Why is it when you tell a guy you have a BF they are gone like the wind even before you finished the sentence?

Question

I mean its like there gone in a flash..I tell them I just want to be friends with them! How to be just friends with them?

Answer 1

Well, because most guys dont look for women to be just friends with. Maybe try meeting guy friends through forums for things you enjoy. For example, if you like photography, look for a photography class or seminar in your area. At least the people you meet there will have a common interest. Fact is, guys and gals like different things, so they dont often translate into friends (unless sex is involved)

Answer 2

Frankly, you can't. If you're good looking and cute, he's going to want you. And no idiot wants to torture himself by constantly putting himself in a situation with a cute girl you want but can't have. So they're out of there. The truth is, unless he's gay, finds you unattractive, or he has already got a girl more attractive than you, all your guy friends want to have sex with you. Seriously, all of them. I know what you're thinking, that YOUR guy friends aren't that way. But be honest with yourself. If you two were alone at his place and you excuse yourself for a minute and you come back naked and ask him to have sex with you, do you really think he'd say no? Of course not. Every relationship a guy has with a girl, he thinks about sex. It doesn't matter if he's been your friend since you were 2 years old. After you guys hit puberty, he started thinking about you in a sexual way and imagines in his head what it'd be like to hook up with you. I'm not saying a guy can't like your personality and enjoy your company too, because he can and probably does. But that also just further contributes to the attraction, rather than nullifying it! All guys are constantly considering what it'd be like to get with any girl they know, every time they're around you. It's not something we can put aside and ignore, the fact that you're an attractive girl. Unless they fit into one of the 3 exceptions I mentioned, the guys sticking around are hoping for an opportunity to do you, and maybe you even encourage them by being flirty, cause that's what girls do and that makes them think they have a shot so they stick through all suffering that comes from wanting you but not having you. Unless the guy finds you unattractive, is gay, or already has a girl who's more attractive than you, he wants you.

Answer 3

Those guys you are talking about must only be interested in you as their potential GF rather than being friends with you.

If you meet guys that truly would value your friendship, then they won't be gone in a flash even when they know you have a BF.

Answer 4

Babe i'd be slightly worried- i do not advise to be nasty besides the undeniable fact that it would not sound like he's wisely worth it. when you're demanding that a lot perhaps you need to not be mutually??? If he has already cheated why are you nonetheless with him? A leopard not in any respect substitute that is spots- or no longer oftentimes besides. If he loved you a lot he would reassure you and he honestly does no longer enable his pal be nasty to you. perhaps the question should not be if he is going to be solid yet quite if he's solid for you? it might properly be solid for you at the same time as he's away- perhaps you are able to spend time including your associates and likewise get some advice mutually. Is it properly worth being with someone who makes you experience this kind????

Answer 5

I don't know the exact details of the conversation, but I know that when most men approach a woman, they have an interest in her. Their ultimate goal is usually to become more than friends. When a woman tells you in the beginning of the conversation that she has a boyfriend, that tells a man 1)that goal is shot, and 2)I don't want to talk to you. The woman may not mean to push him away, but it does all the same.

Answer 6

if a guy is gone like wind after u tell him tat u have a bf, then its really no need for u to try to b friend with him.

coz he just wanna play with u if u dont have bf, so when he knows u have bf already, there is no use for him to spend even single second to talk to u..

Answer 7

Why do guys have to be friends with you if they don't want to? If a guy is looking for something more than friends and knows you aren't available, he is going to move on. If he didn't, he'd be getting in the way and that's what starts drama. Is that what you want?

Maybe the guy has enough friends. I know I do. I'm not looking to make additional friends. I'm looking for someone to date. Sorry, that's just how it is.

Answer 8

Its simple darl, they are looking to score and nothing more. But perhaps maybe try not telling them straight away that you have a bf, but if they ask straight out then i suppose you better not lie. If you dont say it straight out then they may have more time to get to know you and when you do tell them you got a bf thenb perhaps they wont run for the hills.

Answer 9

Because they are intelligent enough to know they don't stand a chance with you and smart enough to know that you can't be "friends" very well with a girl you like as more than a friend.

Answer 10

Maybe they don't like being around another guy's girlfriend just in case he is the jealous type.. There are some guys out there that are jealous, I know it's a shocker.