Are you just going to tell them what it is? Or are you going to explain condoms, or stds, or maybe an abstinence only version but still explaining what sex is?
2007-02-11 17:08:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
About sexuality you have to talk with your child for the whole his/her life,not in a certain age to start the big conversation about birds and bees.After you have watched a movie or read a book or after any reason which has made your little child ask you about sexuality,is an ideal opportunity to talk about and reveal the sexuality world step by step.These days children hear about sex at the age between 4 and 6-7 from their schoolmates who have older brothers or sisters.We have to use the opportunity to talk with our children about that for their whole life.That's how our message will reach their hearts.
2007-02-11 18:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Livia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the schools do a pretty crappy job of sex education. I'll probably start talking to my kids about sex when they are 11. I dont want to push everything on them right away just some of the basics. By 13 though they get the full deal, learning about condoms, how to put them on right, what STD's are and what they are like. I'm not gonna teach the abstinence bullshit because it doesnt help. When I was in high school over 90% of the people in my class signed abstinence pledges. Of those 90% about 65% had sex before they got out of high school. Theres no way to stop kids from having sex, but if they are, they need to know how to keep from getting pregnant.
2007-02-11 21:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are developing a lot faster nowadays (I know I did and was completely confused about sex until it was explained in middle school..but that was AFTER my body had developed.) I spent about 2 years confused about the changes and feelings I was having, so, with my child, I'm going to start the talk about puberty and sex together, since they are intertwined. I plan on mentioning little things over time, probably at around 9 or whenever they start to change a bit physically. I wouldn't put it into one long lecture, which might bore them, but make it a series of chats. When they reach middle school, I'll mention all the methods of birth control and the dangers of sex. It's sad that I feel the need to start early, but I've known lots of sexually active 12-13 year olds. Of course, I hope on prolonging my children's sex lives by instilling within them certain morals and values that my parents had instilled in me. I want them to be happy and young as long as possible, but to also know that there are changes awaiting their growing bodies.
2007-02-12 01:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talked to my oldest two at 8, and gave them some age appropriate books for reference. My six year old and four year old know that sex is something grown ups in love do to make a baby, that the baby grows in the woman's belly until it's ready to come out, and then it will be born. I wasn't expected to tell my four year old so soon, but I'm having twins in January and that's what I told them. I'll give them more in depth information when they're 7 or 8.
2016-05-23 23:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a one-time, all encompassing conversation is too overwhelming for kids, i think. at least that is how i felt when my mom sat me down for mine. it was the last place that i wanted to be. I think it's important to start talking when your kids are nearing puberty. since their bodies are changing, it helps to explain to them what is going on, and why. nothing too lengthy, and encourage them to ask questions ANYTIME. By the time they are going to high school, i'd cover the basics on protection and why it's important and that abstinence is the only guarantee. if you're open and honest about it, your kids will come to you too.
2007-02-12 01:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by eeyoung03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 13
2007-02-11 17:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by kumiko2420 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure I'll know it when the time comes.That's the best time.Explain what it's about and what could happen if not done right.
If I see or hear my kid saying or looking at stuff or even if I don't I might ask him/her some questions.I might look for books that may give ways to handle how to talk to them.
2007-02-11 17:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Matty G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking about sex with your children should not be done in only 1 conversation . . .it's an ongoing conversation with open doors. I start discussing sexual things ( puberty, etc . . .) around 10-11. It's when their bodies begin to change.
2007-02-11 17:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by Who Knew! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say when they r mature not little kids that laugh at it and think its no big deal and i think what would happen if u told little kids they would get the idea that its ok to have sex. no its not. start talking to them when they r in 7th grade i think 6th grade is to young. dad told me they r still immature. its way to young and whats the point in teaching little kids about sex when they arent goin to do it anyways i could be wrong.
2007-02-11 17:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they pretty much start in school at around 7th grade, we tallked to my step daughters around then but just basic stuff and as they got older around 13-14 talked more in depth about things
2007-02-11 19:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by JoAnne H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋