pros and cons of over-protective parents sounds a bit off but please help me with this?

Question

pro and con of being over-protective of you child, teen or college student? My mother is over protective to the next power Im an adult and she still has this over protective thing over me. My sister was a bit aggressive so my mom wasnt so much over protective with her but im passive I have gotten degrees and have been good whole life but my mom still see me as a child. I think because of my mothers over-protectiveness throughout the years was the reason I came home after graduating from college. its a bit stressing because my sister did dumb stuff as a teen and young adult and my mom gave her freedom I never could do anything but go to school and my mom be on my a** like white on rice.my mother wont listen to me about her being over-protective but my sister who wasnt over-protective she has her own everything car, house, whatever; meanwhile me who my mom has been so over-protective I have degrees but I cant drive,im afraid of failure. People tell her the pros/cons of overprotecting?

Answer 1

As you have mentioned in your question, you have experienced your mom treating you like a child. This is one of the cons but think of it this way, your mom loves you and does not want you to be like your sister so take this as a positive thing. You don't have to be able to drive a car to be sucessful in life my dear. I for one cannot drive (I am in my fortys) already and lucky for me, for where I come from, public transport is no problem at all. It is practically outside my house. Good luck!

Answer 2

My parents were really overprotective, which led me to have a lot of stress, which led to me having drug problems as a teen. Often I would come to football practice as a freshman or sophomore drunk or wasted, and it really hurt me as player. Eventually they found out about my drug use and sent me to live with my grandparents in Texas for the summer. I spent the entire summer working out, and practicingin for football. When I went back to Chicago for school to start, I made varsity as a junior and became the starting strong safety. I got all my priorities straight, I focused on football, school, and friends, and the last two years of high school were two of the best years of my life. I ended up going to college for free at UCLA. I ended up tearing my ACL during a game in my junior year, so I never got the opportunity to play in the NFL, but I now live in California, so I get along with my parents great because I dont have to see them that often. Dont worry that much about your mother being overprotective. Once you are in college she cant be that protective of you. Just enjoy yourself in college, move some place where you only visit her a couple times a year, and you will be fine.

Answer 3

My mother was terribly overprotective. We're of Irish descent and she used to tell me it was an Irish custom for the youngest child to stay single and care for the aging parents. I never thought that applied to me, but here I am, a 58 year old bachelor who never left home for long, taking care of my 95 year old mother. Everybody else can't do it because they either have to work or they're retired. Nobody's putting my mother in an old folks' home while I breathe. Strangers find my lifestyle almost sinful, but people who know me don't object at all. They may not like me very much, but everybody loves my mother.

Answer 4

A mother is the greatest bond to a child regardless of who or what she is or does (in most cases.) We instictively trust our mother to protect us and provide for us. One of the provisions we expect is that of mental growth and moving into our own adult being. In some instances, growth can be hindered by insecurities of the parent. The actions are not conciously meant to be devious or hurtful but are the result of transferring personal insecurities onto someone else so as not to face the challenge of their own personal growth. Take time to evaluate and contemplate. Take time to think. And not only from your perspective, but from hers. Taking small steps to indicate your dedication to being a productive adult may mean having to stand up for yourself and challenge what you were brought up to believe as true, making your own decisions. The hardest thing one may ever have to do is to question the maternal parent especially if that person has maintains a certain amount of control through guilt. As an adult, it is our responsibility to ourselves to grow and move into our own being. When a move away from the parent into our independence takes place, it can be very difficult and downright scary. But one thing will be gained in the long run is a stronger bond between an adult child and parent.

Answer 5

This worldwide will coach you to hate your mum and dad and convince you which you're a sufferer perpetually in case you permit it. maximum suitable element of do is communicate on your mom grownup to grownup and head to head on an common point. desires to return from the heart minus manipulation or jealousy and be carried out with it as in enable the hot relationship to enhance forward.

Answer 6

The role of a parent is to prepare our children to be independent.

It starts by teaching them how to cross the road safely, so that we don't always have to be there to hold their hands. We teach them to cook so that they can fend for themselves without our help. We encourage them to try and to fail and to pick themselves back up again. We teach our children how to make their own choices, their own mistakes, to lead their own lives. That's what parental love is.

We are always there for our children when they need us. It should never be about what we need from them.