Okay, so I've been talking to this woman for a couple of weeks, and everything seems to be going well. We've been out to eat twice and she's called me out of the blue and invited me over to her house to talk before I have to go to work. She wants me to stop by her work tomorrow so I can meet her boss. She always calls when she says she's going to and I think that she's attracted to me. There's a slight problem though: I think that she's absolutely amazing and am definately interested in her, but sometimes I get the feeling that she's more interested in friendship than dating. I know that I just need to talk to her and find out, but I'm not sure how to approach the topic without either offending her or looking like a complete idiot. Anyone have some suggestions on how to bring it up?
2007-02-11 16:46:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best ways to approach this is to ask her out on a date and see what would be her answer and Wednesday would be a great day to make the date. It would be hitting the nail on the head. Her reaction to you asking her out on a date on Valentines day as well as her answer would tell you everything that you need to know. You would definitely know if she had made plans already and if she is currently involved. If she isn't interested and says that she want to be friends then you totally turn it around and say that you didn't have any plans for Valentines day and you hate the day so you just wanted some company since you are single and all.There you have it all in one you found out where you stand and you put yourself on the market!
Good Luck!
2007-02-11 18:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just come out and ask. You might not like the answer you get, but it will be better than having hopes of something more IF she just wants to be friends.
I wonder thou, what makes you have the idea that she just wants a friendship? Is she seeing other people, or talk about other guys?
You can ask, are we going down the road of being friends, or are we going down a bf/gf road? And tell her you are good with either answer. Good luck.
2007-02-11 16:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start out by letting her know that u are a mature enough person to know that everyone u date is not going to turn into a serious relationship, and with that being said, just ask her. Just let her know that u like her a lot and enjoy spending time with her but ask her how does she feel abt u. It cld be a case where she's shy or maybe afraid of how u feel abt her. Women appreciate honesty. If she does like u enough to be in a relationship good for u, if not then move on to someone else. You will be glad she didn't waste your time.
2007-02-11 16:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by ajones27272000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step up to the plate and swing before you fall into the friend zone my brotha. I'm sure she knows you're interested in being more than just friends, you're a guy. Guys don't just have random friendships with females without sexuality coming into play at some point. Trust me, she knows, she's just waiting for you to make a move.
2007-02-11 16:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're skimming the edge of the FriendZone, Bra!
But you said you guys talk quite a bit, so why not bring it up like you did here? Read what you wrote here and say it to her just like that - what have you got to lose??
You aren't going to offend her, because she's already enjoying your company. So, the only way to find out which direction your relationship is heading is to ask her... so take a deep breath and do it!
Good Luck, Bra!
Aloha!!
2007-02-11 16:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can be the judge of this one. Some chicks need alot of time and space to develop a trust and/or respect thing. If shes sort of in a bad way show your interest in a sly way until she comes around, if shes all go, go for it. Feel her out, what she needs, her body should tell you if youre really paying attention to the signs.
2007-02-11 17:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
merely ask what she has been doing this entire time. she supplies a good answer then confer along with her frivolously and be greater of a collection then a lecture. i made that mistake many situations in my first relationship. i became being to forward while i became extremely merely attempting to assist... yet while she would not have a good excuse then be greater assertive . ask her why she cant discover the time to talk to you greater. i propose you adult adult males are bf gf top? could propose theres some form of love there. and if so the two one in all you're able to artwork annoying to be certain eachother. no longer purely one.
2016-10-02 00:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you talk to her, remember your nickname. Honesty! That why if things work out, you got yourself a gf, if things don't you won't have any regrets. Tell her the friendship you had for her is now something more..and you would like to know if the feeling is mutal.
2007-02-11 16:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen the movie "Just Friends" with Ryan Reynolds in a fat suit? you have to get out of the friends zone before it is too late. tell her shes beautiful. hold her hand when you're walking together and go watch that movie cause i said so.
2007-02-11 16:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by nanabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk, it seems like it is a friendship deal if shes introducing you to co-workers. It all depends on how she introduces you and how she is with you in front of them.
2007-02-11 16:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋