Why did my friends kill themselves?

Question

My 21 year old best friend,

14 year old boy cousin who was a basketball star he was lined up to be the captain of the varsity team in his freshman year,

17 beautiful girl my best friend when we were younger, my 19 year old boyfriend,

17 year old basketball captain another cousin,

22 year old beautiful cousin who was offered a modeling job but she turned it down to pursue her dreams of becoming a lawyer

16 year old friend, he was the only son

29 year old friend

20 year old friend, my best friend's brother

Now I want to follow them...

I have no more friends...

Answer 1

How are we suppose to know why they did it o_O



I'll be your friend =D

Answer 2

You know how badly you felt when these people ended their lives.

No one can tell you why they ended things. That is between them and their God. All I know is that when someone ends their life they have lost all hope. The pain of living is overwhelming. There was nothing to give them hope. You, my friend, are only responsible for yourself at this point.

You were angry, sad, lost, mad at them. It is not so simple as an ordinary death, They left voluntarily, leaving you to feel guilty for something you think you could have done to prevent this.

Do you want to do this to your family too?

I think not.

I have been ready to walk into the ocean to be with my beloved who had killed himself. He had a chemical imbalance. The only thing that stopped me was knowing how destroyed his kids were. I did could not do that to mine. As much of a struggle as it was then, I am sure glad I did not give in to my depression and do it.

If you are seriously contemplating ending it, speak to your parents or a counselor at school, or your doctor and tell them what is going on. You will get help. You need it.

Those are a lot of losses to suffer and I can understand your pain. So go get some help. Please. I am not offering false hope, but chances are with help you will get through this and in a few years, you will look back on this time as being a particularly bad patch.

But it will be behind you.

Allah never sends one more than they can handle. Sometimes we are really stretched and think we cannot make it. Then we surprise ourselves and do it! The result is we are stronger for the experience.

Answer 3

People kill themselves because they think that life cannot get any better and only worse. Usually teenagers do it out of temporary pain and depression. Older people do it out of many different things. Loss, lonliness, financial problems....Things that time can heal if you allow it. Suicide is the "easy way out" that doesn't give the benifits/escape that is probably sought. Life gets better if you let it, for those around you...its their life and how it effects you doesn't occur to them unless they're trying to hurt you. Don't be another one on the list for someone else.

As for the relevance for the category...God didn't do this to them or to you. He allows it, but he doesn't cause it. That may sound like a contradiction, but its not. He gives everyone a choice about everything they do...sometimes we just don't make the best one.

Answer 4

Dear Jesus who,

i can't answer as to why your friends have killed themselves but i can just say that i'm very sorry and i do care. i think you know the pain that their deaths caused you- and i pray that you would know that there are people who care about you and who would be hurt by your death.

Please email me and share your pain with me- i can just offer you prayer, a listening ear, and perhaps some words of comfort: [e-mail] i think these are the kinds of things that a true friend does and you do have a friend now...

i hope u won't be offended but wanted to share one bible verse:

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

i will try to be the best friend i can be to you- the way that God has been a friend to me and lead me through some painful trials. He wants to comfort you and use you to keep others from experiencing the same pain you've gone through.

Kindly,

Nickster

Answer 5

You need to stay around to be there for people, who are having difficulties with those hard times since you have a good understanding of people in your own life, who have ended theirs.
I know that this world we live in is tough to be in. What I am getting at, is that you need a relationship with Jesus Christ to help you focus on the future to come and to get you through those hard times, now. You need spiritual help and only Jesus can and will supply it to you. This in turn, will give you the impetus or desire to be alive for others, who need your help. HOPE is what was lacking in the lives of your friends and that HOPE is available from Jesus Christ - good luck to you !!!

Answer 6

it is not very useful to pursue to reason/reasons of the friends who have killed them self but it will be foolish to follow them,you will be doing a disservice to your parents if you take your own life,the person who hurt most are your parents and your friends,do put yourself in someone else shoe,you are sad when your friends died,if you die,how will your loved ones feel? they will also feel sad,do not stay still and move on with your life,our thought is in this life is the result of our past life and the thought we have will affect our future lives......,it is important to have good thought because it will mould our future,harbor good thought,be a good person,do good deeds and say good things,instead of following them,use this life to do good to your community,do some charity work,your will find lots of satisfaction by helping others,you will find life happy when you see others happy,start by making you family and friends happy,good luck and may you be happy

Answer 7

WHO? KILLING YOURSELF IS A PERMENT ANWSER TO A TEMP PROMBLEM PLAIN AND SIMPLE nothing is that bad that we would justify killing ourselfs i am so sorry for your losses but do give up life is presious and meaning full man my heart aches for you i actually see the pain you feel i to have thought of killing myself and have tried it before i can actually say with all love in my heart towards you life is really worth living

Answer 8

you want to follow them? you have everything to live for. live live for them.I'm sure they wouldn't want you to die.its not like there together hanging out.they are laying in rest waiting for judgment. why would you ever want to kill your self and cause your family the pain that you are feeling.you have to go on.there will be other friends for you and you can share your memories with them.you need to talk with someone.and so you know Jesus will be your friend and confront you.

Answer 9

Maybe they were depressed. I have thought about it my self many times. But one of the things that stopped me was the eternal consequences in Hell. Yes my friend there is a hell and it is very real. Please do not make that choice, as chosing to kill yourself is not your right. When your time is up it will be your time. Do you know what? Jesus is a very real being, and he is not made up. Contary to what atheists think. Jesus is the only one that can help you if you alk, but you must ask. You cannot do it by yourself, your friends couldn't. If they had asked Jesus for help, Jesus would not have turned them down and they would have been here today. There are many times where I have throught about ending my life here, but like my mother said to me a few months back, if you think this life is hell, then you do not know how much worse the real hell is. She is right. Please except Jesus in you heart and life. Jesus loves you, and wants you to live. Do not let Satan take your soul, he has already taken billions of them, do not give him another one. Satan hates your guts like everybody else, and wants to see you kill yourself, and end up in hell. Do not give him the satisfaction. Satan has already been defeted. Do not let him defeat you. Jesus is more powerful than Satan, so please aske Jesus to help you in your time of need. Sorry if I offended you about hell, but it is a reality. Do not be deceived by others who tell you it is not real, there is enough deception in this world already.Please except Jesus as there is none like him. Speak to a Pastor as they should be able to help you, but most importantly ask God who is the creator of the universe. God is a big God, and he will help you, but like I said ask him. Call out the name of Jesus, call out to Jesus with all your heart, Jesus will heart you from Heaven and if you mean it, he will come into your life and help you, and even save your soul. Please call on the name of he Lord now, and do not wait another second. My e-mail address is [e-mail]. Feel free to e-mail me and let me know how you are going. May God bless you, and please call on Jesus right now where you are.

Answer 10

Pray for them and yourself. You might find the inspiration that you need to desire life

Answer 11

Here are my guesses:
1).Probably had too much pressure
2).Not sure...
3).Also had pressure
4).and the rest-not sure...
Don't follow them, death is not the answer....