What does the bible say about.....Parents who abuse their power?

Question

About parents who are religious (and so are their kids!) yet everytime of of their children (who is 19 now) screws up, (without meaning to!) always gets the "obey your parents" line thrown in their face...is what Im asking is what does the bible say about PARENTS who use the bible to judge their children? Obviously they are not ALWAYS RIGHT (these parents I am talking about are only out for themself, they just use the obey your parents line as an excuse!) So what does the bible say about parents who abuse their authority I guess is what Im asking PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME! ANY KIND OF VERSE WOULD HELP :(

Answer 1

Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

4And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

As you might expect, there isn't a lot in the Bible about parents responsibilties to children, or respecting children. Most of it's the other way around.

Answer 2

I can't give you a verse but any parent that does that, will be dealt with. They're using religion to try to rule a person. Just because someone is your child, that does not mean you can push them around and use religion as an excuse.

Instead of giving them a verse to go and read, you should tell them that if they were truly Christian, they'd realize that all people are bound to mess up and they themselves aren't free of sin. They are not to judge others, even their children. This 19 year old needs to get a backbone and get away from their toxic parents. These people are not interested in living right. They just want to dictate through religion. They need to get a life and realize that using the word of God for your own agenda is much worse than not knowing the word at all. Everyone deserves respect, love & care.

Answer 3

"Suffer the little children to come unto me" - I don't know the reference to this verse but I've always believed it to mean that children should be tolerated. I guess the point Jesus was trying to make was if they can't even suffer their children, how could they cope with an enemy (to whom they are supposed to turn the other cheek).

Otherwise ... is there an option to move out? How many times has your parent (I assume you are being specific here) said to you "when you get your own place, you can do whatever you want". Just watch that one though. When I moved out and my Mum (a SDA) came visiting, she still tried to exert her will. The whole "honour your Mother and father" crap. But seriously, at 19 they should be encouraging a bit of self-exploration, I know I would be (if I was your parent, I am old enough to be).

Answer 4

Dear John Doe123,

Colossians 4:20-21 says (20) Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing in the Lord. (21) Fathers, do not provoke your children lest they become discouraged.

John- these are two separate commandments- so first it reminds us that as we will be judged for our actions (your parents will be judged for their actions). Your job is to obey (except when it violates the commandments of God- like if your parents tell you do something immoral or something that is harmful to you).

Parents are supposed to raise their children in the instruction of the Lord- but that also means that they themselves ought to be living examples of what that means to follow God. If your parents expect you to obey the Bible- they must hold the Bible to some high degree of authority and respect to demand that for you.

I suggest prayer, i also suggest possibly some third party counseling or mediation if things are that bad between you and your parents. Feel free to email me with your individual situation and i'll try to help: [e-mail] (i may not respond right away tonight- because it's nearly 2 a.m. and i gotta sleep) but i'll definitely reply and do my best to help.

Kindly,

Nickster

Answer 5

While the bible does say we should obey our parents and that means all ages, your parents are not suppose to provoke you. Because they are sewing a seed which is a bad seed if they are not being responsible and looking at their own mistakes first. Liike everyone said on here definely look it up in the bible. Once you learn fully what it says and means you can fight fire with fire. Then they can't say you being disobedient, cause its coming from the bible.

Answer 6

Ephesians 6:4

Answer 7

Jesus said anyone who distresses a child should be thrown into the sea with a millstone around their neck. these parents you describe are very lacking in imagination and smarts. they just want to use authority, pretty pitiful basis for raising kids.

honor thy mother and father is not the same as obey your parents. 19 year olds don't need to obey their parents if they are not living under their roof.

Please help yourself by telling these people that their arguments are very weak and that you intend to live your own life and you really regret that all they did was try to brainwash you instead of teaching you how to live your life.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Parents who abuse their power?

your question is very general? it sounds like you are frustrated with your parents disagree with them on some issues.

we are always to Honor our parents regardles of our age. this is the first commandment with promise.

No person is always right, and at 19 one may think they have all the answers and have the world by the tail........

but in another 6yrs they discover its thier own tail in hand ..... not the worlds..... they will also have more questions then answers.

do we some how get dumber? no, we get wiser as lifeteaches us through hard knocks.

Parents are always going to have a certain level of authority over you. ou should always respect the, you dont have to agree or adhere as an adult child but we must always render respect. if you dont respect your parents how can you respect God who gave your parents authority over you?

In any case that you disagree with your parents you must search the word for the God answer, parents can & do miss it. but remeber that you, God willing wil be a parent too. the seed you sow today with your parents will come back when your kids are 19 & know more than any NASA.

Look at Noah & his sons. when Noah got drunk from his vinyard one of his sons saw Noah's nakedness & proclaimed his fathers error which resulted in God cursing His son (Noah'a Grand-son).
the other two brothers went in backwards with a garment to cover their father so they would not see Noah's nakedness.

Love covers a multitude of sin, but judgement destroys a person for one mistake.

pray , read the word & seek Godly consul from a trusted leader in the church someone who can guide you in how to walk in love when you need it most. each case will be different but grace &mercy will always be the answer. read the book of Timothy & all of pauls letters to Timothy. Timothy was a young Pastor over older men with a lot of wisdom & authority. Paul instructed his pupil on how to pastor &guide these older authority figures.

If you trust God, then when your folks miss it, don't you know God will hold them accountable. but my friend if you rebel against them and dishonor your relationship with your parents God can not bless you in sin. Funny thing when we complain to God about how someone has mistreated us God always put the focus back on us and how we could redeem the situation.

God loves you & will protect you. Let God be your advocate, this is very hard to live out brother at times but if we are defending ourselves then God won't. when we stop fighting.... God starts!

Answer 10

GOD give us the blessing and one of the greatest blessing is our child being parent the LORD give us the knowledge to learn how to communicate to our child.We as parents is their first teacher so they learn from us if we show them good they will do good it we fail to train them.That is our resposibility also but we cant use force because we are the parents we have the right to be a commander in their life no we can not do that.Always remember God said parents your child and to the child he said child honor your father.Just keep in praying that King of King and the LORD of LORD will guide you always