..i had a nervous breakdown last year and i havnmt been able to comeput of it till now..i am not able to eat properly too..thats why feel weak most of tyhe time..am taking antidepressants and suffer from body dysmorphic disorder..my father is always abusive towards me even though i work so hard to keep the house running..i am really miserable..pls tell me what should i do?..should i get out of my home and live alone..shoudl i leave my brother alone?..pls tll me..i am lost...this is not what i thought my life would become one day.
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Answer 1

Just move out with your brother to another place to another relatives place for a while , do not stay with ur dad, he is just going to make this worse..

Ad promise yourself when u are moving out that no one will ever abuse you again , and u shall not bow down before another person .

You can do it!, the first thing have conviction that u can do this, u have done so much in ur life, have gone through so much that no child deserves to go thorough , just do this last thing for your bros good ...

You can do it, we all believe in you, you should too ...

Answer 2

Sure it was a hard life for you for past 10 years, but you know what being depressed or sad wont make it any better... assume that, this is your responsibility and you have to fulfill it in a better manner without troubling yourself. I understand that when you are in such a situation you seek support from family members however, your dad doesn't seem to support you, so why not look for good friends in your college or locality who will support you who will listen to all that you have been through and who might share some of your college/studies load.
It is hard to live alone if you go to college you can definitely make friends I don't say that all would be good friends..however at least 1 person will be a good friend...
You can talk to your dad rationally... it would have been equally hard for him after your mom passed away. You can tell him what you are going through and you expect a little support from him.

If this doesn't work then once you are independent, you have a job... then you can move out of house with your brother, I wont advise you to leave your father.. however if it is very tough to take your dad's attitude.
Be positive and try to fight the situation and dint give up, don't let situation win over you.. you should win the situation, isn't it?
All the best I hope things get easier for you in future, and you have a normal life ahead.

Answer 3

You're not the only unlucky one here. I am too. My school and home life is so sick that I'm so sick of it. But here's what I have to tell you: leave your brother alone. If you run away, you'll have no home to go to and end up in the streets. Anyway, here's what you have to do: Focus on your studies and put a little care on your brother. I think you don't have to stress yourself over him. I'm guessing he's about 13. He should take care of himself and quit whining, pouting and etc on the age of 11. Also, tell your dad about it or someone whom you fully trust. I wish you will be okay soon. ( " )

Answer 4

I am sorry that you have suffered so much. My honest advice to you is to get out of your house and take tour brother with you. I know it seems like it is a lot of responsibility but if you leave him behind he might get hurt. May God bless you and your brother by the way keep up the good work:)

Answer 5

You have been trained to be a victim. I went back in history and read about your boy friend. I agree with tony, You should leave and find a way to take your brother. You need to find some positive influence in your life, because abusive people will flock to you and abuse you to make themselves feel better. At least you are talking to a doctor, because you are blaming yourself, in a way, for others abusive behavior.

Answer 6

Dear Sister,
Dont worry, Life is not easy to live,Prolems will come and go. I studied your problems it really disturbing.

Always a person cannot live with disasters, one day it will change. You have to wait for the period well in advance. Fix up goal in your life and try to move towards.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Trials like this make you a stronger person. Its up to you if your gonna deal with that or not. I know its harsh, but your not the only one who has lived a life like this. It could be a lot worse. SO....you have option, leave and ignore it and try to be "normal", OR....suck it up and stop being sad and start being grateful that you still have your brother.

Answer 8

I think what u need in life is optimism and self confidence.

and do u love ur brother?? if u love him and if u r doing whta all u r doing, then y r u feeling bad that u r doing all those things??
when u love a poerson and work for that person, u should feel happy about it, not sad.

also u need sympathy in life from others. do expect sympathy from people. u are doing so good just be confident.

Answer 9

Hmmm..... you are a very responsible girl... I myself have problems in this life ... you should take care of your family first ... someday you will be rewarded .... maybe not today ... but in the near future .... I have many problems in Home,School,and maybe in my head ... but the best answer you can get is... ASK THE LORD ... talk to HIm always ... you will be rewarded for sure.... stay positive always... good Luck . .. .

Answer 10

Take care of YOURSELF. If your father and brother just give you grief why stay there? You shouldn't have to give up your health and well being for these two.