I had been dating a man for the past 1 and a half years. I love him very much. I think he loves me. But our relationship has been filled with rocky times, arguments, etc. He just broke up with me and I am heartbroken. I am so lost & sad. I don't know what to do to get him back or what to do to get over him. I have never been so sad in my life. I have even thought about suicide. Can someone please give me some advice? Please keep me in your prayers. THank you
2007-02-11 16:45:08 · 15 answers · asked by Courtney L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first change your avatar mood.
and well i'd say hard times happen to everyone u just gotta deal with them. things get better eventually
2007-02-11 16:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by jonsinher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you kill yourself you definitely wont get him back. As long as you live there is hope. Most people just need some time. Lay back be cool and give him a week or even two. In the meantime, read a book, take up a hobby or go out and redecorate your boudoir. Time heals all wounds. Don't act psycho like you can't live without this guy because you were doing fine a year and a half ago and you will continue to if you maintain you. If he thinks that you are not concerned he will be back even quicker. As long as you whine and plead, he knows that he has got you in the palm of his hands. Don't be spineless or you are bound to get crushed. Keep your head up!
2007-02-12 00:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Unsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please don't threaten your own life because of this! You don't know me and I don't know you, but I have also felt the heartbreak and the pain. Many people have! And I was in a relationship for HALF the time you were--I thought I was in love, too. I was deeply in love. But he broke my heart and I thought I would never move on.
But guess what? I told myself I needed to be strong--I relied on my friends and family, who helped me move on. It will take TIME. Lots of it! Stay strong and have hope for the future. If he has broken up with you, it means he feels it is time for him to move on. So there is no option but for you to move on as well. Again, all I can say is that it will take time, probably even months.
Keep your head up, though--who knows? Maybe someone else, someone even better, will come along. I found someone after all that time during the period after my first breakup. It took a long time, and it happened when I wasn't even thinking about being in a relationship. So stay strong, girl--show that ex of yours that you are a fierce woman who will overcome any obstacle that comes your way, and you won't let some guy turn your life upside down like that.
Good luck!
2007-02-12 01:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your broken heart. Take some time apart before you consider working things out. Take a step back and really look at what did not work in your relationship.
Unfortunately only time can heal your broken heart and help you get over him. I know you are hurting badly.
Suicide is not the answer. If you are considering that, then maybe that is a sign that you are not ready or strong enough to get back with him or even have a new relationship.
Maybe going to a therapist can help you work through this pain. Also, spending time with family & friends can help you too.
2007-02-12 01:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to keep telling yourself these things
1: EVERYONE, ...EVERYONE in the world get absolutely devistatedly heartbroken at least once in there life.usually way more than once, i have been heartbroken at least 3 times , i wanted to die each time its not a nice feeling, it is the worst, but every one gets through it.
2: Remember time is the only thing that can really heal, and it WILL get better, each day will become easier and easier
3: you must keep telling yourself that arent you happy it ended now insead of 5 years time? you could have wasted years and years of your life with this guy, but he was honest and stopped that from happening.
now you have more time to find the perfect man of yor dreams that you can spend the rest of your life with.
4: if you really want ( i do this ) Is write down all the problems that we had in the relationship and i change myself to become the person that she wanted and always dreamed of, i also start working out heaps, get a nice tan,new clothes, and look my absolute best and DO NOT RING YOUR EX, OR CONTACT THEM IN ANY WAY. PRETEND U DONT CARE AND THAT YOU ARE HAPPY, JUST KEEP WORKING ON YOURSELF , YOUR TRAITS, AND YOUR BEAUTY. THEY WILL COME CRAWLING BACK YOU WATCH . THEY DO!! and knowing that they will come crawling back helps your depression alot, and the best part is, normally when you have yourself all together and you look and feel really good, they come crawling back and you dont actually want them anymore..This really pisses them off its great..
5: think: you can go out and party whenever you please!! YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT!!!!
6- ALSO IT IS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND BEEN HURT THAN TO BE HURT YOUR WHOLE LIFE BY NEVER HAVING FIND LOVE EVER..THINK OF THOSE PEOPLE THAT HAVE NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND, NEVER WITNESSED LOVE, YOU HAVE!
EACH RELATIONSHIP BUILDS YOUR EXPERIENCE TO CREATE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP NEXT TIME.
ITS ALL A PART OF LIFE
DONT STRESS
he is the fool.
2007-02-12 01:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not the only man on earth. C'mon cheer up. I think you deserve someone better. Just leave him alone and keep your self-esteem. You will feel better after some time. Try to talk with your friends, go out or do jogging (while you cry) that's what I did before. being sad is only in your head. I will pray for you... accept the fact that you aren't meant for each other. Good luck,,,,
2007-02-12 00:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Arianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD LUV no one is worth killing yourself over. Your heart is broken right now but it will heal. Ring your girlfriends and ask them to bring the tissues and the sad movie and cry yourselves silly. Know that his will pass I know you dont want to hear or believe it but it will get better. Think of all the things worse than your pain people still survive and you will also. To consider taking your life is act of desperation but it is often final and it effects many left behind ( I know this for a fact and I see the effects every day, That pain never ends ) Be strong you can do this you are a WOMAN. There will be a greater love one day. Please be kind to yourself.
2007-02-12 00:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's silly!!! Why would you waste your time on someone that doesn't feel the same way about you? Call up your friend's and hang out!! It's OK if you talk on the phone all night. Go wake your parents/roommate/best friend up and talk to them!! Get to some one you can talk to!! Being by your self will only make things worse. If you don't have anyone you can call then go to wal-mart and look for organic apples and eat the whole bag!! That will make you feel better!! Sound crazy but try it!!! Only apples!! Not M&M's!!
2007-02-12 00:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by mirohama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you feel as you do, but thought of killing your self
is not the answer, it hurt to love someone one and the relationship
end, but life does go on. and it will get better as time go on
but you will see that there is a silver lining at the end of the
trail so just hang in there and dont give up because life
will get better for you. but i will pray for you, but dont give up.
2007-02-12 00:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey, no man is worth suicide, beleive me. if ANYONE knows about bad relationsships, its me. my last boyfrind dumped me over myspace through a friend. i thought i love him. i thouht he loved me. i though we were always gonna be together. but listen when you give yourself completely to a guy...what happens when he leaves? if you are someone else and they leave...who are you? you WILL recover...i promise. just have fun! take this opporunity to treat yourself and your girlfriends to the mall. have a blast. buy new clothes. get a makeover. be completely different and start over. it will be much better, i promise. i hope everything works out =]
2007-02-12 00:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by joe schmoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful you have that man out of your life. i just broke up with a man i cared about but it was not a healthy relationship as yours sounds... comfort yourself with a pint of ben & jerry's chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream. things will be better soon kiddo
2007-02-12 00:54:04 · answer #11 · answered by nanabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋