I'm a grandmother for the first time and don't want to over do it. Do I wait to be invited for babysitting or do I offer? What are the rules here?
2007-02-11 18:23:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you're interested, ask. If you're not, don't. Set the ground rules early so you won't be taken advantage of.
2007-02-11 18:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Offer, any help.. not just babysitting..
Offer help around the house.. getting something from the shop.
Extra nappies or if they are too tired - maybe make up a stew or something for them to freeze or eat now.
Offer help.. At least then it wont look like its all about the baby its about helping the family, and being part of it.
2007-02-12 02:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm no expert on this topic at all. Still I would suggest just when you get a chance to just lightly offer to sit the children if ever the parents need some time off. It would be a grate to suggest the offer if ever one or both of the parents are discussing how are unable to do something due to their parenting needs. Hope this helps
2007-02-12 02:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by zoltan z 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you dont invite yoursellf over,, or show up unexpectadly or constantly take the kids...itll probably be fine
maybe the parents know you can babysit once or twice a month or someting so they can have a romantic dinner
in other words...let them know you can help, but dont force it upon them
2007-02-12 02:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your relationship with your son(inlaw) & daughter(inlaw).
I would offer your services, but perhaps be gentle and not too forward in asking. Maybe something like "Oh by the way, if the two of you ever need a break or have something to go to and need a babysitter I don't mind looking after her/him".
2007-02-12 02:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be so glad if my mom or mother in law offers her time. Especially if we are in good terms. I might be so scared to approach her thinking she needs her time and I will be impeding.
So go forth, is it possible to forget rules sometimes?
Life would be so much easier.
Congrats granny and all the best. Give them your best smile and OFFER
2007-02-12 02:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by LadyK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect after a couple of weeks of caring for the baby, your child and his/her spouse will be more than ready for you to give them a little break. I'd offer - just let them know you're available - then wait to be asked.
2007-02-12 02:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This would not be considered a rule, it would be considered a guilt-trip head-game if you would like to offer your services, but didn't ask, but resented the parents for not asking you. People can't read minds. They might think that since you haven't offered, that you are unwilling to babysit.
I'm sure it's ok to say something like "Let me know if you need me to watch junior for you". But ONLY if you really want to.
2007-02-12 02:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just offer. It certainly would make most parents happy.
2007-02-12 14:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋