Yesterday well Saturday I went to a wedding it was a old best friend of my boyfriend pluse this was my first wedding i have ever been to in my life time.... it really got me thinking... at first when i got there to the reception i was think about how nerves i would be to get married but after about 10 mins of being there was thinking of me and boyfriend one day getting married.... some time back we did go out and were looking at rings... and a while back i heard from my boyfriends brother that he did get the ring and it was going to happen on New Year but things came up and it never hapened.... so my question is how can i suggest for him to ask me with out really saying any thing to him.... we have only been together for 10 months coming up..... i know he is the ONE!
2007-02-11 16:38:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is a wonderful modern age we live in. And this means that you can ask him without feeling like a schmuck. Ask him, if he says no, or it seems weird, then let it breathe.
2007-02-11 16:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm. I know you may be thinking he is THE ONE, but you should wait longer. How long have you known him? It can include the dating time. But if the time that you have known him is only 10 months, you should really think about it--10 months is not even a year, and it is extremely difficult to know you want to marry someone when it has not even been a year.
So the "answer" to this question (there is no true answer, though, since emotions and what we think of as love has no time limit) would be to use your MIND and not just your HEART. In the beginning, we ALL think it's love, but to be realistic (and don't take it the wrong way) usually it is our feelings and emotions and hormones that lead our decisions. So after a year or two, those may change in a good or bad way. They may grow deeper or they may slowly fade.
That is why I recommend staying with your boyfriend and taking things slowly. I mean, I'm sure you agree it's better to take it slowly than rush into a marriage. Also, you have to wait for him to ask you, and not hint or "suggest for him". It has to be his decision as well. But even if he does ask you, you should think about it. Marriage, after all, is a sacred lifelong commitment (or at least, it's supposed to be). Again, if you have only known him for 10 months, you should take some more time to get to know him even better, to be 100% sure it is your mind as well as your heart telling you he will make a good husband.
Good luck--and hey, if it makes you feel better, you said he already bought a ring! I'm happy for you--wait for the moment. Btw, GIRLS can propose to GUYS, too XD
2007-02-12 00:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just talk with him about the future and what the others expectations are. Weddings are great, pretty and all that but hey its only one day and the rest can be hard work sometimes. You could always say if you are going to ever buy me a diamond it better be a big one and Im hoping you have a savings plan because for the wedding I want 200 of my closest friends flown to the Arctic circle so we can get married on top of the world hahahahahahaha sorry prob not much help
2007-02-12 00:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be something that can backfire on you if not hadled properly. I can see you have put some thought into this. It is good that you and your boyfriend have an open look when it came to looking at rings before. But do not rush things. Everything happens for a reason. The time will happen, I would not play head games though, if you feel it is the best way to come out and ask, then do so. I myself waited. I waited for my husband to ask me, though we were not together for long before he did,, but we had the talk and looked as well. Things happened and nothing came about. But in the right moment it did. Just be just the supportive girlfriend and love him and treat him right, everything will happen when it is meant to. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 00:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Krystal L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Listen to what it has to say. You said that you know that 'he' is the 'one'. So, he has to feel the same way towards you too. So, either just give him some time and maybe plan for a special dinner on the 14th or just nicely talk to him about it. Make sure you two are open to each other.
I hope things work out great for you!
2007-02-12 00:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Raise The Bahr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a corny person... id probably get him to watch some sappy, girly, wedding/love movie and during the wedding scene make yur comment. *in cute girly voice(OMG like i so cant wait until i get married. Ive been dreaming of it since i was a little girl )*
well if it didnt help ya i hope it at least made you think to yourself "man this guys a retard".
2007-02-12 00:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to your boyfriend. When the time comes, he will propose to you on his own free will instead of you hinting to him. Don't pressure him into giving you the ring. Enjoy the dating scene a little longer. 10 months is rather early to be thinking of marriage......
2007-02-12 00:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already knows he is the one, and you are sincere in your love then you should voice out to him. Otherwise you have to wait for it. In true love there is no secret between boyfriend and girlfriend. Pls think use your brain and do things your heart say.
2007-02-12 00:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kuna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have cold feet, just let him know that you love him and that you hope that you & he will be together forever. If nothing happens soon just ask, tell him that you need to know if he feels the same as you do. Good luck.
2007-02-12 00:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me and my man were going to get married but he saw some kind of flaw he didnt like, i asked him and he told me what it was and i changed it, maybe its not the case in your situation, but i think you should ask, just be truthfull and most of the time you will get an honest answer
2007-02-12 00:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by foolish_love_haze@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋