My girlfriend of 3 yrs doesn't want to have sex anymore or be romantic in anyway. We only have sex on her terms, which is about every 6 to 8 weeks. I can't make any moves on her or she will get mad--no touching or kissing. I know she could go the doctor, but when I bring this up she gets mad. I know sex isn't the only thing in a relationship, but damn, I'm 27 not 57--I like to have sex.
2007-02-11 20:14:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No point trying to prolong the inevitable. Just move on, It's over.
2007-02-11 20:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is some underlying reason why she doesn't want to have to sex. Something else in the relationship is turning her off. The two of you need to examine your relationship and figure out what the real problem is and work on that. Sex is never a problem in a good relationship, it only becomes an issue when there are other problems. Hope that helps. Best wishes and take care.
2007-02-11 20:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by raintigar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of Pavlov? In case you didnt, I will explain it briefly. There's this brilliant scientist named Pavlov. He rang a bell and the dogs would come and he'd feed the dogs. He did this for about a week. Then one day, he rang the bell and didnt have food. The dogs came and were salivating. After a month, the dogs salivated whenever he rang a bell, with or without food. The point is my friend, YOU must become pavlov. Before I continue and give you the instructions, please be advised that I will not be held responsible for any consequences such as your girlfriend losing her dominant personality and turn into a slave-like zombie and obeying your every command. Anyways, moving on.
Start off slow. The first time you ask for sex and she says no, you must immediate create a negative reinforcement. First thing is turn your body away and give her the silent treatment. And if she gets angry and says "are you sulking because I wont have sex with you?" Just calmly say "I'm off to go for a walk". Dont say anything else and walk out the door. Repeat this several times. Then one time she will give in. This is crucial. When she gives in, after sex, you MUST reward her with positive reinforcement. Treat her to a nice lunch/dinner at her favorite restaurant. Take her to her favorite shopping mall and buy her something SMALL.
Final step. After about 2-3 months you'll have her trained. But you must make this final step to complete the project. Pick a session when your having sex. Half way thru making love to her, suddenly stop. Get yourself off of her and point to the bathroom door. She will be like "What?" "That" (and you point to the door again) "What the hell are you pointing at. the door?" After she says that, you walk up, go into the bathroom, and SLAM the door. Yes. SLAM IT. She'll be like WTF. Then you wait 1 minute before coming out of the bathroom. Come back out and dont say a thing. By this time, she'll be scared shi.tless. She'll be like "honey, whats wrong? your scaring me" Climb back into bed and say "I dont know why but I just realized something. It would be horrible if our relationship suddenly ended. I mean we have all these great things in common and it would just be so sad if it all ended". Then go back to having sex and act as if NONE OF WHAT YOU DID HAPPENED. Then, the next time there is a relapse, point to a door and say "Babe, remember the door?" From then on, you're golden.
2007-02-11 20:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect her wishes. Maybe she is hinting that she either wants more than just the relationship(marriage or engagement) Or that she just isnt as attracted to you. Ask her about it. Thats the only way you will know.
2007-02-11 20:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋