i have short fused temper?

Question

please what can i do to stop my bad temper.again.
i have been controlling for quite sometime .for years already .. i have toned down alot but recently people and some circumstances has made me have even a shorter fused.. i get angry so easily.. its like worst then last time .. i will just slam things or talk loudly... or scream and the urge to just slap the person face..
people been thinking that i'm quiet but its really been getting to me .. people are stepping over my head..

i really need change my temper coz its such a bad thing for a lady to be having this character.. i always tght its a commen thing among men but not women

plz help
any advice is appreciated

vote me : weed is illegal where i come from :(

Answer 1

I struggled with anger issues all my life and I am a woman too. It wasn't until two years ago that my psychiatrist put me on Zyprexa, just 2.5 mg every day, a very small amt., and I am like a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON. It is amazing. I feel like a normall person for the first time in my lilfe. I said to my psychiatrist, aren't there other people out there who have done worse than yell at people, who have actually committed murder out of anger and that maybe these people could have been helped and she said yes. My irritability and anger is part of my clinical depression. Most people don't think of irritability and anger as a sign or symptom of clinical derpession but it is and it may be the only sign you have. See a good psychiatrist and see what can be done. DONT BLAME YOURSELF> It's NOT your fault!!!! Really.

Answer 2

My temper was short a few years ago. I went into a stress center after losing a child, and I learned to constructively release my anger. You could get a punching bag and beat the daylights out of it. You could clean house. I pull weeds. That sounds totally dumb, but, it works for me. I pull the darn things til there are no weeds (and sometimes no grass) left anywhere in the yard. But, I've released my anger and am so tired at the end of my weed pulling that I collapse in bed and sleep good. Or, you can walk, or run, or jog, or exercise. Do something physical that will not hurt you or others. If screaming is what you do best, go to a remote area and scream til you can't scream anymore. Women can get as mad (if not madder!) than men. Find out what is causing your anger, and figure out the best way to deal with it where you don't harm yourself or anyone else. Do something physical so that you channel the anger outwards. Don't hold it in. Journal. Write down what has caused your anger, when you feel the anger, and how you deal with it. Lay off the caffeine for awhile. Eat healthier and exercise. If you can figure out what has caused the anger, you are half way there. If you have a higher power, dump it all on Him. If it is a person you are angry with, talk to them rationally. Is what is making you angry something that once made you happy?

Answer 3

I know exactly where you are coming from. You may be the kind of person that tends to hold things in and isnt communicating properly. When you talk to people, really truly consider their feelings. It is so easy for people to bad point others when in reality they need to take a good look at themself. Its good that you admit you have a problem and that you want to do something about it. WIthout have to talk to a psychologist and have to analyze yourself, try relaxing. Nobdoy relaxes these days. Go just take a nap during the day or a long bath with candles and your favorite smells. This is keep you less stressed. When you treat yourself to things, your patience will increase. Also, music is such a small thing but it helps a lot. Theres a reason why theres a song for every emotion, every experience. Remember to take deep breathes. If someone is bothering you, think if you are mad if its for a good reason. Also, ask yourself "if i were them would i want to be getting yelled at"

GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

Try seeing all sides of a situation. Make sure you are not being selfish. I know someone with a terrible temper that takes it out on his wife and son. It hurts the other person so much. It can destroy your self esteem and the self esteem of the person on the other end. You need to learn self control. Listen to calming music or do something that relaxes you then maybe you won't lose your temper so fast. Also make sure you aren't overstressed or not dividing your time wisely. The aggressor I know is not wise with his time and it causes him to rush and get aggitated easily. Take your B vitamins and Soy Lecithin vitamin. Get plenty of sunshine. At least 10 minutes a day.

Answer 5

It isn't a medical condition. It's just a lack of self-control, it takes baby steps to train, and patience, a lot of patience. I know it's hard, but when something starts bugging you, do your best to relax, and let go of it. When I get into an argument and have something really good to say back, the best things happen when I relax, and let go of it, and don't say it, I never say it, not even later. If someone is making me late, it's the same thing. Besides, a comment isn't going to change the fact that you're late, it only worsens the situation by causing conflict, you have to think about those kinds of things when you are starting to get agitated. If you can do this, you will have more peace with yourself and others.

Answer 6

When you are having a problem with your temper go where you can have some privacy and talk to God about it. He knows you, all about you, even before you were born. You don't have a secret from Him and He loves you. Believe me, I know women can have a temper. My wife sent me to the emergency room more than once and I was more than a foot taller than her and three times her size. God can help you with your temper. I had a short fuse too when I was younger. If I had cut loose I might have killed someone, but I gave myself to God through His Son Jesus Christ and everything has been fine since. Yes, I've had problems. I have had money problems, work problems, and health problems(two years, almost, going through cancer treatments lately), but I knew God was in control. He is far bigger than anything you can throw at Him. He has the time and resources we will never have and He will offer those to you for your benefit if you just ask. I will be with you in prayer and God will be with you and never forsake you. Please, let me know how things are going. What do you have to loose, but a short temper:?

Answer 7

Well i would have to sugguest for you to go to anger management, and also try to find out why you have this bad of a temperment, and work on it, and not it is not that it is ok for guys to have a bad temperment, they just think they can so they do, or some have cause of problems in their pass that they need to work through. Either way, you need to learn to control your temperment, and also you need to learn why you have such a bad temperment, cause that will help in learning to control it, and how to cope with it.

Answer 8

I've had problems with anger in the past too. There are different ways to approach it, but for me, taking an antidepressant has been a huge help. I just don't take things so personally or let them get to me as much. Seeing a therapist or psychiatrist could be very helpful to you to help sort out what's going on, to learn to express your feelings appropriately, to assess if you have a mood disorder, and help you cope with past trauma. It's not fun, but it's better than never knowing what's going to set you off. Take care.

Answer 9

Definitely you need help to control your anger or rage. Oprah Winfrey had that in her show. You are in big trouble now. You need a miracle.
There are so many evangelists on television or christian radio. This is a short cut to your problem. Psychiatrist is a long process. Why not try Jesus Christ?

Answer 10

hi Shayna,to admit your own short coming is a big step in your effort in changing your-self,this temper if not change can leads to lots of bad effects,like bad health,relationship,ruin jobs and family,i was also very short tempered until i took up vispassana meditation[insight meditation]it is to watch the function of your own mind in a calm and detached manner so that you can gain insight into your own behaviour,the goal is awareness,an awareness so intense,concentrated and finely tuned that you will be able to pierce the inner workings of of reality itself,to know more you can go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/zeph/message/880
best of health and luck and hope to hear good news from you