My boyfriend is pushing me down on beds(playfully)but ill lean up then he'll push me down again then climb up on me,
Also when I was sitting on my bed watching a movie he came up and grabbed my legs and pulled me from the middle of the bed to him with my legs around him!!
&when he wants to kiss he will kind of push my face towards his or when we're kissing and I pull away he'll push the back of my head with his hand so I can't pull away,
And the biggest thing for me was:we where kissing on his bed and he started getting all handsy and he put his hand on my (magicconchshell)& started rubbing\&i moved his hand &he said sorry then we kept kissing then he started again&I moved his hand&he said sorry babe then we started kissing&he did it again but when i tried to move his hand he wouldnt let me move it at all &he did it more then he stopped after like 2mins (felt like forever)so whats this all sound like to you??
Please give me your advice/opinion on this all..
Thanks Ashley-
2007-02-11 19:54:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
&whenever he sees like short skirts he'll say you aint wearin none of that whore stuff with me.
and yesterday we went for a walk and he wanted to make a call on a payphone and it wouldnt work so he ended up punching the payphone,
also we where kissing and he kinda manuevered himself inbetween my legs,
and the other day i was sitting and he pushed me down and kind of strattled me so i dont know give me your opinion on this all-
& Im 16 hes 17.
thanks- AshleyBee
lilofficerdoofy@yahoo.com
2007-02-11 19:54:13 · update #1
Sounds like he playing rough.....although it still sounds strange to me.....tell him to do1 if you dont like it!
2007-02-11 19:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he doesn't respect you nor your body. Now yes he is 17yrs old so he's hormornes are going in all different directions but if he really care for you then he wouldnt do something that you told him not to. Also when a guy trys to push you into doing something that your not ready to do is a complete asshole. Now with pulling you off the bed and so fourth, he could just be playing with you, thats a guy thing sweetie. But if you really care about him then talk to him, tell him your not ready for all that sexual stuff and that if things doesn't change with how he's respecting you then your going to have to make some changes by your self. Let him know that the changes you're going to make he might just not like so he needs to straighten up and show you some respect. good luck.
2007-02-11 20:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an immature BOY, to me. You better get control, or he will end up going farther than you want..date rape, abusive boyfriend, trapped in relationship you no longer want.....Do any of these mean anything to you? When it comes right down to it, It doesn't sound like he respects you. He plans on having it his way..like it or not If you can't make him show you the respect you deserve( it is ok for you to set limits on what is ok sexually with you..he should respect this) he will will be forcing his will on you more and more til you have no say what so ever in what you do! and possibly ,with whom you do it....if he gets bored with you, when the conquest is over, he may try to pass you on to one of his buddies! Take charge now! Find your voice, let him know in no uncertain terms , that what he is doing is Not ok, and you will not hold still for it. It will only get worse..talk it over with a trusted adult, tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel.,he may not understand and really is a nice guy at heart, but some boys are real slow on understanding how to treat a lady..if all he wants is a roll in the hay..tell him to get a hooker..but keep it to himself. The wait will be well worth it!
2007-02-11 20:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, sounds like he definitely prefers to be the dominant one in a relationship!
You need to let him know if you are uncomfortable with any of the things that he is doing. Some people like being treated a little roughly, but if you don't and you don't let him know, he may become even more forceful, especially concerning sex. You're too young to let some guy mess you up, and if he crosses the line (or if you think he already has), please just get yourself out of it.
The choice is yours darlin' - take care.
Lx
2007-02-11 20:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW.
he is:
1- verbally abusive.
2- physically abusive.
3- you're obviously too weak to stand up for yourself against him because all i saw you say was "i pull away, i move his hand away" why won't you stand up to him and actually say the words "I WILL NOT DO THAT, I DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER" and get out and run for your life and never look back. he needs help and if he doesn't get it you'll end up with a black eye because you pulled away when he was feeling horny.
there are a lot of guys out there who know how to treat a girl and give her the respect she should have. there's no respect in your relationship with him....if my boyfriend ever said "you don't wear that whore stuff for me" i would drop him right then and there...I'm not anyone's whore. i am so so much better than that.
2007-02-11 20:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by fate_n83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's controlling.. I think you need to maybe sit him down and let him know where you stand on all of this. How you don't agree with his temper and the way he keeps on pushing things on you when you say "No." or push him away. Let him know you want to be with him (IF YOU DO) but he needs to respect your choices and respect you. And if he doesn't accept that then maybe let him go. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-11 20:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by evolutiondamngood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he likes having control of every situation even your relationship. Maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him you don't like the things he is doing. Explain to him how you feel on everything. It sounds like he is trying to push you into something you don't want to do. Unless you put your foot down he is going to keep doing it. I know from experience. A friend of mine had a boyfriend like yours. So unless you do something about it he is just going to keep doing it. Good luck!
2007-02-11 20:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Esther V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be showing early signs of s and m behavior in which he is discovering what he likes and what he doesn't like...He could also have been going on a power trip and maybe he liked the fact that you wanted stop...Just be carefull and watch out for your self..if the behavior gets to be more violent then think of leaving him and move on.
2007-02-11 20:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to get out of this relationship he is demanding things from you and doin things he should not be doing when you have clearly showed him that it is not on, this guy is disrespectful to you and soon he may do something to harm you or force you to do siomething you dont want him too. He is just clearly used to getting what he wants when he wants and he will stop at nothing til he gets it, this is not on ok and you need to let him know that, if he dont listen then you need to brake it off ok. be safe
2007-02-11 20:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's going after what he wants without consideration to you. That might because you haven't communicated your views or been assertive with him. He sounds like an aggressive guy which will require an equally aggressive girl. Last but not least, us guys can't heir what girls are thinking.
2007-02-11 20:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by roger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him and let you family know why. If he comes around again, and your dad knows how he has been treating you, your dad can kick his butt. If you keep messing around with this guy he is going to end up taking what he wants from you, whether you like it or not and then you may feel embarrassed to ask you family for help. Stand up for yourself now before it is to late.
2007-02-11 20:03:05 · answer #11 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋