How long would u stay in this relationship? Rate 1-leave now to 10 stay forever?

Question

If you were financially independent of each other by splitting all bills 50/50
If you two didn't annoy the crap out of each other but didn't click exactly either just kind of co-exist together
If you two lived in the same apartment
If the families opinion of the gf was not objectionable but not well liked same for the friends
If you two were comfortable with each other secure with each persons qualities and traits
Intimate life is great but uneventful otherwise
if you two could sit on the couch and cuddle forever making fun of silliness on tv
If your phone conversations only last 10 minutes max
If daily conversations were a task to maintain
If you felt like making the other person happy and do your best all the time but never really know where they stood
If you had lengthy conversations regarding moving together but deep concerns about the negative emotional affects on the other person common of moving
If you were constantly wanting it to work but never sure what was up ???

Answer 1

Well it sounds like a pretty good relationship,so an 8

Answer 2

Sounds like you describing the ultimate relationship limbo!

You make good points and bad - but merely being able to 'co-exist' with the other person isn't a good sign. If there is no spark, and you're in a constant state of knowing that some thing is wrong, but not knowing what or how to fix it, you will always feel that you are missing out on something more extraordinary. Don't cut yourself off from finding a greater happiness, just because you don't want to rock the boat.

I'd give it a 4/10 - You'd probably be happier in the long run if you left, but I can understand why it's easier to stay.

Take care

Lx

Answer 3

I would give it a 7. Seems like the relationship is going well, but you wish for more. If that's the case, I suggest sticking around for a little longer and see if the way you live now is the way you would like to spend your life. If you find you will be missing out or if you might have regrets, leave. You must have a confident feeling about the relationship to make it last, but if you are already having second thoughts, it is most probably not the relationship you want to stay in. Follow your own feelings and don't be scared for change.

Answer 4

Well, sounds like you have a keeper. As we get older, we realize that thing we want so much, marriage, & love is actually just being comfortable with someone. There are a lot of relationships that the people in them would kill to have what you have described. We all have our concerns, as for phone conversations, some of mine only last a few seconds,,, just called to say i love you..... give your relationship an 8 and stop worrying., enjoy every minute you can... and if it ends , think of its as i had some good times.. Not as look at the time i wasted..

Answer 5

If this isnt what you want then it sounds like you want confirmation from us that you should settle. Try having some time apart, it will be easier to decide then. I had a similar relationship with a guy for 3 years and trust me, convenience is no reason to stay with a guy. I personally think the relationship you described is a 5.

Answer 6

I am just going to say this::::::::when you are in true love,,,,you will know it,,,and it sounds like to me that your relationship is very one-sided,,,like someone is giving their all,,,,and no one is listening,,,,,,sometimes in life,,,,we tend to want something so very much that we begin to settle,,,we let go of what it is that we are wanting to try and make do with what we got,,,,and we are never truly happy inside or out,,,,because we are still longing for that special thing we are looking for,,,,,everything in life happens for a reason,,,and the feelings that are being felt are for a reason,,,,this is not what either of you are searching for,,,,,your search for that special thing,,,,is not over,,,,and you are being given these signs for a reason,,,you both have settled,,,,and now are settling in your hearts,,,which in tutrn is destroying your inner spirit,,,,the spirit that makes each of you who you both are,,,,and this will continue to happen until you can no longer manage the daily task of conversation,,,and their is just silence,,,,and that my friend,,,,,,,is what happens when we settle,,,,and don't speak from our hearts, and let the other person know,,,,it is time to settle this issue, and take a stand and say exactly what it is you feel but,,,,are simply waiting on the other person to say,,,,,,,,you can go a whole lifetime without talking and feeling,,,,,,but if you had someone who listened, and felt the same as you,,,,,,,,your conversations would never be considered a task,,,,,but a priveledge to hear that person speak so softly and sweetly that they melted your heart and soul with just their words.,,,,,,.


understand,,,,,say it and move on,,,,,you both are feeling the exact same way,,,,but are both too scared to not just settle and be comfortable,,,,,,,,,,DON'T SETTLE,,,,THEIR IS SO MUCH LIFE OUT THIER FOR YOU BOTH,,,,AND THIS ISN'T MEANT TO BE OR YOU WOULDN'T HAVE SO MANY UN-ANSWERED QUESTIONS,,,,AND WOULD KNOW WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS FEELING WITHOUT SPEAKING ANY WORDS,,,,



understand,,,,,
I wish you the best of luck,,,and I hope you decided to let go,,,and feel ,,,, and move on and start living life and not settle for 2nd,,,,always strive for first place,,,,everyone deserves to be first,,,,not just scheduled in when convenient......



good luck,
DAPHNE



I would rate your relationship as a #1,,,you both know what you need to do,,,,and what you are feeling inside,,,to carry with you at night when you go to bed,,,,,I honestly don't know how you get any sleep and I do feel bad for you,,,,but you and only you can make this decision,,,,love is not a number,,,,,,IT IS A FEELING,,,,ONE IN WHICH YOU ARE NOT HAVING,,,,,AND THAT IS WHY I GIVE YOU A ONE,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Answer 7

talk to this person find out where they are in the relationship and go from there but to be honest with you sound way to much like a relationship i had and it didnt work out he wasnt happy. And thinking about it i wasn't really either. But not for the same reasons he wasn't And i never asked these questions and one day he just said it im not happy your not what or how i want i felt so.................. alone and found myself thinking why! But i am glad for that realationship not working out cause now i am married to the man i don't want to be without.

Answer 8

i would say a four because you can never ;ive not knowing whats happening you need communication and you should never settle just because your comfortable with someone or scared you will find no one else, necer settle for anything less than what you deserve and that is the best and when i say best i mean the best in every aspect of a relationship such as being attracted to each is a start, not just hmm i dont mind him, but passionate hot lust and love for them, nothing less.

Answer 9

All I can say is that if you are happy and totally in love even though you fight stay. 10. On the other hand if you aren't really IN love and not really that happy but content or bored instead... leave. Don't spend a minute longer than you have to not being as happy as you can.

Answer 10

You'll still be the same 'ol Dalek, even if you pass me by with more points. Just don't let stardom get to your head or I'll have to remove your plunger thingie for good. Hey, I once had a Top Contributor badge in "Cats." Badges? We don't need no stinking badges!