He's pretty well liked and I have the biggest fear of rejection; I too am well known on campus and have a lot of friends, however none that are buddy buddy with him, I'm a year younger. We both are on varsity sports but we're on an aquaintance-he knows my name and a couple things, but I really want to get to know him because I've had a 'crush' on him for a long while. This year is his senior year and I really would like him to get to know me, what should I do?
2007-02-11 18:47:33 · 9 answers · asked by AngelicGlow777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think almost all relationships start with freindship, and then evolves into love...I think you should start there too, and also find out if you are just infatuated, cos' when you get to know him better things may change. So, first be a good freind. You have something in common, thats sports, and you could just get to talking to him, perhaps just admire him on how well he plays, or start off with some other conversation probably related to your college. Take it from there. Since you fear rejection, before even ever hinting to him about your feelings, please do find out if he is already involved with someone else. That should not really let you down. Atleast the freindship could continue.
This way you'd be safer too, cos' you say its a ''crush'', so you have a long way to go before you can actually think that it is a real relationship. So find out on your own, start from somewhere, like start a conversation, or get to know his buddies, probably invite everyone over for a party....on some excuse..there should be something you can dig up iam sure. Start with little talks, get to know better, other than him being well liked and good looking. And then when you are sure, you could always be straight forward and open about it, that you really do like him.
good luck
2007-02-11 19:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the whole secret admirer stuff. Cute but kind of juvenile. Unless the guy is into that stuff. My advice is this, do some research on this guy. Find out what kind of girls he's been with and goes for. Find out his favorite foods, movies, colors, perfumes, etc. You have to do this stealthily. Casually bring up his name during conversations and listen to what people say about him. Listen to him talk when he's around. If you still like him after you have some good info on him, then start accidentally bumping into him at different places. If he eats at a certain place at certain times, it'd be a good place for you to be. Or if he hangs out at a certain bar, etc. Look good, wear his favorite color, the perfume (if you can find that out), etc. Let him get used to seeing you around more, then get some conversation going. Start with the simple "Hi" and work your way up from there. Then drop some of the favorite movie, favorite musician stuff on him to let him know how much you two have in common. Then if you still like him, and you're his type, when he asks you out say "yes".
2007-02-11 19:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but the only way to know if he is even interested it to approach him and ask him out... The fear of rejection is only a fear of the emotion of being rejected... there is no physical pain only what you allow yourself to feel.... the way to get over the anxiety is to approach and ask a couple guys out.
Personally, I think if he was really interested in you, he would ask you out, but then again, I am a man and not a wussy so....
2007-02-11 19:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made me fall head over heels for my guy, is how he become head over heels for ME. His devotion made me like him even more beneficial. I advise, for sure I cherished him plenty previously, purely because of his superb personality, yet once you spot how a lot love a guy grants it immediately makes him superb. even as someone who's anticipated to be unfeeling and robust and agency can admit that he loves you and get in touch with you alluring and seem up at you wide, shy, smiling eyes, how will you no longer love him? also, once you supply sufficient love, it form of reflects on each and every thing round you, at the same time with your self. :)
2016-11-27 03:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him little notes and things with questions and figure out somewhere he can leave them for you to pick up so he wont know who you are. Then eventaully start to give him little clues and when you talk to him tell him things about you that might help him figure out that your the secret admirer and if at some point you feel like you should tell him you like him then go for it
2007-02-11 18:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by sumthing_to_say_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if you dont you will think about him for the rest of your life and wonder if he could have been someone good in your life.
2007-02-11 19:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kelsie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before it is too late, just ask him for a coffee. share your feelings and for all you know, he may be very much talking the same too!
2007-02-11 18:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Alag N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anonymous cards are cute - if abit old fashioned. flowers, chocs,poems...the list goes on:-) or you could just tell him you want to get to know him....good luck
2007-02-11 18:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by random cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all the above fails, show up naked, bring beer.
2007-02-11 19:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋