I'm a mother-in-law for the first time. What are the rules here? Perhaps I should wait till I'm invited. What do most children expect from the in-laws?
2007-02-11 17:45:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
As long as my mother-in-law called before dropping by I was happy. I think that it is great that you care so much about not intruding on them, just be yourself!
2007-02-11 17:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over the years, Mother in law and mother would drop hints.
Life is hectic most of the time as a young married couple starting out in life.
And things just get away with you...
So i found dropping hints helped.. I could then give an idea of when and where and make the time.
Although i dont like it when they give notice as they are heading towards your house. thats a little too pushy..
i think the worse case was for me was.
(pick me up from the airport i just arrived).
2007-02-12 02:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a tricky balance that you have to maintain there|
Sometimes in-laws mean to help, but they are actually interfering|
But you do have to be there when they really need your help|
What I would say is that in most cases, wait to be invited, but if there is a real problem that only your resorces and knowledge can take care of, then do step it|
But do it discretely, and only to the extent that you can be a real help|
Never do what they can do for themselves, for to do such a thing would be insulting and demeaning to them|
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2007-02-12 06:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, I hate the pop-in, and would not appreciate it from my in-laws. I don't mind when they ask to come over but as long as there is enough time to clean the house before they get there.
Perhaps if you don't get an invitation, you could ask to come over sometime, however give them plenty of notice just in case.
2007-02-12 02:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the invitation, but if the event is on next day, open up to your own daughter/son about it (expect for some little drama here). But the best advice is to be open.
2007-02-12 01:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by rixenstjohn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly just wait for an invite or maybe a suggestion. like "maybe we should have dinner this week sometime" and if they follow up with you there is your invite. I know with my mother-in-law shes annoying sometime but we do things together so I think that it depends on your relationship with your child and their spouse.
2007-02-12 01:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Desire` 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope that they are sane. LOL Are you talking just dropping by or a party of some sort. Either way ask your child how they would like you to proceed. I like when my mom or in-laws call a head but that is me. Non the less your not mind reader so just ask.
2007-02-12 02:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, crash the party. Its expected of you.
2007-02-12 02:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call and see if they are home before you stop by
2007-02-14 08:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by jerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋