i cant get over my exboyfriend. we were together for two years & it was wonderful up until the last few months of our relationship. we were madly in love with each other but at some point, he said he stopped loving me. it has almost been two years since we broke up and its been a total roller coaster. since our break up we had been unofficially on & off & i didnt really can enough about myself to stop this cycle. also it didnt help that he would randomly hint that he still cared about me in that way. a few months ago he told me that he still thought about us getting back together and that he always thought that if we did pursue a relationship again that he figured it would be forever. to top it all off, he said that he thought the chances of this happening were very good. now, however he has a new girlfriend and says he's very happy, & im still in the same spot as before. i know he wasnt using, & i would explain if i werent out of typing room :) how the hell do i get over him?!
2007-02-11 17:26:35 · 10 answers · asked by How Sweet It Is 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know, it's probably going to be hard, but maybe you should try someone new too. If it is meant for the two of you to be together it will happen. So just try to enjoy life and not get bogged down with thoughts of "what used to be."
2007-02-11 17:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by lolli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only healer ... and sometimes it takes a while to get over someone you cared so deeply for. The truth is, it's over, so start a new life for yourself. Do things with friends, family, and by yourself. Learn to like and appreciate 'you'. It's not going to fix the feelings but at least you are on the road to healing ... If you have anger then it's time to accept it's finished and your anger is not going to change a thing. It sounds like he led you on a bit. It's unfortunate, but the damage is done. Learn from it ... life is full of these lessons and they do make one stronger in the long run. Good luck!
2007-02-11 17:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by daffodil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no matter what reason you chose to believe he wasn't using you, he was totally using you!! If one of your friends came to you and told you everything you just said above, what would you say to her????
The only way to get over this Barney is to find a new man! But don't go looking for one, just get back out there with your friends and have some laughs - eventually, and when you least expect it, you'll find someone new.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2007-02-11 17:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl..... if you realy think he was not using you, you need to think again..... sorry, but just telling how I see it... I am to old to play such games and I detest those who play it..... He was using your effections for him...... he played you like a fine tuned violin...... and you fell for it hook, line and sinker...... the way to get over him is to take a long hard and honest look back at the relationship and all the times he came back into your life and all the reasons and excuses he gave for doing so..... and the way he is now..... He says he is happy ??? take him at his word and toss that boy to the wolves.... and I mean this, take a long and HONEST look back..... I think you will have a true eye onpener and a heart closer !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God bless
2007-02-11 17:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im kind of in the same spot, im taking it one day at a time im not ready for another relationship but we just brok up a week ago it sounds like you've been seeing him on and off so does that mean you never found anyone new? it might be time to move on and forget about him. beleave me i know its hard
2007-02-11 17:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by comacati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to deasl with a problem like this is to turn a new leaf. time to treat yourself and your closest friends to a shopping spree. make yourself over. pull your peices back into place. go to a club. meet some new guys. be GOOD TO YOUURSELF!!! the only way you can heal is if you leave your past behind you.
2007-02-11 17:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by joe schmoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is to stop all talk with him, txt etc as long as you
are in this back and forth situation it will be hard to let go.
he with someone else but still talking to you. he playing with
your emotions. time to get off the roller coster ride once and for
all, time to move on. he your past, time to get a future. he has
it your time.
2007-02-11 17:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes alot of time and patience i still love my first love and always will. they hold a special place in your heart and that is where they remain but you do go on with life and find a true love that can and will have you head over heels just be patient
2007-02-11 17:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy. Focus your time and energy on finding yourself and making you happy. When you do, you will no longer want him or think that you need him Trust me.
2007-02-11 17:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by jweggie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say, to get over someone, get a new someone. i know that's hard, but there's always someone, somewhere, that's MADE for you.
2007-02-11 17:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by brownchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋