It has been a month since my ex-gf and I broke up. We were friends for 1.5years and dated there-after for another 1.5 years doing everything together. The problem was that I won her over from her ex-bf to finally be with her. It was a fight, but I did it, because I knew that I was the better man. The problem was she was still in love with her ex. Her feelings were very mixed, deep down she knew she was never going to get back with her ex and that hurt her. But we were happy together most of the time, things were great. But then she began to get angry about small things I did and it affected me even though I loved her and didnt think anything of it. I carried on spending time with her. Then a month ago she said, I think we should go our separate ways, I didnt believe her saying things to her like your crazy. Well the next night she actually kissed another guy I hadnt even seen, only heard of. It hurts because I loved her so much, but what do I do to move on?
2007-02-11 17:47:34 · 7 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you won her over from the ex, but did she make the move to you out of want, or by your persistence? If she had an unclear mind, and took the road of comfort at the time, then you most likely were an escape. A cusion. A place of comfort while she figures out what she needs to do.
The anger at small things is her beginning of the end of your relationship. They will criticize most of the good that you do. They will find all of the wrongs in all of you rights.
I had an ex that would start saying I have a driking problem, and gave me that look whenever had a drink. NO-I don't have a drinking problem, but she created me as one in her head to give her an out. It's easier to run from someone you dislike, rather than somone you really are for.
I would stay away, because she will burn you. Most likely un-intentionally, but it still can hurt. That is a way for them to hide theirYou are too readilly available to her, so she knows she can have you whenever she wants. There is no sense of urgency on her part, so she will use and abuse you.
2007-02-11 18:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. You can write so you're not stupid. But you said "I knew that I was the better man." Don't you think that that one may have come around and bitten you on the tail. Maybe her ex boyfriend would be having these troubles now.
Seriously!
Women are strange creatures. I'm sixty, have been friends with many and loved many.
With some just start looking somewhere else - you could use the sob story of "how women are cruel to men".
If you think the one that gave you the flick is worth the trouble maybe if you accept that you might have been taking her for granted might give you a second chance. Every woman must be complimented every day. Flowers must come completely unexpectedly (preferably stolen).
Washing dishes is better than arranging candles.
So tell her what an inconsiderate chap you have always been and ask for a second chance to date her then perhaps be boy friend girlfriend. Good luck friend.
2007-02-11 18:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by salubrious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to stop the hurt. But really, a month is not very much time. The more you were in love, the longer it takes to get over her. The first thing to do is stop the denial; admit it to yourself. It is over, and you must move on with your life and be thankful for the time you had together. No matter what you think now, if it didn't work out it is because there is somebody else who is right for each of you. You have to be open to let her meet you.
Your ex said it was not working out, meaning she realizes there is a better fit for each of you. Now, if you really care about her you want her to be happy, and that means her being with her soulmate even if it is not you.
Keep her pleasant memories, but realize this relationship is over, and move on to the next. During this healing time now, it can help to stay active doing things you like. Keep your mind busy with positive things. If you never see her again, eventually the drug called love will wear off and you will find someone who is even better for you. When you do find this person, you will look back at this recent relationship and be thankful that one of you had the courage to end it.
2007-02-11 18:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by arizona wolfman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not run from the pain but you can learn from it and yes you can move on she has and so should you STOP dwelling on the good times of the relationship instead when you have to think about her think about what you did not like about her and how she did not appreciate your love and that she does nolonger deserve your love and always remeber she will look back and regret losing you and you will have moved on to a better love in your life be strong hold you head up life will get better with time if you let it!
2007-02-11 17:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what your saying is that you stole her from someone else, and then she moved on when she realized what you did. Your a complete jerk for stealing her in the first place and you got exactly what you deserve. I hope it hurts you a LONG time and maybe you should consider how this feels next time you decide to steal a girl from someone else. You're in no way the better man, your just the bigger jerk.
2007-02-11 18:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-07 00:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait . . . . It takes a long time . . .
2007-02-11 17:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋