Ok I have finished taxes, we are both getting about $1500 back and my girlfriend wants to go to Vegas. She wants to go without me because I do not like strip clubs, gambling, and the enviroment Vegas brings. I said I would go have fun with her and try new things even if I didn't want to do them. But I wasn't going to let her go there by herself. Whats going on here ? We have been together for 2 years, have been happy and content.
2007-02-11 17:19:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's just a girlfriend. You have nothing to say about it. I would hope she's going with a girlfriend or two...Vegas is not a place to be alone....and female.
2007-02-11 17:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ralph the Sage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sort out your feelings on why you are unhappy that she wants to go. I doubt anyone here could tell you. Is it a matter of your not trusting her? Be honest with yourself. You can't get past this unless you are brutally honest. Are you concerned that something may happen or that she may get swept up in the moment while with the girls in a strip club? Do you care that she stuffs a few dollar bills down some guys pants while knocking back a few drinks if you know that it's just that and nothing more and that your girl will always come back to you? Or is it that you feel hurt that she would want to go somewhere this extravagant without you? Do you wander what is it that she is looking for with her girlfriends that you aren't giving her?
Please don't take offense at what what I'm saying. However, for the sake of your relationship, please think hard and identify what exactly you are feeling and why. Then talk to her.
2007-02-12 01:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think the issue here is that you don't trust her.
Why won't you let her go by herself? Yes, Vegas is gambling, strip clubs, and whatnot, but so what? That doesn't mean your girlfriend will be cheating on you. And it doesn't mean she is not happy :)
Maybe I misread your question. Maybe you do trust her, but have another concern. In any case, talk it out with her. People want to try out new things, to experience excitement again. After 2 years together with you, she might just want to feel independence and the occasional adrenaline rush--which Vegas also offers!
So if you don't plan to let her go by herself, and you don't expect to have fun at Vegas, then you need to address the issue. Is it the relationship? Your girlfriend's actions?
It's been 2 years. In the end, you have to let her go anyway. If you try to restrain her, it will make things worse.
Good luck! Again, if there are underlying issues, talk it out with her :)
2007-02-12 01:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She saw the comercials and no doubt wants to have a girls night out. Maybe you are happy but is she? Really, people tell you what they think you want to hear.... Thing is you should let her go and go where you want to go yourself and when you get back you will have one of two things happen, either she will be happy and you and her will stay together for a long time or she will break up with you....I do not mean to be cruel but do you really want to wake up in 5 or 6 years to find out that you have wasted all that time with someone that wanted to be free? You never know she might get to vegas and miss you and call and ask you to come be with her.. If she does do not say no and be on the next plane to Vegas, Either way you should let her go... you know the saying if you love someone set them free, if they come back to you they are yours to keep and if they do not it was never ment to be. Horrible and cheesy saying but very true.
2007-02-12 01:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by sphericaluniverse 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend let me go to vegas by myself. Mainly because he couldn't afford and i really wanted to go. The thing is he trusted me and i trust him. I didn't do anything that would make my bf worry but i still had a blast.
If you trust her then let her go..
2007-02-12 01:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey Daniel, what's with the "let my girlfriend"? I thought that men and women were equal, even if they were married. So if she wants to go without you, why not? What are you worried about? Is she going to do something she couldn't do at home? Of course not. Worst case...she does just whatever it is you're afraid she will do without you...so what? You might consider the nature of your relationship. Does she honor you? Do you honor her?
2007-02-12 01:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Let her go. My wife let me go to Vegas by myself. IT was for a Meat Loaf Concert. It rocked hard.
2007-02-12 01:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's a lot of great shows and tours to see. I would certainly go with her. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-12 01:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Geoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go what happens in Vegas...well you know the rest.
2007-02-12 01:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by sarah c 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
there is more to Vegas than strip club and casinos !
2007-02-12 01:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by nebben76 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋