All my first dates take me out to bars, we have a drink and leave. How much should a woman flirt if she wants a second date. I make eye contact but it is not enough. I am shy and don't want to touch them asap. Should I, in order to create sparks. What works for you on first dates. who initiates the first contact to loosen things up?
2007-02-11 20:01:58 · 15 answers · asked by coolchick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be yourself ... You don't want a guy to ask you out thinking you're not who you really are (am I making sense???)
Eventually you'll find someone you "click" with ... then a second date will lead to a third and so on
Good Luck :)
2007-02-11 20:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to the person. If they create sparks that means they like their date. If they don't bother, then they are not interested. It seems to me like you like a lot of the guys you date, but maybe they don't like you. Don't take it in a bad way, but maybe you're intimidating, etc.. There are many reasons as to why men will not do some kind of move. It's probably also because they're shy. You don't actually have to touch the person and make them feel at ease with it being too sexual. Simply pat him on the back when he says something funny. This lets the guy know you've gained his trust and he likes that. Now you guys relate and you will feel comfortable about developing with your relationship. There are no blocks in dating. It's really like a game, and you gotta do the move yourself if you want a good outcome or good SEX! LOL
2007-02-12 04:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships that start in a bar--END in a bar. I find the fact they take you there on a first date to be insulting. How about a nice restaurant and maybe a movie? The fact you don't want to touch them right away does not make you SHY. It sounds like these guys don't really want to go out with you at all--just get into bed fast. You are better than that.
2007-02-12 04:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by catastrophic event 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Touching can be a very powerful indication of ur wants or intentions. For example, a touch on the shoulder is generally taken as interest in pursuing further interaction with the guy (a second date), touching his leg is generally construed in and interest in sexual interaction, etc.
Honestly the easiest way to get a second date is to say "I had a really great time tonight, We should do this again soon sometime" or something along those lines. It leaves it open ended for him to either accept or reject without feeling pressuerd to do so on the spot.
2007-02-12 04:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you can do is insist that you do NOT go to a bar on a first date! Guys take women to bars to get them liquored up and then take advantage of them!
Insist on going to a nice restaurant, and limit your elf to ONE glass of wine! Conversation is much better and more open in restaurants than at bars! Bars are noisy, smelly, and a place where you can have too many drinks, let your guard down,and then end up doing or saying things you may later regret!
Have a little self-respect and show a little class by insisting on going to a restaurant instead of a bar, and the guys will respect you a little more.
2007-02-12 04:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On my first date I would expect following :-
1) Eye contact.
2) Holding and caressing hands.
3) Kissing hands.
4) Hugging closely.
5) Trying to get inside other persons body.
6) Fondling from over clothes.
7) Kissing on lips.
Thats all baby
2007-02-12 04:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going out for dinner on a first date instead of going to a bar. It may not be how you act, it may be the surroundings. Dinner is more personal, while a bar is kind of a place to meet one night stands.
2007-02-12 04:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is too complicated, call him two days later and ask him out, maybe its something you're saying/doing that guys arent asking you out again perhaps you're dating *******. YOU DONT CREATE SPARKS THEY JUST HAPPEN.maybe its them,maybe its you.....i gotta see a picture to see what were working with u know???
2007-02-12 04:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jacob Da omniscient 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy was shy enough.. so i intiated the things.. because i don believe in that girls can't intiate the things.. i belive if you want something ask for it other than wasting your time in wondering when the other person will offer you with that..
2007-02-12 04:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Neha Agarwal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try touching. Do some initiating.
2007-02-12 09:57:00 · answer #10 · answered by so 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋