About 9 months ago my fiancee, of then 4 months, called me to say that he had been unfaithful one night, with a co-worker of his. He is currently stationed in Germany and at that time I was Stateside. I'm back home in South Africa now, and now we IM each other via yahoo mess. Last night I logged on on his name and found a woman contact - with a picture - rather attractive - that I don't know. I've suspected that he might cheat again, and after seeing this last night, I'm really worried. How do I ask him about her, or find out at least if he's sure about us? I'm really scared to have to go through the whole cheating thing again, but I'd rather know now and deal now than never know and always suspect.
2007-02-11 20:03:54 · 14 answers · asked by taliahadad1978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AGAIN. Wake up and piss him off.
2007-02-11 20:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I have to ask. Why do you want to marry this man? He's hurt once and you're worried he's doing it again. I don't blame you for being worried. How can you have a healthy marriage if you don't trust him now? If you have any suspicious you just need to ask him. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-11 20:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself. Do you still trust him after that episode? When in doubt, ask. If his answer is satisfactory to you, then erase this fear and enjoy the love you have for this man. Remember...he was honest enough to tell you about his first affair with his co-worker.
2007-02-11 20:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's annoying to have confidence that the guy you like could lie and swear on the existence of his very own unborn son yet he did. My husband swore on our son his very own mum and dad that he in no way cheated on me. no longer purely did he cheat yet became doing it for over 3 years how stupid do you think of i think. a chum of mine her husband easily placed his hand on the bible and wore he in no way cheated nicely of direction he did. that's to all you ladies obtainable who have confidence on your guy while they say they in no way cheated if yet another woman is in touch then you definately can guess your candy A$$ he slept along with her. There are 2 approaches you are able to look at this. a million) he continues to be hurting for what you probably did and cheating on you became his way of having even and feeling vindicated. 2) He lied to you because of the fact he knew what he did became incorrect and how lots it could harm you thru understanding the fact. it incredibly is not merely him all of us who cheats will do or say what ever it takes for their significant different to no longer discover out. i will enable you to recognize which you will in no way forget approximately or maybe forgive him for cheating and worse of all mendacity on your face. it incredibly is been 12 years experience my husband cheated and that i've got in no way forgiven him and in no way will. Forgiveness to me skill i'm telling him it incredibly is high quality what he did. We have been married sixteen years while he did that. We did separate for 2 a million/2 years yet have been given back at the same time it took me 7 long annoying years just to end questioning approximately it each and every day. that's what you're able to look ahead to and with somewhat one on the way i think so undesirable for you.i don't understand what harm greater the mendacity or cheating.
2016-10-02 00:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time you forgave his cheating you gave him the green light to do it again.He knows you will keep forgiving him.For goodness sake get rid of him else it will forever be eating away at you.
2007-02-11 20:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u stil sticking around with a guy who already cheated on you before??
if he could do it once, he could do it again and again...
i think u should end it with this guy.... do u really think u deserve to be treated like this?? and can u spend a lifetime with a guy u always doubt?
2007-02-11 20:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥eyeღℓash♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he did it again, and that you have proven it, have some respect to yourself...dont hold on...leave him... he can do it again and again...it will just be a roller coaster...now, if you only suspect, dont ask him coz chances are 99% he will deny it...if its meant to happen, you will catch him at an unexpected moment...so just hang on, and im sure catching him will be sooner than you expected... goodluck!
2007-02-11 20:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by fashion時尚嬰孩玩偶doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave that asss. Hey once a cheater always a cheater. You could do better
2007-02-11 20:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves second chances but if you feel like he's going to get overboard again, i think that's already na-uh!..
but i think the first thing that you should do is ask him about that girl *who knows she might be one of heer h.s classmates or relatives blahbLah*.. tell him how you feel.. if and if you do nothing about it and marry him still having that "i'm-feeling-my-husband's-cheatin-on-me" thought, then your relationship won't work.
2007-02-11 20:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel really if your in to diffrent countries youll never know for sure if he is or he isnt im currently active duty millitary and i tell any girl im dating i opperate on the dont ask dont tell policy - if you do cheat on me i dont want to know- just tell him and ask him
2007-02-11 20:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by sk8erboydj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....dont leave him just like that...................if he has cheated u earlier then you have given him chnace for that.........so don let that thing *** to your mind again...............but just by having one girl in a boy's yahoo id doesnt mean that he is cheating on you.....
If you have doubts then better clear it and ask him straight forward.....no need to dump him...........Listen to me and try to understand!!!!!! JUST ASK HIM!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-11 20:11:37 · answer #11 · answered by summeravi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋